Goldengirl97 Posted July 31, 2020 Share Posted July 31, 2020 Hi guys š I honestly donāt know how to start something like this, so please just bear with me. I first came across the term Asexual a few years ago. Looking more into it, I felt that I related to a lot of the descriptions of asexuality but thought that maybe it was because I had never had a real intimate relationship until recently. Still I find myself wondering why sex is such a big deal and just in general the idea makes me super uncomfortable. Throughout my later teenage years, I tried to avoid intimate situations and always told myself it was because I wasnāt ready. But now having experienced a few intimate relationships, there has never been any real sexual attraction to them. I did have a fairly traumatic event happen to me around 16 and thought maybe that it was connected, but now Iām starting to think that maybe itās not the fear but actually being asexual. Ā And sexual attraction has never been a thing for me. I have and do experience crushes and physical attraction (I think people are good looking and all) and much prefer to have a mental connection with someone. I have no need to sleep with someone and would so much rather go on an adventure or even just have a proper conversation. Iām just hoping that now that Iām learning more about AVEN, that things will become clearer to me in time. I look forward to meeting more people who are going through something similar to me. Itās not something I have ever spoken about because I just wasnāt sure about anything. Ā (sorry if this is a bit long winded and a ramble) Link to post Share on other sites
Salmakia Posted July 31, 2020 Share Posted July 31, 2020 Welcome to AVEN! 1 hour ago, Goldengirl97 said: would so much rather go on an adventure or even just have a proper conversation. Hey me too! My friends and I go hiking all the time, or sometimes we'll play board games all day or literally just sit and talk for hours at a time. That's pretty much the ideal relationship for me. Enjoy this Golden Girls cake! Link to post Share on other sites
Goldengirl97 Posted July 31, 2020 Author Share Posted July 31, 2020 44 minutes ago, Salmakia said: Welcome to AVEN! Hey me too! My friends and I go hiking all the time, or sometimes we'll play board games all day or literally just sit and talk for hours at a time. That's pretty much the ideal relationship for me. Enjoy this Golden Girls cake! I love it!! Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah-Sylvia Posted July 31, 2020 Share Posted July 31, 2020 Welcome! š° Ā Sounds like you're already realizing quite a bit about yourself and happy to be. I hope being around gives you even more of that sense.Ā I think you're in the right place Enjoy your time around. Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted July 31, 2020 Share Posted July 31, 2020 Welcome! Oh the good looking thing is called aesthetic attraction, thereās s cute little sketchcomic that covers it Ā https://www.deviantart.com/secondlina/art/Sketchcomic-types-of-Attraction-298804729 Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted August 12, 2020 Share Posted August 12, 2020 @Goldengirl97Ā A very belated welcome to AVEN! Ā I hope you find AVEN helpful for figuring yourself outĀ good luck! Ā Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a "Golden Girls" cake, https://gramho.com/media/2157395103698000527 Link to post Share on other sites
Aquatic Paradox Posted August 12, 2020 Share Posted August 12, 2020 Welcome, you sound asexual to me. š Ā Would you (personally, forget about other peopleās judgements)Ā be content with not having sex for the rest of your life? If yes, youāre asexual.Ā Ā I wonāt open the Pandoraās Box called āromantic attractionā though š Ā Hereās aĀ cake: Ā Link to post Share on other sites
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