Is there a name for a person who doesn’t want to have sex, yet, knows all about it?

[Kat Baku]

I’m just curious, I think I am the only one who has this, I have tried to find an answer but I can’t find one with my specifics.

[Skycaptain]

A fairly typical AVENiste 😋😋

 

Given that many members of the forum have had to consider, investigate and research far more about at least one of gender, romantic and sexual orientations than the average "cishet and happy with this" person I'd be far from surprised if our academic and theoretical knowledge about these topics is greater than that of the population as a whole, even if we may have less practical "experience". The phrase "I've learnt more about sex on AVEN than at sex-ed" has been used here on more than one occasion. 

[Plushval]

Could you go into further explanation regarding "knowing all about sex"? Because I for example also know a lot of things, but only in theory, cause I read way too much fanfiction. Yet I don't need to have sex, I'm only kinda interested and curious, even though I also can't imagine finding someone to pursue it with, since I'm also aro and very much never feel any kind of attraction.

[Homer]

An educated person? Person with knowledge about a subject?

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Kat Baku said:

I’m just curious, I think I am the only one who has this, I have tried to find an answer but I can’t find one with my specifics.

It depends on what you mean by "knows all about it". Because heck I thought I knew EVERYTHING about sex before I actually had it, lol. Now I've had enough of it to be pretty confident that 1) I didn't know much at all to start with and 2) I actually do know almost everything about it now.

 

I still don't want it though, and probably won't have it again

[Guest]

Oh and welcome to AVEN by the way

[Homer]

1 hour ago, CBC said:

You beat me to it. I was going to say 'knowledgeable'...

Yeah I basically wrote "curved yellow fruit" and you wrote "banana". Me none goodly Englisch speek *facepalm*

[Janus the Fox]

Somebody well informed on the subject.

[ManyThings0]

8 hours ago, Plushval said:

Could you go into further explanation regarding "knowing all about sex"? Because I for example also know a lot of things, but only in theory, cause I read way too much fanfiction. Yet I don't need to have sex, I'm only kinda interested and curious, even though I also can't imagine finding someone to pursue it with, since I'm also aro and very much never feel any kind of attraction.

You just described my entire life tbh

[WrenIsNotMyRealName!!]

I think I might know what you mean. I was born with a complete understanding of sex and sexual relationships even though no one even told me and I've never wanted to partake in it.

[Guest]

Well in scandinavia where i live, abstinence teaching is banned in schools, so when i went to school we had a great sex ed where we’ve been taught everything about sex, what sex is, what happens when you have sex, safe sex(even though i’ve never learned how to put a condom on a banana😂), STD, the difference between porn and real sex etc etc. 

 

My parents(who’s very religious) have a very liberal view on sex, so we also had the sex talk if i had any questions about sex. 

 

So i know almost everything about sex and sexual activities. But i’m still a virgin and are  not interested in having sex with people irl. I’m aegosexual so i do have sexual and kinky fantasies, but aren’t interested in sex with anyone and wouldn’t want to. 

Just because you’re a virgin doesn’t always mean that you don’t know everything about sex, it just requires a great sex ed.

 

[everywhere and nowhere]

On 11/13/2021 at 12:31 PM, Cocothecoconut said:

Well in scandinavia where i live, abstinence teaching is banned in schools

Which is a bit of a pity. While it has been proved that abstinence-only sex ed doesn't keep people from having sex and only keeps them from doing it safely, I think that at least some... abstinence encouragement would be right. I really do believe that 15-, 16- or even 18-year-olds shouldn't have sex because they are usually not yet mature enough to give fully informed consent.

[Guest]

11 hours ago, everywhere and nowhere said:

Which is a bit of a pity. While it has been proved that abstinence-only sex ed doesn't keep people from having sex and only keeps them from doing it safely, I think that at least some... abstinence encouragement would be right. I really do believe that 15-, 16- or even 18-year-olds shouldn't have sex because they are usually not yet mature enough to give fully informed consent.

Well the legal age to have sex here is 15, but you know as long as they use safe sex i’m fine with it personally. 

I’m against abstinence teaching if i should be honest, because you know everyone has a choice whether or not they would want to have sex or not. I do agree that young people shouldn’t have sex at a young age since they’re still children(cause being 18 just means that you can do almost everything you want, like moving out from your parents, voting, buy alcohol, driving a car etc etc. And yes you’re an adult legally and in the eyes of the society, but it doesn’t mean you’re an adult or mature in reality. I wish i’ve known that). But i’m no one’s parents so the young people can do whatever they want, but of course with their own responsibilities. 
 

Since we have a good sex ed, they do know the consequences of not using safe sex and if the condoms breaks(if they don’t use them in the right way). 

That’s also the reason why teen pregnancies is very low here, not every teenagers at 15-18 have sex at a young age. I can’t speak for everyone, but i know from my own personal experience that most of my classmates never had sex, even when we had sex ed. And abstinence teaching is illegal and looked down upon, so i don’t think it ever will be a thing, but yeah i see your point and i totally agree with you.

 

But i’m also like we can’t tell them what’s right or wrong, they have to experience it themselves.

Agree with me or not, but yeah it’s my opinion.