Pre-Marital Sex

[Niemand]

So have you had/are you planning to have pre-marital sex? I'm curious to see if asexuals are more likely to wait than sexuals (probably to postpone their involvement in it). And I know there are different definitions/types of sex so just use your own definition.

I think I got all the options...

EDIT: more poll options added at request of Niemand.

Other added for those who do not seem to fit in the other choices. However, it you choose this option, pease explain. Thank you. :)

FelineFanatic

Mod

[Placebo]

Well, you did miss the "sexual, planning to never have it" option (they could be celibate. . . )

But I picked the "no sex, please" option.

[Niemand]

Well, you did miss the "sexual, planning to never have it" option (they could be celibate. . . )

I figured there wouldn't be enough sexuals who would choose that option to make it worth it to create it. But some mod can add it if they want.

Oh, and drat, I should've phrased it "planning to wait/did wait." Oh well.

[FelineFanatic]

Well, you did miss the "sexual, planning to never have it" option (they could be celibate. . . )

I figured there wouldn't be enough sexuals who would choose that option to make it worth it to create it. But some mod can add it if they want.

Oh, and drat, I should've phrased it "planning to wait/did wait." Oh well.

Tell me exactly what you would like added. I can also add an "Other-please explain" to satisfy anyone who may come up with another choice that has not yet been discussed.

FF

mod (answer here or by PM as you prefer)

[deladangerous]

Surely there are some people out there who aren't either specifically planning to or planning not to...

(not that I'm one of 'em, but still.)

[spinneret]

Surely there are some people out there who aren't either specifically planning to or planning not to...

*raises hand* I really don't have any plans either way. I mean, I'm not particularly planning on having sex or getting married in general, but who knows? I've discovered that life doesn't really care one way or another what I plan, anyway.

I don't have any ethical qualms about premarital sex--in fact, if I were to spend the rest of my life with someone and that someone were to want to have sex (why are we getting married again?) I'd definitely want to try it out first. Whether sex is tolerable or not (or great, who knows) is definitely something I'd want to know going in.

But. That doesn't mean I'm planning on anything. Marriage? :shock:

Except to dela, of course. and half of the rest of AVEN. But I don't think we're going to have sex before we get married. That would be frickin' bizarre.

[brian_w]

Not planning on getting married, so therefore not planning to have pre-marital sex :)

At 57, I'm still a virgin and quite happy to remain that way - for the present at least. Never say 'never' :)

[hydrae]

I'm planning on remaining a virgin.

[helana12_03]

I chose "Asexual, planning to wait until marriage". If I ever find a guy I actually want to marry(chances of 0%), I believe I will want to try to have sex with him, only if he wants to try it too and when we are both ready(maybe we will see it as some way to express our deep connection and love). It doesn't have to be after the wedding night(because I don't want anyone to rush into marring me because of that) but it can inly happen with "The one"-the guy whom I really plan to spend my life with and plans to spend his life with me, I don't believe in having sex with more than one person in a lifetime.

[Acacia]

Agreed pretty much completely with helana12_02--although in the even that I actually find someone I like enough to get married to, if they're asexual, that obviously wouldn't apply in most cases.

[Frigid Pink]

I'm asexual and I don't plan to have sex.

Why?

Because I don't want to, so I don't see a reason to plan to.

In general, though, I don't really believe in the institution of marriage, and don't see it as the epitome of a relationship's committment or devotion.

Therefore, I don't believe a person should wait until marriage before having sex because that belief implies that everyone is going to get married or that everyone should get married.

Marriage isn't right for everyone, and doesn't make a relationship any better than one that doesn't have legal documentation.

[violeteyedsoul]

I choose planning to NEVER have it.

If I can get away with it, I hope to get married and NEVER have to put up with sex.

ICK!

* S H I V E R ! ! ! ! *

[agentkgb]

I'm asexual and I haven't had sex and don't want to.

[141822]

I chose other. I'm certainly not planning anything. If I do meet someone and choose to have sex, it will most likely be pre-marital because the probability of me getting married is pretty close to zero, unless I can marry more than one person at a time... I digress. It's hard for me to think ahead to what I might do, I can only say for certain after I'm in that type of situation what my choice would be.

[IronWulf]

I said "Other" because before I was married I didn't know I was Asexual, but at the time I was definatly waiting for marriage. Now my advice would be, if you think you're asexual and in a relationship that looks like it's leading to marriage, I would say try sex first. See if it is something you think you can compromise on.

[Virgo]

I intend to perpetually reamin a Virgo, thank you kindly. :)

[Pixies]

I'm not planning either way, really. With the way my life is going right now, I''ll probably happily stay a virgin forever. I have a habit of throwing myself curveballs, though, so I'm not going to make any concrete statements one way or the other. Maybe I'll decide to give the whole sex thing a shot sometime. Maybe not.

[ghosts]

Have had it, although I wasn't planning on it at the time. But I'm fine with it :)

[McBuh]

It isn't important enough to make plans to do it, or to make plans to avoid doing it.

[Shockwave]

I find the term premarital sex interesting because it means "sex before marriage". Since I don't want to ever get married I can, technically, never have premarital sex no matter how sexually active I become.

[Philip]

I chose "sexual, planning to wait until marriage", but I have no plans to get married.

[Xenon]

Had it. Was underwhelmed by the experience.

[annie71]

i chose other and was told "to explain" by the poll!!! LOL

all it means is that i didn't use to know it was ok to not have sex (phew, talk about being uninformed and whatnot...)

so i've had premarital sex, but i don't "plan" at this point in my life, on ever having any kind of sex again, premarital or otherwise...

i wouldn't mine some premarital cuddling and handholding tho!

[neurofreez]

I'm asexual and I don't plan to have sex.

Why?

Because I don't want to, so I don't see a reason to plan to.

Exactly.

No desire to get married or have premarital sex.

[Nescience]

I'm asexual and I don't plan to have sex.

Why?

Because I don't want to, so I don't see a reason to plan to.

Exactly.

No desire to get married or have premarital sex.

Same here.

[maco]

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[Guest IrishGirl]

I'm asexual and I haven't had sex and don't want to.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Unless a miracle happens and I meet another asexual that I like enough to marry and who happens to like me I won't even be doing that.

[PollyB]

I voted that I'm asexual and have had sex but could equally have voted other on the "marital" end of it, since even when I didn't know I was asexual, I definitely wasn't planning on marriage.

[Kallan]

Asexual, have had sex, would like to not have sex ever again, but will probably end up having sex at some point (It's a very useful way to control people).

[moreau36]

Not planning to have pre-marital sex, letting alone getting married.

At 27, I'm still a virgin, extremely proud, and plan to remain that way :D