Are demisexuals attracted to celebrities or fictional characters?

[bierangtamen]

As a demisexual, I personally have never been attracted to fictional characters or celebrities beyond aesthetic attraction. Never felt the need to have sex with them. I was just wondering if anyone has been so deeply invested in a celebrity or a fictional character to actually get to that point of attraction. Just curious about people's stories and opinions :)) 

[Raindrops]

I'm ace but have sexual fantasies, and all of them involve fictional characters. 🙂 I find them more exciting and interesting than regular humans, haha.

[Comrade F&F]

Hang on, doesn't demisexual mean you'll only feel sexual attraction after you've formed a deep and intimate bond with your SO? And you're basically ace until that happens?

[Guest]

For me, no with celebrities, and "kind of" with fictional characters. I think the more real they are, the more real the relationship has to also exist. There's my imagination that I like to play with, but celebrities just get creepy and infinitesimally as interesting.

[Guest]

Yes, for me. However, I typically have to get invested in their backstory and who they are. 

[UndertaleGirl]

I'm a proud ace but I do have fantasies about fictional characters and very rarely. As for celebrities, I find it really weird.

[Raindrops]

1 hour ago, KrysLostInSpace said:

Yes, for me. However, I typically have to get invested in their backstory and who they are. 

Same! If my fantasies involve myself in any way I have to try and write myself into their story that makes sense and doesn't alter their character. 😃

[Enim]

Personally I never felt any attraction towards celebrities nor fictional characters. I can find someone really pretty, both fictional or not, but I never end up fantasizing about being with them.

[Guest]

30 minutes ago, Raindrops said:

Same! If my fantasies involve myself in any way I have to try and write myself into their story that makes sense and doesn't alter their character. 😃

yeAH , GO uS

[RoseGoesToYale]

I've been slightly romantically interested in celebrities/fictional characters before, but never sexually attracted.

[Sarah-Sylvia]

I'm in the same boat as @Sky Tune Rein and some others. No to celebrities (unless there's some exception I can't think of), but yes or kind of to fictional characters, usually the openness of it being a fantasy is quite different than an actual person.

(plus more background or story can be added to fictional)

[Andrea KF]

No celebrities.

 

Yes, with fictional characters, if they have an interesting backstory that unravels in a similar way one forms an emotional connection with a real person before feeling any attraction.

[Karekare]

I'm demisexual. No to celebrities and also no to fictional characters. Even tho I like fictional characters like, as characters/people, and I like their personalities, I still don't really feel anything sexual toward any of them. I might find their design aesthetically pleasing, but in no way have I ever fantasized or anything like that. 

[Marlow1]

I am Demisexual. I do not become attracted to celebrities or fictional characters. Part of the reason for this is because I have Aphantasia.

 

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/kwkway/what-its-like-to-instantly-forget-what-friends-and-lovers-looks-like

[Ana]

Wow. I identify with being a bit gray, but not demi, and most crushes I have ever had were fictional characters, or a couple of celebrities because I liked the characters they played. 😄

[dgt]

Aside from acknowledging a particularly pleasing aesthetic, they are still strangers to me. Even if I have spoken to them a number of times, they would still be acquaintances. This is better of course, but nonetheless far from truly knowing and trusting another person mutually, i.e., being very close friends. So I've never been attracted to a celebrity, and I don't think I could be attracted to a fictional character (well, I suppose such a character could exemplify an ideal of the kind of person/relationship that I could be drawn toward; grist for a kind of literal mental masturbation? 🙃 At least in theory; I haven't encountered such yet.)

[Skycaptain]

Anyone can experience attraction to fictional characters. I rather doubt that one's sexuality plays a huge role in this, unless actually fictosexual 

[Lin.kenobi]

Hi! I’m having some conflicting thoughts about myself and I think I may be demisexual? I was just wondering about the fictional characters/celebrity topic. I’ve not dated much (I’m 20) and recently the guy that I was talking to and got quite personal with made me question myself. Like he wants to be intimate and I don’t just because i feel like we aren't close enough or that I’ll never have the connection he wants me to have with him. But I’m also attracted to celebs and some various fictional characters and feel attached to some of them. 
 

and also every person I’ve dated/talked to doesn’t get that far, and when I think about it, demisexual just makes sense to me when it comes to irl relationships, but the fact that I’m attracted to certain characters and celebs just confuses me a lot.

[Kia713]

As a Demisexual I do have celebrity crushes, but mostly fantasizing them, but my real problem are not them because first of all I don't know them in real life, there's obviously no chance for me to get to see them in real life, so I'm chill with those crushes of mine.

The real problem of my life is how I always fall for my close friends and I get to suppress that feeling because I know it'll ruin my friendships and I always meet and talk with them, that's the most cruel side of Demisexuality for me. 

[Guest]

I'm demi and I have crushes on celebrities and fictional characters. I sometimes fantasise romantically about celebs and characters but never sexually. I need an emotional connection to desire sex. When I fantasise about sex it isn't with any known person, I imagine a loving long term partner, I can't imagine sex any other way because I need that emotional connection to desire it. I find it odd when allosexuals leave comments about celebs and how much they'd like to do certain sexual activities with them. Never understood it. 

[meinherzbrennt]

If I'm a hardcore fan, yes. I know logically that I don't have an actual relationship with them, but I can still have a strong emotional attachment that leads to sexual attraction.

[Iphis]

Hi, I read all the thread and I've seen that all (or almost) the demisexuals answered that they don't have sexual attraction toward celebrities or fictional characters and it made me think...

I had a very short relationship with a  demisexual boy and he told me that he watched porn ("vanilla" ones I think). So how do you think it worked for him, since if I understand demisexuals feel sexual attraction only after a strong bond with their partner?

I don't mean to invalidate his identity of course, I'm just curious to better understand it.

 

[kng.writes]

Oh I definitely do! But I'd say my attractions to fictional characters and celebrities are more aesthetic and emotional in nature. That said, a well-written character in a romance novel, or a celebrity that I've built a parasocial relationship to across several movies have both absolutely caused spicy stirrings, and for awhile, was one of the big things holding me back from identifying as ace. 

 

In more concrete terms: if someone shows me a photo of one of the Hollywood Chrises and asks me if I think they're sexually attractive, they'll probably just get a blank stare from me. But I'll bend over backwards to see the next movie that Timothée Chalamet is in, because at this point, I'm already half in love with him in everything I've already seen him in.

[raccoon_ra]

I'm demisexual and i've never felt romantically nor sexually attracted to celebrities in any form. With fictional characters, I have been romantically and sexually attracted (the farthest away they are from being a real person).

[Sky Tune Rein]

On 9/1/2020 at 11:36 AM, Guest said:

For me, no with celebrities, and "kind of" with fictional characters. I think the more real they are, the more real the relationship has to also exist. There's my imagination that I like to play with, but celebrities just get creepy and infinitesimally as interesting.

[Philip027]

Old necroed topic yaaaaaay

 

But no, they aren't.  What you "have" with a celebrity or fictional character isn't a bond.  They don't even know you (or exist).  This isn't to say that the other entity needs to match your feelings, but it has to go both ways on at least some level; there has to be at least some mutual familiarity if you're gonna call it a bond.

 

Regularly experiencing such feelings toward such entities I would say is actually definitive proof that someone isn't actually "demi" on at least one of the relationship spectra, and more toward just... idk, just regular ass sexuality/romanticism.  If anything, it might be a sign of a fear of commitment or anything "real" depending on how consistent it is.