LesMeufs18 Posted January 15, 2021 Share Posted January 15, 2021 I don’t know if this lends more evidence to me not being asexual or if it has nothing to do with it. I know there are people who would say “asexuality is just the lack of sexual attraction” and that’s true, but I just feel like my asexuality is potentially minimized by the fact that I very infrequently get horny and want to have sex with someone, but never anyone specifically. Link to post Share on other sites
grez Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 yeah u can be horny as anyone else. Doesn't make you less likely to be ace Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah-Sylvia Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 Hi. Being 'horny' usually entails a draw towards sex with a person. There's a lot here who're asexual and can get aroused, but it doesn't lead them to want sex with a person. I guess to know better if it has to do with asexuality, you could ask yourself whether it's more of a fantasy, or if you'd really want to have sex with someone in real (whether or not you've found someone that fits yet). Link to post Share on other sites
Blue eyes white dragon Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 @Sarah-Sylviaput it very well Link to post Share on other sites
orbitalbuzzsaw Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 You might be aego/autochorissexual! Basically, this entails the ability to get aroused/have sexual fantasies but have no desire to manifest this in the real world/with a partner. You could also be gray-ace, experiencing sexual attraction to others only under certain circumstances. Link to post Share on other sites
RobL2415 Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 TMI possibly, but I love the feeling of being horny. I just masturbate instead of having sex to enjoy it. Sex with an actual person requires a lot more work than stroking one's manhood. Link to post Share on other sites
PrimeJelly Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 13 hours ago, RobL2415 said: TMI possibly, but I love the feeling of being horny. I just masturbate instead of having sex to enjoy it. Sex with an actual person requires a lot more work than stroking one's manhood. I love watching porn and masturbating everyday too but in no way, shape, or form, do I actually want to have sex with anyone physically. Lol for me its not even about the effort just imagining myself in real life having sex is so disgusting. I imagine that my body ((might)) enjoy the act but in my head I would be just horrified while screaming no and wanting it all to end quickly. I would also definitely cry after and be traumatised 🙃 Link to post Share on other sites
LesMeufs18 Posted January 20, 2021 Author Share Posted January 20, 2021 On 1/16/2021 at 11:17 AM, RobL2415 said: TMI possibly, but I love the feeling of being horny. I just masturbate instead of having sex to enjoy it. Sex with an actual person requires a lot more work than stroking one's manhood. I feel the same way! I don’t really understand why people think it’s worth it to have sex with another person when masturbating is a thing. Link to post Share on other sites
LesMeufs18 Posted January 20, 2021 Author Share Posted January 20, 2021 On 1/15/2021 at 7:11 PM, Sarah-Sylvia said: Hi. Being 'horny' usually entails a draw towards sex with a person. There's a lot here who're asexual and can get aroused, but it doesn't lead them to want sex with a person. I guess to know better if it has to do with asexuality, you could ask yourself whether it's more of a fantasy, or if you'd really want to have sex with someone in real (whether or not you've found someone that fits yet). I guess for me, I just only feel horny out of no where, not even thinking of a sexual fantasy or a person or watching anything. During those times I do think that I want to have sex with a person, but I think just to get rid of the horny feeling and the act itself doesn’t really appeal to me. I don’t like/want really anything to do with sex as far as I can tell besides what I just mentioned and also I think the anatomy and scientific side is cool (I’m a biology major). I still honestly can’t tell if I’m ace because of those times where I do want to have sex, but I never picture anyone specific at those times... Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah-Sylvia Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 5 minutes ago, LesMeufs18 said: I guess for me, I just only feel horny out of no where, not even thinking of a sexual fantasy or a person or watching anything. During those times I do think that I want to have sex with a person, but I think just to get rid of the horny feeling and the act itself doesn’t really appeal to me. I don’t like/want really anything to do with sex as far as I can tell besides what I just mentioned and also I think the anatomy and scientific side is cool (I’m a biology major). I still honestly can’t tell if I’m ace because of those times where I do want to have sex, but I never picture anyone specific at those times... I see. Well I've seen a lot of asexuals talk like that but that they would choose to masturbate than have sex with a person when they feel like that. But honestly it falls in a line that I'm not sure what to make of it myself. I think it can still fall into the ace spectrum though. Link to post Share on other sites
LazyPilgrim Posted January 26, 2021 Share Posted January 26, 2021 To me, desire is like hunger. When I feel it, I masturbate, satisfy the desire, and it's gone. It's pleasurable, the same way having a good meal is pleasurable. From what I gather, part of the appeal of sex is mutual pleasure; two people both experiencing the act and working together. I wouldn't know personally, though. Link to post Share on other sites
The Abhorred Posted January 26, 2021 Share Posted January 26, 2021 Was there ever a time that you saw someone and felt horny? I understand that is sexual attraction otherwise the feeling itself, this energy is libido and whether yours is high or not has nothing to do with asexuality. Some asexuals don't have any libido or don't feel the need to masturbate others do. Link to post Share on other sites
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