SunlitMoonlight Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Why do you think so? Link to post Share on other sites
Oberon Jasper Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Parents wouldn't really be supportive. Same with family. Really... my close friends are about the only option. 😕 Link to post Share on other sites
Purple Red Panda Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Whoever you feel most comfortable in coming out first to. Link to post Share on other sites
SmaugtheDragon Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 I came out to friends first because I trust them be more supportive. Also, if they're not, it is easier to cut a close friend out of your life than family, especially if you live with family members, or you are dependent on them for anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Jade Cross Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Rather keep things under wraps Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 The only one who needs to know is a (potential) partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Libellule Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 I can only answer hypothetically as I haven't 'come out' to anyone yet - but if I do it it'll be one to of my closest friends. Mostly because I'd feel the most comfortable telling them. However, just because that's the case for me, it won't be for everyone else, and that's why I agree that you should come out first to the person you believe will be the most supportive, although the only person who really needs to know is a (potential) partner. Link to post Share on other sites
FJO8 Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 the Asexual report/survey shows that almost 50% of aces come out to close friends and/or parents first. I do not feel comfortable about my parents knowing, but my sister know and my closest friends Link to post Share on other sites
Oberon Jasper Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 @FJO8 I love your quote. That's beautiful. Link to post Share on other sites
DarkStormyKnight Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Close friends for sure, imo they're the people most likely to react positively and accept you as you are. Link to post Share on other sites
weird elf Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 I chose other because IMHO it depends on whom you feel safe with. Could be parents, could be friends, could be a best friend, could be a teacher or co-worker or whatever. Could be a complete stranger in a rainbow-friendly environment (like Pride or something). I don't think there's a one-way-fits-all answer to this question. Link to post Share on other sites
SpaceDustbin Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 No one but yourself. It might be nice if your potential partner knows as well, but otherwise people don't really have to know? Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpy Alien Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 There is no should. It’s a completely personal and individual choice if, when, how, and to whom you come out. Link to post Share on other sites
matt_lock Posted November 9, 2020 Share Posted November 9, 2020 Come out to? Not sure. Haven't done it yet (for sexuality, romantic orientation or gender) Be out to? Random strangers on the internet definitely. Especially communities who you know will be supportive. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted November 10, 2020 Share Posted November 10, 2020 To me there's no specific answer, it depends on the individual and their circumstances. Sometimes your hand is forced, either by a potential relationship issue, or parental pressure as to why you're not dating. Ideally you should be able to broach the subject with others you know will be accepting, say friends, an LGBT+ group at school / college / work etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Raindrops Posted November 10, 2020 Share Posted November 10, 2020 Not that I have any experience, but I'd say friends. Unless you have a particularly supportive family, it's just the safer option. Link to post Share on other sites
Grey-Ace Ventura Posted November 11, 2020 Share Posted November 11, 2020 Come out to yourself first. After that, it really depends. I came out to my ex best friend first because I felt most comfortable telling him. Then it was my closer friends, and I've been out on my social media for like 7 months now but still haven't come out to my parents because they're rainbowphobic and I wanted to wait until I was away at university (which I am now) and until I get on T. Link to post Share on other sites
Steel13 Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 I think coming out to friends is a safer way to go. If it doesn't go over well, at least you don't have to live with them or depend on them. It is also a good test to see how you want to come out to other people. If coming out to a friend goes well, then it feels great. Coming out to parents/family is a more delicate matter. While their support is really important, their rejection can be far more damaging since you have to interact/live with them. I also think families are more invested in your romantic relationships, which might make them more likely to reject you or be upset by the news. Link to post Share on other sites
anzu2snow Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 Probably close friends would be best. Not exactly sure why. Especially because I didn’t go that route. I told my parent first. Probably because she’s also LGBTQ+, she’s my only parent now, and I just felt more comfortable with her. I didn’t (still don’t) really have that many close friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Abigail Rose Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 I think it depends on what you're coming out as. It also would depend on trust and how independent you are. A person that can support themselves would have a lot more capability of taking care of themselves if they came out and didn't get support. I haven't come out to many people as anything they couldn't see by just looking at me. If they can't tell then why do they need to know? Link to post Share on other sites
Jea Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 You should first come out to the person you trust most and know will support you. Whether that's a parent, other relative, partner, sibling, friend etc doesn't matter. Whoever is the closest to you Link to post Share on other sites
•Arty• Posted January 12, 2021 Share Posted January 12, 2021 I picked complete stranger because I think a lgbtq+ (who you're sure support your sexuality) friendly platform can help to get some support, when the other one can lead to deception. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue eyes white dragon Posted January 16, 2021 Share Posted January 16, 2021 People that you can trust, will at least be respectful, and actually like Link to post Share on other sites
korik Posted January 17, 2021 Share Posted January 17, 2021 Whom ever you feel will be the most supportive. Link to post Share on other sites
teetojen Posted January 17, 2021 Share Posted January 17, 2021 I haven't come out to anyone yet, but I chose close friend because I have talked to one of my close friends about being in the closet and trying to figure out who I am. He is very supportive (and part of the LGBTQ+ community), so he understands what I am going through. Although he is 4 years younger than me, I have been looking up to him through my journey and know he will be the first one I come out to when I am ready. As @korik said, I think someone should first come out to whomever will be the most supportive and understanding. I know I will eventually come out to my parents, but I don't think they know what asexuality and aromanticism are, so it will be a lot of explaining, which I am not ready to do yet lol. Link to post Share on other sites
iff Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 @SunlitMoonlight This poll is being locked and moved to the read only Census archive for it's respective year. As part of ongoing Census organisation, and in an attempt to keep the demographics of the polls current with the active user base at the time, the polls will last for one year from now on. However, members are allowed and even encouraged to restart new polls similar to the archived ones if they like them. iff, Census Forum Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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