a thing that happened ages ago and i still regret

[A User]

so basically, before i knew what asexuality was, i had this situation.
a guy from my class kept staring at me, just STARED at me. it was so nerving but i didn't know better. he also did other shit that was overly romantic and fucking awful

he got worse, and he started sending notes to my locker. like, ROMANCE NOTES (No, i never LOVED him)
and then started (advancing?) asking for my phone number, which i was apprehensive to give, but i knew no better.

and he started writing his feelings. like calling me special and stuff (which was even more shitty and i hated this guy now)
he asked me to "hang out" with him. i remember being (still kinda am) HELLA afraid cuz i only thought of him as a classmate and i was scared of him kissing me and being a romantic.

i couldn't say yes (bc of the above statement) i couldn't say no (didn't want to upset him), so i kept responding with"..." (fun fact, he gave me his house address; i never requested, and sent FUCKING OVER ThE TOP shit like... the stuff in romance movies)

i'd had enough at some point, i told him. and he was sad, but i had to let him know i didnt think of him as a love interest.

FAST FOWARD TO THE FUTURE

and i still am afraid of him, idk what to do. he still kept asking me to "hang out" i still didnt want to, even after 2 years...

hes at least (15..?) now, and im 13. but like, i never had ANY attraction to him, ever. he kinda made me be nervous, becuase of how i cant forget that.

but i still think i shouldve told him earlier.

i think the most relaxing part of this was when he said  to me in twitter dms: "I am going to hangout with someone else later on. Rather than you. Since you have never answered me or. Even if you did it was just a big NO."

i loved that. idk why, i just didnt want him to be with me irl, like EW NO.

but i kinda regret taking some steps two years ago.

i wish i knew what asexuality was so i could shove it in his face that time

i really still regret it, but at least hes not gonna ask me "out" anymore

[thylacine]

If this dude is still asking you out after all this time, he sounds kinda creepy and like a stalker.

 

If he bothers you again, tell a grown up.

 

You don't have to be asexual to say no to a guy, okay?  You have a right to say no, just because, well, just because you have a right to say no, and that's it.

[Libellule]

That sounds incredibly creepy on so many levels.

 

You don't need to feel bad about yourself, but this guy should for not understanding what No means. But please do tell a grown up that you trust if he keeps bothering you.

[A User]

7 hours ago, fairyofsuburbia said:

That sounds incredibly creepy on so many levels.

 

You don't need to feel bad about yourself, but this guy should for not understanding what No means. But please do tell a grown up that you trust if he keeps bothering you.

if anything, i was in grade 6 ( im grade 8 rn) and i told teachers, my parents, anyone really.

it even lead to the principal talking with me (small school= more access to principals) 

but he was older than me, and now that i think about it

idk what he wanted from me; was it dating, relationships, sexual things???

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but yes, creepy it defenetely was, cannot deny it, though for him it was... discouraging. he wanted me to "hang out", and he kept begging me to do so: wrote via text, wrote actual letters on paper Heck, he even sprayed a note with perfume and gave snacks to me once (BOTH at the same time).

kept on just creepily looking at me like i was a monument, like no

 

this situation is a big factor that lead me thinking about asexuality in the first place

[AspieAlly613]

My best advice:

 

If you're afraid of a person (regardless of circumstance) it's probably a bad idea to accept any sort of requests for proximity.