Elsin Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 Hi, I'm Ben. I'd say I identify somewhere between asexual and demisexual and am hetero-romantic. This is mainly because I have had sexual relationships in the past, only one of which I felt wholly while the rest just felt like I was doing what was expected of me. It's been over 10 years since I've had any kind of romantic or sexual relationship and I am very content as a singleton. I have told my immediate family, but not really gone into great detail about it. Initially my mother asked, "What does that mean?" and after explaining she said that it made a lot of sense. With others I've been met with the response: "You just might not have met the right person yet," and I'm open to that idea, which is why I'm partly identifying as demisexual. As for my interests, here's a little more about myself. I am a Mathematics graduate and plan to become a maths teacher over the next year. I like juggling, running, cycling, badminton and of course music; I've played the electric bass and acoustic guitar for most of my life now, though I used to be a lot better than I am now - I'm a little rusty. Anyway, I mainly joined this site to meet like-minded people and to have good discussions. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
Plantbasedme Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 Hii! Welcome 🍰🍰🍰🤍💜 I think I identify in a similar way to you, but I´ve realized that recently. How did you explain to your family so that it sounded reasonable? Link to post Share on other sites
RuneWolf Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 Hi and welcome. It's a tradition on the forum for new members to get cake so here's one for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Vicki475 Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 Hello Ben! I'm a newbie here too! And everyone has been so warm and welcoming. It sounds like you've got the same response from people as me. I was married so They all assume its because I cant see myself with anyone else. Nope! I didn't want to be with him! But that's what was expected of me. I was born in 75 and growing up there was no such thing as asexual! Crikey when I was in school the only thing they taught was straight sex! So I married. Had a daughter. and tried to be the 'good wife' but it wasn't me! At least your mum didn't react like mine! 🙈 I told her I was asexual and she said with glee 'OOOOOO! Like Cliff Richards!'🤦♀️ What do you say to that!?? We now laugh about it but at the time I didn't know what to say! Parents! We might not always know what to say but when we get it wrong we do it properly!!!🤣 Link to post Share on other sites
Elsin Posted October 29, 2020 Author Share Posted October 29, 2020 44 minutes ago, rachel_202 said: Hii! Welcome 🍰🍰🍰🤍💜 I think I identify in a similar way to you, but I´ve realized that recently. How did you explain to your family so that it sounded reasonable? Hey, thanks. Well I was just very direct about it. I couldn't offer much of an explanation as to why I feel how I do, but I just talked about my previous relationships and how I wasn't interested in the sex, except for in my earliest relationship, and the fact that I haven't really looked at anyone in a sexual way for years. They are fine with it but I don't know if they care enough to really read into it, and to be honest I mostly keep it to myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Elsin Posted October 29, 2020 Author Share Posted October 29, 2020 34 minutes ago, Vicki475 said: Hello Ben! I'm a newbie here too! And everyone has been so warm and welcoming. It sounds like you've got the same response from people as me. I was married so They all assume its because I cant see myself with anyone else. Nope! I didn't want to be with him! But that's what was expected of me. I was born in 75 and growing up there was no such thing as asexual! Crikey when I was in school the only thing they taught was straight sex! So I married. Had a daughter. and tried to be the 'good wife' but it wasn't me! At least your mum didn't react like mine! 🙈 I told her I was asexual and she said with glee 'OOOOOO! Like Cliff Richards!'🤦♀️ What do you say to that!?? We now laugh about it but at the time I didn't know what to say! Parents! We might not always know what to say but when we get it wrong we do it properly!!!🤣 Hi Vicki, thanks. Yeah I remember my mum asking me at first, 'so you're confused?' and I was pretty firm when I said I wasn't. She'd never heard of asexuality but after I explained what I meant she said it made a lot of sense. The community is welcoming, yeah, I'm looking forward to meeting more aces. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 Welcome in the community! Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted October 30, 2020 Share Posted October 30, 2020 Welcome! A maths teacher huh? Any chance you could help me? Jk jk Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 @Elsin A very belated welcome to AVEN! And Happy New Year! It's a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and even though I'm so very late welcoming you, here's a "Maths" cake, https://cakesdecor.com/cakes/147383-maths-cake Link to post Share on other sites
Elsin Posted January 2, 2021 Author Share Posted January 2, 2021 12 hours ago, MichaelTannock said: @Elsin A very belated welcome to AVEN! And Happy New Year! It's a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and even though I'm so very late welcoming you, here's a "Maths" cake, https://cakesdecor.com/cakes/147383-maths-cake Cute cake thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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