everywhere and nowhere Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 There are some complicated phrases tossed around particularly when people try to define sexual attraction, and they often have the result of inducing a gag reflex in me... I can't remember all at the moment, but the one I probably hate most is "to share one's sexuality with someone". It is... so vague that it becomes disgusting, and I also find that it really, really lacks precision. To me it sounds like seriously talking about one's sexuality with another person - something even I, a 100% sex-averse person, could do (as long as that other person is female and ace-friendly), also because it's not like "I don't have a sexuality" - I do, it's just that it's defined, among other characteristics, by the lack of any willingness for sexual contact with others. Do any of you have such sex-related phrases you hate? Not just in AVEN discussions, also in general sex-related speech - ugh, sex slang has a lot of phrases which aces are more likely to find disgusting... Link to post Share on other sites
Iam9man Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 15 hours ago, Nowhere Girl said: Do any of you have such sex-related phrases you hate? Yes, definitely, but they disgust me so much I literally can’t bring myself to type them! Of the two I thought of, the first also comes with a heavy dose of toxic masculinity and the second relates to oral sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 I despise the word "pussy". Also "eating [someone] out" is an utterly repulsive phrase 🤮 Link to post Share on other sites
Iam9man Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 5 minutes ago, theV0ID said: I despise the word "pussy". Also "eating [someone] out" is an utterly repulsive phrase 🤮 Yeah that’s not a million miles from what I couldn’t bring myself to write 🤣 Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted November 23, 2020 Share Posted November 23, 2020 13 hours ago, theV0ID said: I despise the word "pussy". Also "eating [someone] out" is an utterly repulsive phrase 🤮 I only use either of those as part of a joke 😋😋 Link to post Share on other sites
Rin G. Ito Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 I mean if I wasn't that oblivious to sex terms I'd probably be able to coin down one or two 😂 Link to post Share on other sites
Libellule Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 x Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted November 24, 2020 Share Posted November 24, 2020 Any innocuous sounding euphemism for it. The most common offender is "sleeping with" someone. I actually don't really care about most of the more blatant/gross stuff because it's easier to identify it and tune it out. Link to post Share on other sites
everywhere and nowhere Posted November 24, 2020 Author Share Posted November 24, 2020 2 minutes ago, Philip027 said: Any innocuous sounding euphemism for it. The most common offender is "sleeping with" someone. Oh, by the way: I hate it when people use the word "intimacy" as an euphemism for sex. This is simply incorrect and harmful because it can actively prevent people from noticing that there an non-sexual forms of intimacy too... Link to post Share on other sites
Apollo11 Posted November 25, 2020 Share Posted November 25, 2020 4 hours ago, Nowhere Girl said: Oh, by the way: I hate it when people use the word "intimacy" as an euphemism for sex. This is simply incorrect and harmful because it can actively prevent people from noticing that there an non-sexual forms of intimacy too... I agree. I dislike it too. I also dislike it when people only use it to mean "romantic intimacy", because what about platonic intimacy? As for sex-related phrases, I hate those that imply some sort of dominance or aggressiveness, usually said by men in regards to women (e.g. "I'm gonna make you my bitch" - this was on a porn website; do people actually talk like this?) Link to post Share on other sites
hexingkinase Posted November 26, 2020 Share Posted November 26, 2020 "Daddy" in a sexual context. Just... why? Why? It's repulsive to me. Link to post Share on other sites
everywhere and nowhere Posted November 26, 2020 Author Share Posted November 26, 2020 17 minutes ago, hexingkinase said: "Daddy" in a sexual context. Just... why? Why? It's repulsive to me. I agree. It smells of incest and power relations, and I'm very much against power imbalance in intimate relations. Link to post Share on other sites
bare_trees Posted November 27, 2020 Share Posted November 27, 2020 The list is long, but something that came to mind right away is "hooking up," and the main reason is that for the longest time I thought it just meant that you got together with someone for a date. I once used it in the wrong setting meaning that I'd like to find someone to date and I got the worst looks. I can't deal with the phrase "making love," even. I'm not sure how, but even it sounds gross and whoever popularized it clearly meant for it for to be a less explicit way to talk about sex but you might as well be explicit, IMO, because it's just as uncomfortable. Any references to popping cherries or deflowering someone is a no from me too. Link to post Share on other sites
Apollo11 Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 10 hours ago, bare_trees said: Any references to popping cherries or deflowering someone is a no from me too. Why do people even use this metaphor with popping cherries? Sounds kinda stupid and nonsensical... and gross and weird, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Aiv Posted December 3, 2020 Share Posted December 3, 2020 On 11/26/2020 at 2:40 PM, Nowhere Girl said: On 11/26/2020 at 2:23 PM, hexingkinase said: "Daddy" in a sexual context. Just... why? Why? It's repulsive to me. I agree. It smells of incest and power relations, and I'm very much against power imbalance in intimate relations. This is getting into romantic territory too, but for some reason it bothers me when someone calls their partner 'baby.' In general anything originally for familial relationships. Is it truly appropriate to call someone who isn't your parent or child these words? It adds an additional connotation to them when, in my opinion at least, they should still be used purely and earnestly by family members, without the potential for them meaning anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
Morays Posted December 3, 2020 Share Posted December 3, 2020 11 minutes ago, an~imperial~votress said: for some reason it bothers me when someone calls their partner 'baby.' Yeah, I never really understood this either. It seems weird to infantilize any adult at all, let alone a partner. Link to post Share on other sites
DuranDuranfan Posted December 4, 2020 Share Posted December 4, 2020 I only hate the phrase C*ck carousel because it was invented by a hate group. Link to post Share on other sites
meggles Posted December 17, 2020 Share Posted December 17, 2020 The phrase "making love" makes me cringe. I've had plenty of loving relationships that never involved sex, and plenty of sex completely void of love. Equating sex with showing love grosses me out. Link to post Share on other sites
Kernel.Panic Posted December 17, 2020 Share Posted December 17, 2020 I have a special kind of contempt for a person that has coined the term "friends with benefits". I would also love to see the phrase "sleeping with someone" having only its literal meaning. Link to post Share on other sites
meggles Posted December 17, 2020 Share Posted December 17, 2020 On 11/24/2020 at 3:33 PM, Philip027 said: Any innocuous sounding euphemism for it. The most common offender is "sleeping with" someone. The allosexual friend who helped me realize I'm ace was someone I regularly shared a bed with. When our friends figured out he and I were regularly "sleeping together" they assumed incorrectly we were "sleeping together." He and I joke all the time how we "slept with" each other but almost nobody will ever believe that we were literally only sharing a bed. Link to post Share on other sites
Raindrops Posted December 17, 2020 Share Posted December 17, 2020 I've heard lines like "becoming one" or "joining bodies" which sound really creepy to me, like they're merging together. 🥶 Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 20, 2020 Share Posted December 20, 2020 On 11/27/2020 at 11:54 PM, Apollo11 said: Why do people even use this metaphor with popping cherries? Sounds kinda stupid and nonsensical... and gross and weird, too. Me too. Also blow a load, ewww, no, thank you, keep your load to yourself eeee Link to post Share on other sites
NuteNewt Posted December 27, 2020 Share Posted December 27, 2020 On 12/19/2020 at 6:40 PM, storminateacup said: Me too. Also blow a load, ewww, no, thank you, keep your load to yourself eeee Eugh I had forgotten about that one. I also am in agreement with pussy, immediately activates my gag reflex. Along with pet names such as babe or bae. I have to say a big one for me is actually girlfriend/boyfriend. To me they sound noncommittal and flippant. Plus they are literally saying friend who is girl/friend who is boy. It annoys me to no end. This might be due to my distaste for binaries in general, but the actual words make no sense and do not relate to what they are describing! And my final argument? Girls and boys are terms for young children, please don't use this to describe someone you are romantic/sexual/platonic/committed to. Link to post Share on other sites
HikaruBG Posted December 27, 2020 Share Posted December 27, 2020 On 12/17/2020 at 4:47 PM, Raindrops said: I've heard lines like "becoming one" or "joining bodies" which sound really creepy to me, like they're merging together. 🥶 I'm so sorry but I couldn't help myself. 😂 Spoiler Link to post Share on other sites
Comrade F&F Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 As beautiful as the song 'Take Me To Church' is, when the phrase 'something meaty' was used as an innuendo metaphor, I practically recoiled. Link to post Share on other sites
everywhere and nowhere Posted January 2, 2021 Author Share Posted January 2, 2021 I don't know this song, but this phrase is disgusting also to me - also because I simply find meat repulsive, I don't eat it and now I feel nauseous at the sight of raw meat. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveNotSex? Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 On 12/19/2020 at 7:26 AM, CBC said: So in this night our love unfolds, your body is akin to mine Another half once left behind in generations long ago To finally meet together, in a silent true immersion The natural culmination of a love we can't define And this loving is a drawing close, a tuning in, an opening Until one perfect moment; but how can it be expressed? A receiving and enfolding as I cradle you in my arms Within my heart, within my soul You are my true love Very nice and sad lines... It sounds like a good description of a feeling I had when I cuddled with someone I loved. Still don't understand why / how it's so strongly related to sex for others. On 12/17/2020 at 3:14 PM, meggles said: The phrase "making love" makes me cringe. Yes, me too like a few other phrases which suggest that love and sex are intertwined. In my first language, a term "love relationship" seems to be used for a sexual relationship. I used to think that the explanation on wikipedia is just wrong (and vage or misleading with sexual vs sensual attraction) and wondered why nobody had corrected it so far, until I found out that others really see it this way and I'm different. Link to post Share on other sites
Purple Red Panda Posted January 3, 2021 Share Posted January 3, 2021 I'm also not a fan of "sleeping with" as a euphemism and I'm trying to stop using it myself. I think I mainly dislike it because I would literally like to sleep with another person in a cuddled up non-sexual way, but without significant context "sleeping with" or even "sharing a bed with" will be taken as sexual. I don't expect the rest of society to abandon it as a euphemism for my sake or anything like that but I do find the phrase irksome Link to post Share on other sites
Taemi Posted January 5, 2021 Share Posted January 5, 2021 I hate when some heterosexual males constantly mention and point out on physical differences between male and female body and give them stupid nicknames. I feel extremely humiliated and disgusted. Link to post Share on other sites
guava.ghoul Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 I absolutely HATE when people use the term “sexy” to compliment me ..... even knowing I’m ace!!!! like no pls PLS stop that rn ew Link to post Share on other sites
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