InfjAceGirl Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 Hey. I'm a 20 year old girl and I was never in a relathionship. As a heteroromantic ace I'm scared it will be hard to find somebody. So could all the boys/men who see this and are ace or don't care about sex write something to give me some hope pls. Link to post Share on other sites
Twisted Tempest Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 We are most certainly around! Keep holding on, and keep looking! You'll find who you're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
aafire Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 There are dozens of us! Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 Moved to Asexual Relationships Janus DarkFox Cover Welcome Lounge, Weekends Asexual Relationships, Current Questions about Asexuality, Asexual Musings and Rantings & Open Mic Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Mackenzie Malik Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 Im an asexual dude and I can promise there are loads of us!! Link to post Share on other sites
Horse Ham Radio Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 I'm male-bodied and yeah there are many people like that in the world (which I think is what you are asking? Or is the question specifically about gender?) If you are asking about genders, I have had a quick search and found this thread for gender ID's: https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/197608-gender , which shows about 1 in 5 respondents identified as male. From IRL experience with the ace community, I would say it was probably closer to 1 in 3 or so people were male-identifying in the offline scenes. Link to post Share on other sites
oldgeeza Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 I'm an old fart, but I have heard of couples meeting through this site and Ace-book, there's plenty of asexual guys all over the place, don't be put off, there's also dating sites specifically for asexual people, I have never been interested in trying dating sites due to my lifestyle, there are others who feel the same as you and would like to be in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
InfjAceGirl Posted January 22, 2021 Author Share Posted January 22, 2021 3 hours ago, Twisted Tempest said: We are most certainly around! Keep holding on, and keep looking! You'll find who you're looking for. Aww. That's so sweet! Thanks ❤️ Link to post Share on other sites
InfjAceGirl Posted January 22, 2021 Author Share Posted January 22, 2021 2 hours ago, Jay Connor said: Im an asexual dude and I can promise there are loads of us!! I thought you were rare🥺❤ Link to post Share on other sites
a little annihilation Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 I have a friend who's male and ace so ik they exist keep up hope ❤️ Link to post Share on other sites
Twisted Tempest Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 19 minutes ago, Claudia12 said: Aww. That's so sweet! Thanks ❤️ Wishing you the best of luck! 😊 Link to post Share on other sites
Arlo Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 I can not tell you how good that is to know! I would say I am demisexual and demiromantic but I might be heteroromantic, as I have only ever had crushes on guys so far. Just reading this thread quiets a lot of the anxiety in my about finding a partner! Link to post Share on other sites
krusk Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 Little late to the party but just wanted to add, cause I think this may be relevant for you. I am a hetroromantic asexual male. The reason I now identify this way, is because of a dating app. I was on a dating app around 3 months ago (before I knew I was ace) and I saw a profile. Part of the bio said that she was asexual. I didn't really know what that meant at the time, but the rest of her profile seemed cool so I liked it, and we matched. We started talking, and after our first couple meet ups, I decided to research asexuality in order to better understand her. As I was doing my research I found that I heavily related with it, and I realized I was asexual. After I realized I told her during our next hang out, and we have been together since then. Keep looking, we're out there, even if we don't know it yet! Link to post Share on other sites
InfjAceGirl Posted January 23, 2021 Author Share Posted January 23, 2021 12 hours ago, Twisted Tempest said: Wishing you the best of luck! 😊 Thank you!!🥰 Link to post Share on other sites
InfjAceGirl Posted January 23, 2021 Author Share Posted January 23, 2021 3 hours ago, krusk said: Little late to the party but just wanted to add, cause I think this may be relevant for you. I am a hetroromantic asexual male. The reason I now identify this way, is because of a dating app. I was on a dating app around 3 months ago (before I knew I was ace) and I saw a profile. Part of the bio said that she was asexual. I didn't really know what that meant at the time, but the rest of her profile seemed cool so I liked it, and we matched. We started talking, and after our first couple meet ups, I decided to research asexuality in order to better understand her. As I was doing my research I found that I heavily related with it, and I realized I was asexual. After I realized I told her during our next hang out, and we have been together since then. Keep looking, we're out there, even if we don't know it yet! What a cute story! Happy for you and thanks for sharing Link to post Share on other sites
Kernel.Panic Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 I'm ace dude and also afraid that it's going to be difficult to find somebody I will be a good match with, especially since I'm over 30. So I can relate, for what it's worth... Link to post Share on other sites
ClaryFray1984 Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 6 hours ago, Bradford said: I'm ace dude and also afraid that it's going to be difficult to find somebody I will be a good match with, especially since I'm over 30. So I can relate, for what it's worth... Nice to know there are 30+ ace guys around Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 8 hours ago, Bradford said: I'm ace dude and also afraid that it's going to be difficult to find somebody I will be a good match with, especially since I'm over 30. So I can relate, for what it's worth... Big same except nearing 30 instead... Link to post Share on other sites
Quazgar Posted January 24, 2021 Share Posted January 24, 2021 I'm a hetero ace male 40+ myself, we're out here. In terms of my own observation hanging out with my local Ace Meetup, I would agree that there are less men than women but we exist! Link to post Share on other sites
liznyc Posted January 24, 2021 Share Posted January 24, 2021 Any hetero ace males 35+ in the NYC area? Doesn't seem like it based on my experience with the dating sites. Link to post Share on other sites
Black Tourmaline Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 there's probably more than you think. Link to post Share on other sites
stuttrboy Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 I'm 46 hetero Ace. We exist and I have also been worried I may never find someone. I'm such a huge introvert that is doesn't bother me all that much but I know most people don't think like me. Good luck in your search. Link to post Share on other sites
Squirrel Combat Posted February 13, 2021 Share Posted February 13, 2021 It's true, there aren't very many of us (1:13 ratio I think--don't quote me there), but we do exist, here to share a male perspective on what it's like to be Ace, among other everyday things. Link to post Share on other sites
Ace Of Dragons Posted February 13, 2021 Share Posted February 13, 2021 I just learned what an asexual was last year at the age of 44, and everything just clicked that is me. I am a male heteroromantic asexual and I do exist, at lest the last time I checked I did. I believe that I would only be able to get in a romantic relationship with a girl(in me age group), someone as loyal to me as I am to them, and obsoletely no sex(unless we want a kid, this is the only reason). I do not care if she is het, bi, or pan. Link to post Share on other sites
Cakes Posted February 28, 2021 Share Posted February 28, 2021 On 1/23/2021 at 1:58 PM, Bradford said: I'm ace dude and also afraid that it's going to be difficult to find somebody I will be a good match with, especially since I'm over 30. So I can relate, for what it's worth... Well hello there, are you in the UK? I'm single 😂😂😂 Link to post Share on other sites
Cakes Posted February 28, 2021 Share Posted February 28, 2021 I'm so worried about this too... male aces are so far and few, even harder to find Muslim aces 😔 Link to post Share on other sites
WarRocketAjax Posted March 1, 2021 Share Posted March 1, 2021 We're out there. It's definitely harder to meet people especially because of the virus but I have hope I'll find someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Thaliaaaaa Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 We exist! 🎉🎉 Link to post Share on other sites
TheListener Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Figured I might as well make an appearance! 😁 Link to post Share on other sites
InfjAceGirl Posted March 6, 2021 Author Share Posted March 6, 2021 On 2/28/2021 at 2:57 AM, Eff said: I'm so worried about this too... male aces are so far and few, even harder to find Muslim aces 😔 I'm sure there are Muslim aces! Maybe it will take longer to find him but I believe it's possible! Good luck, dear ❤️ Link to post Share on other sites
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