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To the two people I'm out to irl, I'm a non-binary aroace, though I've talked about the genderfluid aspect of it a bit to one of those people. 

 

My true identity is far more complicated. The easiest part to explain would probably be my romantic orientation, I'm aromantic, but it's somewhere between cupioromantic and bellusromantic, as I still don't know if I'm comfortable with romantic relationships. As for my sexual orientation, I think the best way to describe it is sex-adverse (kind of leaning towards sex-repulsed) greyish-omnisexual with no particular preference, but more frequently attracted to women and people who present feminine regardless of gender. My gender is genderfluid/trigenderflux (multiflux) non-binary, it shifts between different levels of librafeminine, paraboy, and a weird one that's kind of agender, but also not (?), I call this my "base gender" because I feel it the most prominently. To stretch it out even more, I'll toss in ambiamorous with a preference for QPRs, panplatonic, omniaesthetic, demi-pansensual, and demi-panalterous (funny how I have to have an emotional bond before I can desire said emotional bond). 

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Janus the Fox

Oof yeah, Ill consider this like a game.

 

Asexual

Aromantic

Non-aesthetic

Aplatonic

Asensual

Orientated Bi

Sex-indifferent

Sex-Neutral

No-libido

Actively arousable

Furry Yiff Fetishist

Mixed Sexually Compatible

Agender

Male-to Female Transgender

Femininely Expressing Preferred

No preferred Pronoun They/She/He

Intersex

 

As a Tourettes-Asperger 33 Year Old, formally diagnosed with developmental delays, Hypospadias, Gender Dysphoric Disorder amongst others.

 

I guess 10 years of being exposed to various terms on AVEN can expand the identity never thought of before.

 

Asexual and Trans is usually the most required to communicate.

 

I can't really explain the above in 50 sentence paragraphs like others could :P

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Milque Toast

Ooh, this seems fun! I'm still sort of questioning things a bit, but here goes.

 

- sex-indifferent asexual, with low libido

- aromantic (still sort of questioning what romantic attraction even IS, though)

- cis female

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Aporagender afab who is asexual, possibly a homo-romantic or hetero-romantic, half aromantic, but I really really want a relationship.

I picture myself being a boy when Ithink of a relationships with other boys, and idk. 

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InvisibleSquid
6 hours ago, Rynn said:

I feel like if I'd wanted to I could've milked neurodivergency for more padding, but I've googled enough :) 

Same! But again, I was tired 😆

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Personally my sexuality side of things is pretty easy- I’m panromantic asexual (even if I’m not a fan of the four color panromantic flag and tend to use the pansexual one- the way orange and green are separating things that I feel can be encompassed in one stripe and the stark emphasis on the binary bothers me). I don’t have any particular preferences in terms of genders of prospective partners, nor does attraction to any one gender feel differently than attraction to other genders. I feel like my expectations for prospective partners might be different depending on what gender roles they’ve grown up with in the sense that I respect more someone not having the same type of self-sufficiency because they didn’t conform to gender roles as opposed to expecting me to do certain things for them based on roles dictated by society but that’s mainly because I have had friendships where people have taken advantage of my kindness and used it against me and I want to be more careful that never turns into a facet of a future romantic relationship. I’m closer to the sex-repulsed side of things but I don’t mind if media includes the concept in plot device form (forcing characters with no chemistry into romantic/sexual relationships for the screen without any context behind it is the example of give of non-plot device). I don’t tend to get many crushes though, so I’m questioning if I am also greyromantic. I might understand that part better if I ever have a relationship since this far I have not. Squishes and crushes also confuse me as to which type of attraction they might be, making me question occasionally whether I am cupioromantic. 
 

My gender on the other hand is usually something I describe as genderqueer or nonbinary (I’ve been saying nonbinary more often lately because more people I interact with know the term). In reality my gender is probably closest to the demiflux, genderflux (specifically in the multiflux umbrella), and demigirl labels I suppose because it is a mixture of being agender, nonbinary, and female in fluctuating ratios, where female has been the least common gender I’ve been experiencing lately. Gender for me can change over the course of a couple hours, daily, or even taking weeks to change even subtly. My pronouns I prefer would probably switch with my gender most of the time except for the fact that I don’t really want to confuse people and I don’t know my gender all of the time so it’s easier to tell people that overall I like if they use both pronoun sets evenly (which I do but people tend to use they/them less when they/them tends to be comfortable more of the time). The dysphoria I experience can be fairly specific to what percentage of a certain gender I am feeling, but it is fairly consistently about the same things (menstruation, my chest, and my voice are the big ones). Also I’m afab, which becomes part of my gender identity in the fact that occasionally feeling partially female made vaguely understanding my gender difficult considering I’m still questioning if it’s cisnormative society that makes me think I’m female or if it’s a real thing.
 

Since presentation can be linked to gender but isn’t a specific part of it I’ll mention that I like presenting androgynously but I also like having long hair (which is currently down to the middle of my torso- I have a long torso) which means for balance I tend to wear more masc clothing. I have found however that skirts that have a nice spin and flow to them make me happy and I have a dress that reminds me of overalls at the top and I wear over things that gives me a lot of gender euphoria despite how feminine it often makes me look. 

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Demi-greyromantic

Asexual

Sex-Repulsed

Sex-Neutral

Cisgender Female

Masculine-leaning Expression

Non-Libidoist

Neurodivergent

Bi-Platonic

Bi-Alterous

Demi-sensual

Pan-Aesthetic

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To others, I'm a dude who is forever single.

 

But specifically, I'm an aroace trans guy who is sex-repulsed and romance-indifferent.

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On 3/29/2021 at 2:55 PM, Anthracite_Impreza said:

Crazy Snail Dad

Hence the long nails to scoop up snail poo? (reference to post elsewhere) 😄

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Anthracite_Impreza
5 minutes ago, Acing It said:

Hence the long nails to scoop up snail poo? (reference to post elsewhere) 😄

Long nails are effective for a great number of snail-related tasks - scooping up eggs, tiny babies, breaking the tension on their feet... but poop scooping is the most common by far. They shit like rabbits.

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Let me try:

 

Asexual

Heteroromantic

Cis-male

Sex Positive

Very sensual

High libido

Monogamous

 

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TormentDubz

Apothisexual, hetrom, panplatonic cis male

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AlsoKnownAs

Cis male, asexual, heteroromantic, social introvert; the majority of my friends are also female.

AKA

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Fictionlover93

I'm new to all this but so far I have worked out that I am a Biromantic Asexual Fictosexual.

 

Biromantic because I find both genders nice and I would happily date both. 

Asexual because I have no sexual attraction towards real people. 

Fictosexual because that's were all my sexual attraction ended up I only feel excited by the thought of fictional characters.

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Cis female, asexual, non-libidoist, somewhat sex-repulsed. Possibly aromantic, but I don't really understand what romance is and whether I've felt romantic attraction before -- I think I haven't, but I can also see the appeal of a romantic relationship, although I don't really see that as part of my life. If someone were to ask, I would say, "I've never 'liked' anyone before and at this point I don't know if I ever will," and leave it at that unless they were actually interested.

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I used to identify as just gay

Now I identify as gay or gay/ace to people, depending on the situation

A bit more specific? Gay Aegosexual Demiromantic Cis Male?

That's as far as I'm willing to go. I'm sure there are other micro labels that could describe me more specifically but I'm fine with the ones I do know.

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I don't really have a go-to "label" for my identity. Some people know I'm ace, and even less know about the romantic stuff.

To be specific, I'm:

gray-homoromantic sex-averse non-libidoist asexual cis female who sometimes gets really insecure about my gender :)

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Asexual/Aegosexual?, grey/pan-romantic, cis female. But despite not being totally aromantic, I'm not interested in having a romantic relationship. I just want to be a hermit in the woods.

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I've delved deep into asexual terms thanks to a Wiki now and might have some better words to describe that:

 

My orientation is Lesbian. Maybe with an extremely rare attraction to like one man here and there that is completely non-sexual, non-romantic, non-aesthetic and... yeah, can't describe it. >.< Seeing as it fits into no types of attraction I understand, I wouldn't ever pursue it.

 

My sexuality itself, that's even more complicated. I have sexual attraction, I have a libido, but I find sex repulsive and don't think that I could ever actually do the things that I fantasize about. It's a very weird place to be in, but I have found a number of terms that might describe me. (In fact there are so many terms to use, I'm confused): ARCsexual - Eriscarnal, Nopotasexual, Rheasexual, Inactsexual, Acorsexual (might not be the best for me, as it's not trauma, just repulsion), Acrisexual. How do I narrow it down from there? I don't know. But it is interesting to get those answers of me fitting into the Ace/Greysexual spectrum. I've questioned a lot since I joined here if I even belong since I know I have sexual attraction and all, but this helps me a lot and now I know I do fit in. 😃

 

Now my Romantic orientation is something I've never thought a lot about. I have the ability to fall for someone romantically and I have little to no aversion to following through with the romantic attraction, so I don't see myself is on the aromantic spectrum. But I do notice that it's on a very rare occasion that I fall for someone romantically, and I struggle to move on from that individual until I've fallen that same way for someone new. Monaromantic kinda resonates with me, but at the same time I wouldn't say I was ever aromantic before I met the first person who I fell in love with. I'm not going to throw that term around, but I do think my romantic orientation needs examination because it is making it extremely hard to find someone I can actually be with.

 

I've lately thought of my Romantic attractions as being "stubborn" or "too picky", but I can't help who I fall in love with and who I don't so maybe there's something more there than just being too picky.

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I hate labels, but here it goes:

 

Male, heterosexual. 

 

Beyond that, I don't like labels so avoid association with the expected behaviors. Or typecasting myself. 

 

I'm just me. 

 

If I spent time wasting on figuring out my quirks, IE my touch aversion, I would be lost and never figure myself out.. 

 

Life is too short. 

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My response if asked about my sexuality and gender-- I'm not straight, I don't understand monogamy, and I have no idea how to girl.

 

If you want to get specific, I would rather have a conversation about my feelings if a person (close friend, partner, etc) had some need to know about that aspect of my identity.

 

Labels are only helpful insofar as folks agree on their meaning. Here, I provide you a run-on sentence as to why I gave up on labels: I used to identify as bi, but then folks started commonly using pan, and in my definition of bi it meant the same as pan, but folks would tell me bi was hateful, or meant something different than I thought it did, also folks would insist on saying I was "bisexual" when I have dropped the "sexual" from bi for years as a silent nod to being ace, but then I'd have to correct people and try to elaborate on why I kept it as "bi" and not "bisexual" and uggggggh 

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Labels... I try to stay away from... they're kinda more loose descriptors that always require paragraphs of explanation to understand what you actually mean.

 

I don't associate with any gender because they all feel uncomfortable and have a lot of expectations, I'm not interested in sex or a partner, but I want at least one friend, more if that can be swung, I can be close with, that can be of whatever gender they fancy at the moment, I want to hug them, hold hands walking around outside, lay on a couch watching movies, and generally have a good time. Ideally, we could live in a happy commune and reject the influences and judgement of outside world.

 

That is my gender and sexuality. Filthy void... anarchist? I'm not an anarchist, I'm a socialist. Whatever. Close enough. I just want to enjoy my life with some people and find peace with my inner self and nature. I'm rambling and manic. Sorry.

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GhoulFriend

I don't really go with labels and some days I feel like I'll never quite figure myself out. Basically, I'm asexual with necrophiliac tendencies, which in my case is more "romantic" than sexual, so no I don't do anything gross with corpses. I just appreciate their presence and prefer their company to most of the living population! Also I don't particularly follow gender norms, I'm female but I can't stand conventional "girly" stuff, though I don't see myself as being male, either. I'm just...whatever I am and learning to be OK with that! 

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I suppose I usually default to saying I'm ace or queer. 

 

More specifically though: Aromantic, asexual, homoaesthetic, semi-active libido, platonic love is best love, and I'm used to thinking I'm a cis female but lately been questioning if I even binary, anymore 😅 I guess my current confusion would tentatively identify as genderfluid between female and nonbinary..? That one still needs figuring out 😅 So with pronouns, I think it might be she/them..? Man, just when I though I'd figured out the sexuality-part, the gender-part threw itself in the ring like "But what about ME?" :'D 

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51 minutes ago, Aloney said:

Man, just when I though I'd figured out the sexuality-part, the gender-part threw itself in the ring like "But what about ME?" :'D 

Mood. 

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I'm not too interesting lmao, so I go with "just call me a girl, I have girl parts and look like one so it's easier to explain" and "acespec and arospec because people sometimes don't believe in demisexuals".

 

To be accurate, I still go as a cis girl(?) but I have no preferred pronouns nor choose to stick to any gender specifically. I'm a very (and I mean vERY, as in pro sex and pro kink) sex positive demisexual/cupiosexual. And I'm also a romance indifferent demiromantic/quoiromantic (as in I fluctuate from being romance indifferent to aversed). Apparently people go with aesthetic attractions too so I'd call myself a very pan-aesthetic person I guess? lmao. I'm also in a monogamous hetero relationship if that adds anything. But if this also helps, I'm still questioning as well. :))

 

(edit: added aesthetic attraction in the list, also I'm pretty sure my perspectives may still change, this is just what I do know for now)

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a little annihilation

I don't even like to think about myself in relation to gender at all because it makes me uncomfortable, but it doesn't matter what someone else's gender is; there is the potential I will fall in love anyone of any gender who's nice and my age. I don't feel sexual attraction and have very very low libido, and am sex averse. I have no idea what the difference between platonic and romantic love is and really love the idea of a queerplatonic relationship/ marriage 

 

asexual

sex averse

panromantic

quiromantic

non- binary

xenogender

 

also I like the term sapphic and although I can't control who I fall in love with I'd prefer to marry a woman.

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maybeimamazed

Sex-indifferent homo-oriented aromantic asexual panaesthetic biplatonic cis female

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Like some others in this thread, pretty label averse, but I think this image gets at the core of my being:

 

Spoiler

dublin-family-discover-cat-sized-rat.jpg

 

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Kernel.Panic

I'm a robot.

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