Rainy Robin Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 Just curious to see when people first thought they might be aro / ace / on the spectrums. Link to post Share on other sites
Madelise Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 I came to the realization that I'm on the aro/ace spectrums late last year, so when I was 16. If I really would've looked into it more before that, I probably would've found out that I'm demi (demiromantic at least) when I was like 15, maybe 14. Link to post Share on other sites
SithLord Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 After I graduated high school and around the time I met my bf, so 19 I'd say. Link to post Share on other sites
Rainy Robin Posted July 19, 2020 Author Share Posted July 19, 2020 Similar to @Elise Jennings I think I would've figured it out sooner too if I had looked it up earlier. I didn't realize I might be ace / arospec until a few months ago (at 21) when I started learning more about sexual orientations and realized the bisexual label didn't work for me 😆 Link to post Share on other sites
GingerRose Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 Still waiting... Link to post Share on other sites
Gamma/kimera Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 first thought about it at 19....figured it out at 25...had about 5 years of denial. Fully accepted the label around my 30th birthday Link to post Share on other sites
Salmakia Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 26 minutes ago, Rainy_Robin said: I think I would've figured it out sooner too if I had looked it up earlier. Yeah, same. I figured it out last year (so age 19) but my earliest memory of being confused/uninterested in sex and romance was age 12. I just didn't have a word for the feelings back then. Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted July 19, 2020 Share Posted July 19, 2020 I was around 14 years old. The realisation came when I started hearing sexual and romantic comments from my peers and in media and felt bewildered by them. Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 Moved to Census Forum Janus DarkFox Questions about Asexuality, Asexual Musings and Rantings & Open Mic Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 About 23 is when I first realized about sexual identity nearly 10 years ago, not long later I identified with AroAce. Link to post Share on other sites
Rhyn Corinn Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 17 (though I would have likely known at 14 had I heard of asexuality then...) Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 42, never heard of asexuality until then Link to post Share on other sites
Aquatic Paradox Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 I first identified as asexual at 23, but I knew something was off in my early teens. Link to post Share on other sites
fooledbysecrecy Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 discovered asexuality was a thing at 25. still figuring out the romantic orientation. Link to post Share on other sites
Echevera Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 I've always known i was aro and I knew I was ace the moment heard about sex, but I didn't have a term for it until I was around 13. Link to post Share on other sites
sababajwa Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 since birth haha, i just didn't know the name i thought i was alone in this until i was like 23 and saw a video of david jay. Link to post Share on other sites
Enim Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 I was 14/15 I think, I saw a tumblr post going around that explained the different sexualities under the ace umbrella, thought that the term demisexual fitted really well, did some research and identified with it since then (I am now 22) ^^ Link to post Share on other sites
Theacechemist Posted July 22, 2020 Share Posted July 22, 2020 January of this year so 19. would have made my previous and only relationship a lots less bad. much of the contention was at a deep rooted level insecurities caused by me unknowing being asexual. oh well the past is the past and now I'm finally ready to try to date again (I think) Link to post Share on other sites
Mirimiri Posted July 24, 2020 Share Posted July 24, 2020 I first thought I might be ace/aro when I was 13 or so, but I thought I was too young to know that for sure, so I didn't start openly identifying as ace until I was 16, two standard deviations outside the average age of first sexual attraction. Link to post Share on other sites
Kikuhiko Posted August 5, 2020 Share Posted August 5, 2020 The first time I thought about it was when I was 16 because a friend of mine told everyone that I was (I wasn't even familiar with the concept), I remember I got really flustered and since I wasn't even sure what it meant I immediately denied it, later I looked it up and while it sort off made sense I thought it was a silly idea and that such a thing couldn't exist at all, so rather than thinking about that I concentrated on having relationships and majorly screwing them up for a really long time. It wasn't until I was 26 that I started seriously considering the idea and started to take it seriously and a bit later I finally admitted it to myself, though it's not something I discuss openly with people, I find it too stressful so I guess I'm technically still in the closet but I'm pretty sure my siblings know as well as at least 3 friends. Link to post Share on other sites
alexis89 Posted August 20, 2020 Share Posted August 20, 2020 I was 18/19, but I knew something was different about me in high school, I had just never heard about asexuality until I was in university. I'm pretty sure I would have figured it out sooner if I had known asexuality was a thing in high school Link to post Share on other sites
BeADreamer Posted August 30, 2020 Share Posted August 30, 2020 I was 17 when I first heard the word, but unfortunately, I was one of those people who thought the word could only be used in a biological context. So I dismissed it. But then my sister mentioned something about demisexuality and gave a definition outright, so I started looking into it and I rediscovered the term asexual. I was 18 when I figured it out and 20 when I stopped doubting it. But I always felt “off” compared to my peers in this regard, I just didn’t have a name for it. Reading my old diary entries from middle/high school confirms that. And I don’t believe I even thought to consider I might be on the aro spectrum until I was 20 because I had had one romantic crush before... but only one. And that was years ago. Link to post Share on other sites
cato Posted August 31, 2020 Share Posted August 31, 2020 I had a brief period of thinking I was bisexual when I was 14 because I recognized I didn't pine for one sex over the other, but I thought that because the only options I was even aware of at the time were straight, gay, and bisexual, and I knew I wasn't the first two. It hadn't occurred me one could not be on the sexuality spectrum at all. I honestly have no idea exactly when or how I came across the term, but I know I landed on the term asexual a year later at 15, though. Link to post Share on other sites
FaerySilverwings Posted August 31, 2020 Share Posted August 31, 2020 Let's see... started offhand saying I was "borderline asexual" but not identifying myself as anything past that at around 25-ish... and actually figured out enough of my real identity to come out to myself and understand that it was a real thing about two weeks ago, age 29. I think I'd have identified as ace/aro a lot earlier if I'd been around people more when I was younger, or had a reason to investigate the terms earlier. (or, well, if the terms had even been a thing when I was a teenager.) Weirdly, I actually knew several openly ace folks in real life during my first round of university, but since I was trying to avoid some very intense people in our mutual social circle and no one ever brought up sexuality/romance stuff around me... (I guess because I didn't seem interested?) or gave me space or reason to talk about my own experiences... I somehow missed getting this figured out ten years ago. I have to say, it's comforting to see other "older" people commenting here. I don't feel nearly as behind-the-curve as I usually do. Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted August 31, 2020 Share Posted August 31, 2020 I'm split on this I identified as asexual back when I was 44. I didnt realise what aromantic meant until two years ago when I was 56. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 1, 2020 Share Posted September 1, 2020 20, 21 for ace. Took me ten more years for aro. Link to post Share on other sites
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