dipsy Posted August 3, 2020 Share Posted August 3, 2020 I remember being in a relationship and wanting to kiss him then a few seconds later not even wanting to kIss him anymore. I remember sitting at his desk in his room while he was on his bed and feeling totally fine. I remember sort of panicking each time he tried to touch me (yeeah, I don't think I wanted or liked to be touched) and when he touched me, I felt abso-freaking-lately nothing. I remember wanting to kiss him, doing so and feeling nothing then almost hating myself after. I remember feeling totally fine watching a movie with him but not sitting beside him or cuddling..the thought of it made me feel uncomfortable but I knew I loved him so much and was very much attracted to him. I also remember not wanting anyone standing too close to me. I get annoyed when a person comes and stands next to me or in front of me, be it a crush or a stranger (super annoyed when it's a stranger..if it's someone I like, I create more distance but if they keep closing it, that's when I snap).. I like my space, I'm kind of territorial in an animalistic kind of way BUT I like holding hands and sometimes I need or want to hug someone. I have romantic feelings though. Kissing looks fun and cool but does it make you feel something and should it? Or it's about doing it with the right person? Do I even like kissing? Why do I have romantic feelings but not want to share physical space with anyone? Is there something wrong wit me? Where does that put me under the Ace umbrella? HELP...anybody?😕 Link to post Share on other sites
Snao Cone Posted August 3, 2020 Share Posted August 3, 2020 A lot of people get intense feelings out of kissing, but not everyone. For many sexual people it's part of foreplay that leads up to sex, which is part of what makes it so intimate. I like the idea of kissing but it never feels as good when I'm actually doing it. I'm not inclined to keep doing it for very long, or go any further. I think that's normal and healthy within asexuality as an orientation. There's nothing wrong with not being into it. As far as labels go, this would fit "romantic asensual asexual" as sensual orientation is about non-sexual physical affection. It's not common for people to outwardly identify their sensual orientation in day to day life (aside from saying things like "I'm not a touchy feely person"), while people identify their romantic and sexual orientations as a starting point for describing what they want in life in terms of partnership. If you're not sure if you really like kissing, it doesn't hurt to try. It's lower stakes than sex. Just don't make any promises to the person you're kissing that you're really into it, so they don't expect too much from you. Link to post Share on other sites
dipsy Posted August 4, 2020 Author Share Posted August 4, 2020 yay! So I'm normal? 😀 AWESOMENESS! Thanks love..you've been much help😊😊 Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted August 4, 2020 Share Posted August 4, 2020 Personally not big on kissing, much prefer hugs if anything. Different strokes for different folks. Romantic people can still be touch-averse because these things are not mutually exclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
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