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I’m fictoromantic myself and I thought it would be cool there was a thread just to talk about fictic things and discuss experiences in a positive way! 
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7 minutes ago, Kieran the Vampire said:

I'm down with this.

Nice! :]

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Ah I should have started this convo up but here I’ll do it: honestly I had ficto things beforehand before I labeled myself but it took me a good while it’s not really normal that sometimes you aren’t attracted to anyone but fiction haha 

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SphynxNightmare

Hello~ Fellow ficto here! I've been in love with some of my partners since I was young, haha. So happy to see others here :)

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Oberon Jasper

Was this thread ever made?

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12 hours ago, SphynxNightmare said:

Hello~ Fellow ficto here! I've been in love with some of my partners since I was young, haha. So happy to see others here :)

Nice! I had my fair few too!

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9 hours ago, Kieran the Vampire said:

Was this thread ever made?

Nope oof

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Hi :) Doesn't seem like much fictos are around, there isn't much written here!

 

I'm ficto too. But I'm in love with the same person since puberty, he is the love of my life... So I'm actually just interested in this specific (fictional) man. I don't know what it's like to fall in love with different fictional characters.

 

Do you love characters from media? wich ones? 
Mine is an own character.

 

The first years of loving him I thought that my daydreams were "wishes about what I want in reality" and I was unsettled, that I never fell in love with someone real. 
I couldn't be happy with love until I understood that I thought wrong. My relationship with my fictional character is so wonderful, because he is fictional and a part of myself. It's perfect and not just "a wish for something real". I was just sad because I wish I could feel his touch in reality. This understanding gave me a biiig relieve. 

 

What I appreciate the most about our love is that I am so connected with him. More that it would ever be possible with someone real. I know what he feels, not just because he tells me. I feel what he feels, I know how it feels like to be him, even though he is totally different than me. I feel his personality and his presence. When we make love, I feel both of our feelings, thats so wonderful.
We are just perfectly one. He feels like a part of me, I love him so much ❤️

 

Also our relationship isn't limited by reality and time. I can love him in countless different stories and worlds, today I can love him as a teenager, tomorrow as a grown man. We can go on any adventure i could ever think of. Plus I can be cis when I'm with him (... 😕 ). Maybe I couldn't even deal with him if he was real. He has some serious mental problems that would probably be too much...

 

 

What do you appreciate about being ficto?
 

 

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On 4/1/2021 at 11:09 AM, Pygmalion said:

Do you love characters from media? wich ones? 
Mine is an own character.

I do have attraction with characters like Pina from Beastars, I know I like another character from another franchise but the more prominent one is Pina

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Hi, I'm new. I was scared to introduce myself as I never speak on the internet - not like this. But I feel things need to be talked about and since there's not that many of us... :) very happy to meet on here! 

 

I've been looking for a place to talk for so long. I've been going through this forum for a while and it's just so nice to know I'm not the only one? I felt something was wrong with me. 

 

Some things really clicked while reading on here. I always thought it was kinda normal to love /be in love with 2d characters and fictional characters. When I was a kid I obviously didn't know love as such, but I always fell for my cartoon characters. Never actual people in my surroundings, except maybe a few. My cartoon characters were long term though. I feel that the fantasy world around this concept plays a bigger role - though I'm not entirely sure how or why yet. I'm so glad you guys are here, but I'm not sure if this post is still active. If anyone is still here - thank you for talking about this. 

 

I was feeling rather desperate as I feel I have no real control over these feelings. It's strong but not always constant. Has anyone ever told a partner about this, or family? 

 

The wonderful thing is that it feels like you can go on an endless adventure. It's very free in that sense. But I'm also compulsive and sad sometimes that I can't really experience it. In a way. Ok I think I've said enough, I clearly sound confused ❤️ sorry about this ❤️

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On 4/1/2021 at 11:09 AM, Pygmalion said:

Hi :) Doesn't seem like much fictos are around, there isn't much written here!

 

I'm ficto too. But I'm in love with the same person since puberty, he is the love of my life... So I'm actually just interested in this specific (fictional) man. I don't know what it's like to fall in love with different fictional characters.

 

Do you love characters from media? wich ones? 
Mine is an own character.

 

The first years of loving him I thought that my daydreams were "wishes about what I want in reality" and I was unsettled, that I never fell in love with someone real. 
I couldn't be happy with love until I understood that I thought wrong. My relationship with my fictional character is so wonderful, because he is fictional and a part of myself. It's perfect and not just "a wish for something real". I was just sad because I wish I could feel his touch in reality. This understanding gave me a biiig relieve. 

 

What I appreciate the most about our love is that I am so connected with him. More that it would ever be possible with someone real. I know what he feels, not just because he tells me. I feel what he feels, I know how it feels like to be him, even though he is totally different than me. I feel his personality and his presence. When we make love, I feel both of our feelings, thats so wonderful.
We are just perfectly one. He feels like a part of me, I love him so much ❤️

 

Also our relationship isn't limited by reality and time. I can love him in countless different stories and worlds, today I can love him as a teenager, tomorrow as a grown man. We can go on any adventure i could ever think of. Plus I can be cis when I'm with him (... 😕 ). Maybe I couldn't even deal with him if he was real. He has some serious mental problems that would probably be too much...

 

 

What do you appreciate about being ficto?
 

 

Hi I'm new here, but after stumbling across this thread, I could not relate to this more!

 

I have three main OC characters that have been in my life since I was 14 and have loved each of them for different reasons. When the second showed up my feelings for the first dimmed and same when the third one showed up, who I still consider to be in a relationship with now going on for over ten years. And so in a way, I've joked to myself and my best friend who is the only one who knows about them that I've had relationships, but they just don't exist in reality. But everything you described about the connection and the feeling with that character is exactly how I feel which is why I'm not interested in looking for a "real" relationship, though when I was younger I tried because I thought this wasn't normal and I needed to move on.

 

While I feel pretty certain in my asexual identity, I've still been questioning my romantic identity because of this very thing. So thank you for introducing me to the term fictoromantic/fictosexual. I think this may help me figure out more about myself.

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Hi! New here! Looks like more and more people showing up to this thread as time goes on, huh? I'm not fictoromantic. I'm still not even sure if I'm heteroromantic or aromantic.

 

BUT!

 

I would say I'm Aegosexual, or fictosexual. Aegosexual probably fits me better though because I still can't see myself being involved in the sex, whether it was real or not. When I fantasize, it's normally fictional characters. Very rarely do I fantasize about real people, and I can't really watch IRL porn often either. But hentai and fiction, I'm all about that!

 

May I join? I play a lot of DnD, love role playing via text, and have numerous fun OCs in a couple of different fandoms. (Though primarily just DnD OCs who can fit into generally any fantasy or scifi setting.) I may not be romantically interested in fictional characters, but I do still love romance stories, and I can certainly keep my interest in smut out of it if anybody is adverse. It's just cool to find people here in a similar boat to me. I've only joined a day ago and already I'm learning terms that better fit me, and discovering more about myself. Finding others like me really feels so validating.

 

This is in the Aromantic threads, so I totally get it if I should find another thread. But it would just feel a bit redundant to me, and there's already so few of us here.

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Possum.Lover

Im happy this thread is starting to pick up a bit :]

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honestly, even though I'm not a ficto, I would like to know everyone else's! ^_^

I know that's a bit nosy, but if anyone doesn't mind I'd like to know.

I hear some people (which I now know are called fictos) fell in love with, or found attraction to characters from literature.

Has anyone here fallen in love with any characters from a book series?

Is the book series still being published?

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On 2/18/2021 at 5:34 AM, Clear.Skyes said:

I’m fictoromantic myself and I thought it would be cool there was a thread just to talk about fictic things and discuss experiences in a positive way! 
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What is fictoromantic? 

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1 hour ago, Sherlocks said:

What is fictoromantic? 

Someone who is attracted romantically to fictional characters. Technically speaking it's a philia, but that kind of has a negative attention so it was coined as fictoromantic/sexual instead. It's considered a microlabel under asexual.

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5 hours ago, Jazz-per said:

Someone who is attracted romantically to fictional characters. Technically speaking it's a philia, but that kind of has a negative attention so it was coined as fictoromantic/sexual instead. It's considered a microlabel under asexual.

How is this a micro label for Asexuality when you have a sexual attraction just not to something you can ever really obtain/Ace is literally the lack of. Also there is nothing wrong with a phelia. 

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On 8/29/2021 at 3:00 PM, SpadeHood said:

has anyone here fallen in love with any characters from a book series?

Hi there :) are you still looking for answers? (I just saw this thread)

 

I am at the extreme end of being fictoromantic and fictosexual. As in, it's been a persistent pattern for me for my entire life since I very first began developing sexual and romantic feelings (as young as 6, or maybe even younger)

 

I develop strong emotional bonds to characters from books, movies, and TV series (once even from a couple of music videos) and become romantically and intimately obsessed with that character for a period of time. Sometimes only a few weeks, sometimes years. It's pretty much the same way any other 'hyper'romantic (is that the right term? for someone who has many, many romantic partners, but always monogamously) person would behave, but only for fictional people. 

 

I have developed this attraction to a few non-fictional people in my life, but they have only been online (not someone I knew in person).

 

When I am drawn to a character, their entire world, and the people in their world, become more 'real' to me than 'real life'. Their world takes up literally half of my life. I have my outside life where I cook and clean and do the 'human' things, and then the rest of my world is situated around the characters and my desire for them and my need to understand and explore their world.

 

I sadly also have aphantasia, which means I am effectively totally blind within the character's world and with any interactions with them. It is exactly the same as if I was a blind person going about their daily life in the non-fictional world, but instead it's fictional. I have utter blindness within the world of whichever character I am drawn to.

 

For me, my romantic attraction happens more towards characters from book series than anything else, especially from Tolkien's works which I have been obsessed with since a very, very young age, and often develop new romantic attraction for people within the works, or return to old attractions.

 

Also I myself am never the one who interacts romantically/intimately with the characters. For me, another person is formed who is a part of the character's world, who has an extensive backstory, and has traits the character would be drawn to. This new person interacts with the character within their world, and I hide inside and vicariously experience the feelings, sounds, and sensations (not the sights because again, I am totally blind). I myself don't have a LOT of control over how things play out, and am usually restricted to the overall canon structure of the original story, with only minor alterations allowed to accommodate the new person. 

 

I am not sure if any of that makes sense, but it's the best way I can describe it :)

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6 hours ago, Sherlocks said:

How is this a micro label for Asexuality when you have a sexual attraction just not to something you can ever really obtain/Ace is literally the lack of. Also there is nothing wrong with a phelia. 

(I meant to type connotation because while there's nothing wrong with a philia the more commonly known ones are p*dophilia and n*crophilia which both fall in a negative light.)

Since the attraction isn't to a real person and can never be realized it's being attracted when there's no potential of the reality being. I also wasn't the one who coined the label and thus don't know their reasoning behind it. I'm also fictoromantic not sexual. 

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13 hours ago, Sherlocks said:

How is this a micro label for Asexuality when you have a sexual attraction just not to something you can ever really obtain/Ace is literally the lack of. Also there is nothing wrong with a phelia. 

Personally and within my own fetish communities, this is fairly common.  Many grow up experiencing the whole range of attractions toward the fictional cartoon for example, even another persons art.  It is a phila sure, but if the attractions are very much like a real life attraction, what's the issue identifying as Ficto?

 

Interesting who I meet in these communities where they'd describe to having attractions to anthropomorphic cartoons or art in one or having experiences having crushes or fictional but genuinely felt relationship desires for a specific type of video game characters in the other.

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1 hour ago, Janus the DarkFox said:

Personally and within my own fetish communities, this is fairly common.  Many grow up experiencing the whole range of attractions toward the fictional cartoon for example, even another persons art.  It is a phila sure, but if the attractions are very much like a real life attraction, what's the issue identifying as Ficto?

 

Interesting who I meet in these communities where they'd describe to having attractions to anthropomorphic cartoons or art in one or having experiences having crushes or fictional but genuinely felt relationship desires for a specific type of video game characters in the other.

I am obsessed with angeldust from hazbinhotel if that counts

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15 hours ago, PanFicto. said:

Hi there :) are you still looking for answers? (I just saw this thread)

 

I am at the extreme end of being fictoromantic and fictosexual. As in, it's been a persistent pattern for me for my entire life since I very first began developing sexual and romantic feelings (as young as 6, or maybe even younger)

 

I develop strong emotional bonds to characters from books, movies, and TV series (once even from a couple of music videos) and become romantically and intimately obsessed with that character for a period of time. Sometimes only a few weeks, sometimes years. It's pretty much the same way any other 'hyper'romantic (is that the right term? for someone who has many, many romantic partners, but always monogamously) person would behave, but only for fictional people. 

 

I have developed this attraction to a few non-fictional people in my life, but they have only been online (not someone I knew in person).

 

When I am drawn to a character, their entire world, and the people in their world, become more 'real' to me than 'real life'. Their world takes up literally half of my life. I have my outside life where I cook and clean and do the 'human' things, and then the rest of my world is situated around the characters and my desire for them and my need to understand and explore their world.

 

I sadly also have aphantasia, which means I am effectively totally blind within the character's world and with any interactions with them. It is exactly the same as if I was a blind person going about their daily life in the non-fictional world, but instead it's fictional. I have utter blindness within the world of whichever character I am drawn to.

 

For me, my romantic attraction happens more towards characters from book series than anything else, especially from Tolkien's works which I have been obsessed with since a very, very young age, and often develop new romantic attraction for people within the works, or return to old attractions.

 

Also I myself am never the one who interacts romantically/intimately with the characters. For me, another person is formed who is a part of the character's world, who has an extensive backstory, and has traits the character would be drawn to. This new person interacts with the character within their world, and I hide inside and vicariously experience the feelings, sounds, and sensations (not the sights because again, I am totally blind). I myself don't have a LOT of control over how things play out, and am usually restricted to the overall canon structure of the original story, with only minor alterations allowed to accommodate the new person. 

 

I am not sure if any of that makes sense, but it's the best way I can describe it :)

Wow, this has to be the most interesting post I've read on this site! 🤯

Your blind in the world in your mind! 😦

It's kinda sad, but also very interesting.

Tolkien's book series... I had to google the name. I never new the person's name who wrote the Lord of the Rings.

I imagine Elves and wizards! 😄

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Hello! I've sometimes thought about posting on threads like this before, but since I don't know what sort of ficto- I am I felt like I shouldn't. I know it's not fictosexual or fictoromantic; I've debated fictoplatonic for a while, and am sure now that that doesn't entirely fit. I know that I am drawn towards them but I have no idea how i would most want to interact with them if i did meet them. I sometimes create or choose characters as go-betweens to become close to them for me (a little bit like what @PanFicto. said :)) and though those characters tend to get their own ideas it usually is platonic in nature (more or less: 'less' being a kind of intellectually-based interaction, 'more' being a very protective, even parental kind of thing [which one being the protector depending on what age they are &/or stage in their journey they are at when we "meet"]). However, much of it is focusing on the character themselves rather than how I would know them (anyways, I already do know them...though I don't know that they know me, or what they would think of me if they did...) I'd like to be friends with characters I feel similar too or have things in common with; the characters I actually feel [whatever it is] toward, I don't have anything much in common with. They have far more in common with each other (there are three of them currently, one is a character of mine) than with me; characters i've been drawn to similarly in the past often are alike in the same kinds of ways as the current ones are.

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I have been googling tonight, trying to classify myself, and as part of that I came across this 'term' and board. Hi! 👋

 

For the longest time now, I've felt no real romantic or sexual attraction to IRL people. There's been the occasional 'attraction' to the unobtainable [celebrities], but nothing elsewhere. Absolutely no interest in dating or sex. It's never bothered me; it still doesn't, now that I can identify myself comfortably. However, I've long written self-insert fanfics for favourite characters from films and TV shows that display romantic ideals and connotations. I feel that's the easiest way to, I suppose, 'explore' the relationship between myself and the desired character. 

 

The first memory of such strong feelings is Brock, from the Pokémon anime. I don't know why it's still somewhat vivid in my mind, but I remember sitting on my bed as a child with my younger brother in the room. We had the TV on; Pokémon. Brock came up in the episode, and I said something [I no longer recall what] that made my brother scoff and ridicule me. Then, the subject of my affections became Éomer, from The Lord of the Rings. Even now, going back to both these characters, I feel tinges of past emotions. And I distinguish, more so with the latter, between actor and character, if that makes sense. I can separate the two and see Éomer as Éomer, not merely the actor in a costume playing a part. Though, I did at one time also greatly admire that actor, just not quite as much as I did the heroic, stoic warrior he portrayed. I watched other films with him in, but none of his characters stirred me quite like his LOTR role. And, as I was a teen with a firmer understanding of love, I think I'd classify Éomer as my first [at least, in terms of the fictoromantic nature].

 

Eventually, I ended up drifting from Éomer, like how a natural romance fizzles out over time. I hopped, with little interest, from one to another. Nothing, though, proved quite as strong as my first love (save, maybe, for my attraction to Leon Kennedy of the Resident Evil series...). Until recently. Another anime/game crossover character, and a heroic warrior again as well. With his love of fine arts and the written word (poetry, rather than prose, mind), he seems almost perfect for my arts-minded self. A writer [of prose] and an artist, and an all-round admirer of the arts, I feel the connection is deeper with him. I find myself unable to stop thinking and fantasising about him, finding pictures of him online, looking him up on wikis and wherever else possible. I adore him. I just had to say it somewhere; I adore this man!

 

And I know it to be more of a romantic [or fictoromantic] feeling, as none of the fantasies or scenarios concocted have been of a sexual nature. I have, very rarely, felt any strong sexual desires for anyone, real or fictional. So, perhaps, an AroAce. I confessed to a friend only about feeling aromantic, but I didn't [at that time] explore my past connections to characters and how I might actually be "aro-spec" by presenting as a fictoromantc. It does feel liberating to identify myself at long last, though. 😁

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Hello everyone, I am a newbie here. It is my first ever post on AVEN and I am happy to have finally found a place where I could fit.

 

I had always identified myself as aromantic asexual before I even heard of these two words. I had noticed my differece since puberty when everyone was starting to like or love someone. I had never felt any romantic attraction or sexual attraction for any real person.

 

Several years ago I found myself in love with a 2nd dimension male character. He is the only fictional person I ever felt deep affection with and I think the love could last very long. It is a really confused feeling. Though I know for sure he is not a living person, but the love for him felt real. He is a character in a love game and he got thousands of fans. But I would never attend his fan activities because it felt all wrong to share him with anybody else. He has the ability to touch my heart now and then to keep my love fresh and active.

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Hi! I'm fictoromantic too and uh my first crush is Nightmare Bonnie, which probably set precedent for my type in the future, my type is very concerning.

I have a male lean but I think I like some fictional women too?

Current crush is Dottore from Genshin Impact.

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I’ve only recently come across this term but I think it explains me pretty well. I have loved reading romance novels since the age of about 16 (now 34) and I have never even come close to feeling the way I feel about a romance hero with anyone real. The one character I’d say I actually fell in love with was Erik from phantom of the opera, and the version of him I love is mainly of my own creation or that from various FanFictions. I went through years of being quite obsessed, and while that has faded over the years I do still feel I love him in some way. It’s not me I’ve ever pictured him with though, or in the case of any fictional character I’ve felt attracted to,  but their love interest in the story. Inserting myself in there just feels wrong. I just daydream about scenarios of them with the person they love. 

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