RobL2415 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Like, in addition to companionship and romance, I want to have those nights where my girlfriend and I just lay on the couch cuddling and in each other's arms. I crave physical closeness. Its like an acknowledgement of trust: "I care about you so much that I want to hold you close to me." And that's just beautiful. Link to post Share on other sites
Yoruka Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 YES. Link to post Share on other sites
Captain_Tass Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 As I haven't figured out text size formatting on mobile, I have no choice but to copy-paste @Yoruka's reply, as it's got the perfect amount of emphasis YES. Link to post Share on other sites
Zimmermikeee Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 1 hour ago, Life Of Tass said: As I haven't figured out text size formatting on mobile, I have no choice but to copy-paste @Yoruka's reply, as it's got the perfect amount of emphasis YES. I'll just quote this Link to post Share on other sites
Anarchist Kaos Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Sometimes, but most of the time I don't, to be honest I only really crave hugs when I'm really sad. Link to post Share on other sites
RobL2415 Posted November 20, 2020 Author Share Posted November 20, 2020 Just now, Anarchist Kaos said: Sometimes, but most of the time I don't, to be honest I only really crave hugs when I'm really sad. That's nice too. Everyone's need for physical contact is different. Link to post Share on other sites
Oberon Jasper Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 In a weird way. I'm touch avoidant but desperately crave physical closeness. It's a fun conundrum. In short: Yes but no Link to post Share on other sites
crystal_crescent Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 YES, a thousand times YES!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 In another world, yes. In reality, not really, I'm such an aromantic. Link to post Share on other sites
Faleeria Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Always depends on the person and on my mood. I do often just wish to hug someone I dearly treasure and never let go. Link to post Share on other sites
Blizzard Avis Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Definitely, although it doesn't have to be in a romantic way (friends, family, anything is good with me), and I'd actually prefer to be the one holding the other person in my arms rather than being held I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Acing It Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 another vote for Yes! Link to post Share on other sites
Mezzo Forte Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 I’m very particular about who I want to be platonically affectionate with, but when I want to be tactile, I want to be goddamn held. Thankfully, I apparently give good massages, so combined with my interest in strictly non-romantic, non-sexual touch, folks tend to appreciate my desire to get tactile. Link to post Share on other sites
_poklopie_ Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 And I'll drop another YES!!! here. I crave for some physical closeness even though I'm pretty much touch averse. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Among all the big yes, here comes a 'Not sure' 😅 Link to post Share on other sites
Raindrops Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 I like platonic hugs. Being "held" by someone might feel a little weird for me though. 🙃 Link to post Share on other sites
RobL2415 Posted November 20, 2020 Author Share Posted November 20, 2020 1 hour ago, _poklopie_ said: And I'll drop another YES!!! here. I crave for some physical closeness even though I'm pretty much touch averse. See, I'm not much of a talker but I like to express my feelings with touch to someone I'm romantically involved with. Although, one time I had a girl place her hand on my leg right near my crotch, like on my inner thigh, and that was awkward and uncomfortable. I didn't know what it meant at first but looking back on it, I'm pretty sure she was telling me she wanted to have sex. Link to post Share on other sites
_poklopie_ Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 49 minutes ago, RobL2415 said: See, I'm not much of a talker but I like to express my feelings with touch to someone I'm romantically involved with. I'm not much of a talker myself, that goes for all aspects, so I try to reach out in whatever way possible. Romantically speaking, I think I'd very much like to be physically close to my partner, even with just simple touches without purpose. But that is theoretical and heavily based on wishful imaginations; even with a steady relationship I was unable to engage in any of that. I partly attribute it to lack of such opportunities (of living together) and partly to contradicting thoughts on real life touches (which perhaps stem from expectations of people around that such touches will eventually lead to something more). so yeah, it's been hard placing myself in the conventional scenario of the surrounding. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 I'm demi, not ace, but yes there are times, particularly when one of us has had a rough day at work, when simply nestling in each other's arms just let's the stress of the day melt away. Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah-Sylvia Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 I haven't been held in quite a while now, and I kinda really want to be XD Link to post Share on other sites
RobL2415 Posted November 20, 2020 Author Share Posted November 20, 2020 1 hour ago, Sarah-Sylvia said: I haven't been held in quite a while now, and I kinda really want to be XD I wish I had someone. I suck at dating. Never really been my strong suit. Link to post Share on other sites
Oberon Jasper Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 1 hour ago, Sarah-Sylvia said: I haven't been held in quite a while now, and I kinda really want to be XD Just now, RobL2415 said: I wish I had someone. I suck at dating. Never really been my strong suit. For you all and whoever else needs them on this thread! Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah-Sylvia Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Just now, RobL2415 said: I wish I had someone. I suck at dating. Never really been my strong suit. Yeah the dating game can be a bit uncomfortable for me too. I like when I feel good with someone and it's easeful. Link to post Share on other sites
Acing It Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 3 hours ago, Sarah-Sylvia said: I haven't been held in quite a while now, and I kinda really want to be XD About 7 or so years for me 😞 Link to post Share on other sites
Purple Red Panda Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Yes, pretty much more than anything 😢 Link to post Share on other sites
Rin G. Ito Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 YESSSS 😧I need someone to hug ;-; Link to post Share on other sites
RobL2415 Posted November 20, 2020 Author Share Posted November 20, 2020 2 hours ago, Purple Red Panda said: Yes, pretty much more than anything 😢 Which reminds me, I need some more pillows. Link to post Share on other sites
Traveler40 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I understand the feeling well and was so desperate a few years back. Routine massages help when you need human touch and don’t have an outlet. I heard about a web based business which addresses this need: cuddlecomfort.com Granted, I’ve never tried anything like it, it’s nice to know it exists. Likewise, there are cuddle clubs you might join. Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I've never felt this way, even when I was feeling particularly down on myself. Usually if I'm feeling that down on myself, what I want is an actual solution to the problem that has me feeling that way, not some unrelated physical gesture that won't really solve anything. That said, I'm not touch-averse; I do enjoy hugs and such... but I've just never felt dependent on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Osiyo_Waya Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 11 hours ago, Anarchist Kaos said: Sometimes, but most of the time I don't, to be honest I only really crave hugs when I'm really sad. Same. Most of time I don't like to be touched, but every now and then, I'll crave a good hug and/or a simple hand hold. Jury's still out on cuddling. Link to post Share on other sites
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