verily-forsooth-egads Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Most of us have, at some point after learning of the possibilities, journeyed deep into the realm of microlabels, surfaced triumphantly with the perfect collection of terms, and then, sooner or later, ended up settling for something a little broader and better-known, because it felt silly or no one knew what you were talking about. Now's the time to bring all that back. What do you usually call yourself, versus the most precise, esoteric description of your orientation and gender you can give, leaving no facet glossed over? (Doesn't matter if you ever vocally identified with them, just use all the terms—minimize redundancy for bonus points though.) I usually settle for "nonbinary aroace" if I need a label at all, but specifically I am a *deep breath* Gray-sapioandroquoiromantic, gray-autochorisgynosexual, sex-repulsed, agenderflux, egogender, cissexual AFAB person I think I could pad it out a little more but I don't want to set the bar too high What about you? 15 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ceebs Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Bisexual cis female. Pretty straightforward. 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
verily-forsooth-egads Posted March 29, 2021 Author Share Posted March 29, 2021 3 minutes ago, CBC said: Bisexual cis female. Pretty straightforward. Must be nice being you. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ceebs Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Just now, verily-forsooth-egads said: Must be nice being you. How incredibly presumptuous. It isn't. Not even close. 20 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fraggle Underdark Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Doing this deliberately is kind of fun. Something like: celibacy-favorable demisexual alloromantic brownitian non-aligned agender 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
verily-forsooth-egads Posted March 29, 2021 Author Share Posted March 29, 2021 1 minute ago, CBC said: How incredibly presumptuous. It isn't. Not even close. I apologize. 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Raindrops Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 I guess.. aro/ace with aesthetic attraction towards men? 😗 If we're leaving out fetishes. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
AshesRising Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 I’m just Nobinary Trixic Asexual. Not quite sure how to lengthen that out. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Eeeeeer.... Celibate polysexual(?) fictoromantic/fictosexual grey-romantic non-gender-specific consciousness inhabiting the body of a female homo sapiens sapiens. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Purple Red Panda Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 To be honest I'm happy just with Biromantic-Asexual and Agendered (I'll add AMAB when I feel it's relevant). I probably could come up with something more specific but don't really feel the desire to. In the end my sexuality is unique to me (as I believe eveyone elses is to them) so I simply use labels to give a general idea, anything more specific can come out in conversation. I'm not opposed to microlabels or people using them it just isn't for me. 9 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Captain_Tass Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Nonbinary/genderqueer butch lesbian 8 minutes ago, Purple Red Panda said: I probably could come up with something more specific but don't really feel the desire to. In the end my sexuality is unique to me (as I believe eveyone elses is to them) so I simply use labels to give a general idea, anything more specific can come out in conversation. I'm not opposed to microlabels or people using them it just isn't for me. Ditto, took me a while to figure that out! 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Oberon Jasper Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Transgender demiboy, demisensual, asexual, sex averse, somewhere between torenromantic and cupioromantic (not really a label that fits my romantic feelings well so I mostly use the label abroromantic which is a fluid romantic attraction), panalterous, and aesthetically down with everyone. This was kind of fun. (I like researching obscure attractions just for the hell of it so it'll be fun to see if one I don't know pops up and I can then research it). 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 sex-averse asexual aromantic hetero-orientated autochori cis-female. I suspect this is the only occasion I will ever have to put so much detail. It was fun. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Stormy_E Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 cis female, aromantic asexual, sex-indifferent (maybe?) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Raine.on.my.parade Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 I identify as a biromantic asexual non-binary person but I'm actually demi-omniromantic asexual and not entirely sure what my gender is. I'm on the genderfluid spectrum but I'm not entirely sure where. I would probably describe myself as a 'consistently-me-inconsistently-gendered' person who bounces around the middle of the gender spectrum though 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
InvisibleSquid Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 AroAce? Nah. Cis male recipromantic/bellusromantic sex-favorable asexual with intense hetero-leaning sensual and aesthetic attraction properties. There's probably a bit more to it, but I'm still caffeinating. ☕ 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Izz Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 what i usually tell people is that i am Aro/Ace nonbinary........ What i tell myself I am is Pan/Gray-aromantic sex repulsed Asexual Nonbinary Pangender. (Im looking at some of your answers and yall have some big words for yours omg) 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
PhilGG Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 I've never got further than asexual as a label. I get thoroughly confused by all the new (to me) labels I see every day on AVEN. I have to look up many of them (or I just skip over them). Even the asexual one is really just for me. I don't really feel any need to 'come out', though if (by some small chance) it did come up in a personal situation, I wouldn't be averse to talking about it. Maybe it's at least partly my generation - I didn't grow up with this plethora of labels, or, I guess, the growing awareness of all the gradations that there can be, so I don't feel a burning desire to use them. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
R_1 Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 An demi-romantic leaning toward aromantic asexual that is a former heteroromantic heterosexual. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Morays Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 I'm a celibate lady who likes dudes but not sex. I'm also allergic to microlabeling. 15 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
quadfasciata Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 I'll descibe mine with as few microlabels as possible (but still with detail): Genderfluid(-ish) person who usually stays near agender but slides all around. I'm usually aroace, but when I'm feeling on the more female side of things, I think I switch to lesbian. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Trans-male, mechakin, (grey?)mecha-romantic, sex-repulsed-but-still-dirty-minded asexual, Crazy Snail Dad. 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
VeryAsexyIndeed Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 If someone asked I’d say I’m aroace and nonbinary, but if Id describe it as specifically as I could I think I’m a (probably) sex-indifferent aroace, pan/omni-alterous, maybe polyplatonic but not sure. My gender is I think gray-pangender or gray-trigender or something other gray-multigender, trans-nonbinary. I think that’s it lol. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rynn Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Lol, that's fun. I'mma try that. I gave up on microlabels pretty soon though, so I'm going to have to do some Google/tumblr diving still. I generally say I'm panromantic asexual nonbinary. I can't make it smaller than that without losing vital information ---1 hour later--- asexual, autochorissexual, sex-repulsed, afab librafluid nonbinary transgender, ambiamorous (that one took some serious googling) Romance-favorable gray-omniromantic, low romance drive (That last one I made up because I couldn't find an accurate label online after extensive Googling, but I feel like that's how this works right, you just coin terms left and right? It's basically the romantic version of near-nonlibidoist.) omnialterous, lightly touch averse omnisensual, omniaesthetic, omniplatonic (cuz yeah if we're going to stretch this out as long as possible, better get an orientation label for ALL types of attraction in there), Through this exercise I found out that omniromantic is the one where you can still have a gender 'preference', while pan are supposed to be 'genderblind'. The more you know. Now I don't know where biromantic is supposed to fit into this. Oh well I'm still going to say pan, because that makes the pancake pun. I feel like if I'd wanted to I could've milked neurodivergency for more padding, but I've googled enough 11 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gloomy Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Here goes nothing... Bisexual, although sometimes I do wonder if pansexual or polysexual would also be accurate. I do seem to have a preference for AMAB’s though. Fictosexual, especially towards anime/manga characters. Sort of polyamorous. I used to have a harem of lots of husbandos and a few waifus. Lately I’ve been mostly committed to Speed o Sound Sonic as my one and only husbando, although I do sometimes get little crushes on other characters. As for gender, cis-female who sometimes likes cross-dressing I guess. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Artemis42 Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Um ... I’m not that interesting lol. Greygender, hetero/andro-alloromantic, demi-heterosensual, grey-heterosexual female who is currently effectively asexual. I could probably go a little further but I’d rather not lmao I think that covers all the most important stuff 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Blue eyes white dragon Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Lets see.... Demi and/or grey heteromantic, asexual that is ok with sex in theory and will participate depending on the situation but prefers not to for sexual identity. Gender identity fluctuates between agender and female (usually nonconforming when the that is present) but doesnt care what you refer to as unless you are being sexist. I just stick with female pronouns for convenience and they dont bother me really (its other stuff that makes me upset) 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Acerna Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Hetero-demiromantic asexual cisfemale, with mostly whateverthefuckuwant pronouns confused at sex, sex-indifferent, and really bored 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
erichamion Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 Um, how long does one need to be questioning before "quoi" becomes an accurate description (under the "Questioning romanticism/sexuality for such a long time that the questioning itself becomes the identity, rather than a path toward any other more stable identity" definition)? It's only been 10-11 months (barely 2% of my life so far), and for most of that time I've just been letting the question sit (not actively trying to answer it) - is that long enough? If "quoi" isn't accurate for me, then I guess see my profile description. If it is: Cis male heteroaesthetic heterosensual quoigrayheteroromantic theoretically-sex-favorable heteroanegoquoisexual. (Also, romance-virgin and sex-virgin. Those aren't part of an orientation, but they can add some context.) There are some odd combinations there. By "quoigrayhetero", I mean that I more likely than not (not definitely, and not sure enough to call it "probably") have at least a "gray" level of romanticism, rather than being fully aro, and to whatever extent I do have any romantic attraction it's hetero-oriented. Similarly, by "heteroanegoquoi", I mean that whatever sexual attraction I have (if, in fact, I do have any) is hetero-oriented, and if I am ace or ace-spec then there is an anegosexual component. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Carbon-12 Posted March 29, 2021 Share Posted March 29, 2021 What I call myself: No label/No label/Asexual What I technically could be: AFAB nondysphoric cisgenderless/bi-agenderfluid weakly-biromantic androsensual panplatonic sex-averse celibate asexual Man, what a mess! I think I'll just stick with a label free lifestyle. But out of curiousity- is there a word for a gender that is solely based on other's perceptions of you? Such as, when someone views you as male you adopt a masculine gender and vice versa? 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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