Echo16 Posted September 3, 2021 Share Posted September 3, 2021 Hello asexual girl who loves to dress in revealing/tight ‘sexy’ clothing. There are three main reasons that I dress the way that I do. 1. I’ve been told a lot throughout my life what I can and cannot wear so I don’t attract sexual attention from my parents and ex boyfriend. So it’s a way for me to take power back and ownership of my body. A ‘Screw you I can where a crop top and still deserve basic human decency’ 2. Creativity! I’ve always loved being creative and fashion is just another way I can express myself. Why would I want to limit myself to conservative clothing? 3. I’m super confident in my body so why should I have to hide it? I like my body I don’t really care. 4. It’s hot outside. 5. A body is just a body to me. I don’t understand why the fact that simply have legs can make people want to sexual use me. Have you never seen legs before??? Yes you are correct I have butt…so do you. I know that not everyone shares that sentiment but whatever I think we should normalize bodies. Y’all have really never seen boobs outside of porn and sex it shows. 6. Society made all the badass women in comics and video games wear revealing/tight clothing so now it’s tied in with being a total badass. Link to post Share on other sites
VibeN Posted September 4, 2021 Share Posted September 4, 2021 Imho people can dress however they like disregarding their orientation. I for example like to dress in colourful clothes, because I have to wear black clothes for work Link to post Share on other sites
Dallas- Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 On 6/29/2020 at 5:22 PM, ℕ𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥ℚ𝕦𝕖𝕖𝕟 said: So far she thinks it's because her whole life, she has seen women's worth tied to their f*ckability in the media, in social groups, etc. I came here to make this point. Women know, whether consciously or not, that their worth as a human being is being constantly judged according to their looks. This isn't a sad delusion on their part, but a cold fact. Some women fight it in disgust, and weather being valued lower. Other women just want to be valued, and so do what they can to be sexually appealing. This is totally unconnected to her sexual interest, in both cases. It would be difficult for any woman to not feel empowered by dressing in a way that will make her appear attractive by society's standards, because as soon as she does, she is treated much better, and thought of as a more valuable, successful person. The way a person likes to dress is often an expression of their identity, as well. Many women who view themselves as powerful, successful, valuable, dress sexy to express these ideas. Link to post Share on other sites
Kroete Posted September 14, 2021 Share Posted September 14, 2021 It's actually very easy to explain: People just like a certain style. Being against that is basically just the shitty takes from rape apologists: "But she dressed in a provocative manner!", etc. You know it's all bullshit, right? People can dress in whatever way they like. Also, not every clothing YOU consider to be sexual/sexy is actually sexual/sexy to THEM. It's also always a big cultural thing as well, let's not forget that. Link to post Share on other sites
Marrow_ Posted September 14, 2021 Share Posted September 14, 2021 People in general have the ability to dress for themselves. For me as an asexual person it would be even more evident that I wouldn't dress that way for other people, it's to make me feel good, because I think it's pretty. Given, I don't dress like that because it's just not my style. I totally agree with @Kroete's answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Larkspur Posted September 15, 2021 Share Posted September 15, 2021 On 6/7/2020 at 3:14 PM, songchick said: I've seen a couple of YouTube videos of 2 different young women saying they're asexual, but then they're dressing attractively with cleavage, tight clothes and a lot of makeup. It's really uncomfortable for me to hear this. I don't even understand why one would dress like that if sexual attention is not wanted, I mean, I guess they want to look attractive. But can asexuality define what attractiveness is, in its own way? I dress like this and it is absolutely not about attracting other people. It is about comfort. I am high functioning autistic and baggy clothes stress me out because of the non-uniform contact against my skin and i hate the feeling of fabric against my skin in general so i generally wear tank tops/croptops/shorts. I also like the way i look in them as i have a "conventionally attractive figure" and it makes me feel more confident in general. I believe that most people, sexual or not, dress the way they do for their own mental and physical comfort more than the pleasure of others Link to post Share on other sites
Omitro Pavel Posted September 17, 2021 Share Posted September 17, 2021 A lot of people have replied and I agree with them. But I want to make something clear that some people get wrong about asexuality. Being asexual does not mean aces are unable to make others feel sexually attracted to them. It is something that aces don't feel in themselves or feel sometimes or feel a little bit. Thanks for asking the question, people need to know. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 i'm a lot more comfortable knowing i'm doing my best to be attractive. i want to be loved again so badly, and it's human nature to notice attractive members of your preferred sex. that's how i'm ultimately going to get a partner and have a fulfilling, non-shitty life--someone is going to like the way i look, introduce themselves, and the relationship will go from there. i also have a lot of issues with feeling boyish, especially growing up before i got my lady curves, so i like to show cleavage because it's finally there and no one is going to ask me if i'm "a girl or a boy" if my womanhood is out in the open. i don't feel like an ugly adolescent boy wearing a pillowcase if i wear form-fitting and revealing things...i feel like a real woman who deserves love. Link to post Share on other sites
Sister Mercurial Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 The whole issue with people in general and women in particular getting judged based on looks over competence is a big problem in society and I'd be interested to know what can be done about it. I have some friends who have been discriminated against quite badly at work because of it. As for me, when I was the token kid from the wrong side of the tracks who won a scholarship to private school, I found old copies of Ann Barr and Peter Yorke's Sloane Ranger books in a charity shop and bought them to try and make sense of this strange new world. Much of the advice was dated, but one thing stuck with me: the importance of dressing for where you are. I try and figure out for any unfamiliar event what the dress code is and then find an outfit that corresponds as well as possible to it. Most of the time, I find something fairly modest and that involves trousers because I find dresses impractical, but if the occasion calls for a dress, I wear one. And being tall, sometimes the dresses are a bit shorter on me than I intended, but that's not something I seek out as it restricts the things I can do while wearing them. Link to post Share on other sites
Sister Mercurial Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 Just thought of something else I don't think anyone mentioned. Society raises women to be self-conscious about their looks. Attracting attention to one part of one's body can deflect it from another part about which one is self-conscious. I have a rather odd bra in that you wouldn't think they'd make one with that much padding and va-va-voom for women with a cup size as large as mine. I wear it when I'm embarrassed about my weight. If they're looking at my chest, they're not looking at my belly. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 7 minutes ago, Sister Mercurial said: If they're looking at my chest, they're not looking at my belly. big same. i have the torso of an obese boy [A-cup tits and a huge gut with saddlebags]. due to disability i can't exercise, so the gut will never go away. people like my boobs, though, and it's a lot nicer to see that in the mirror than essentially a plastic surgeon's "before" photo. Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 A couple of YouTube videos of women saying that they're asexual doesn't really reflect anything in real life. Link to post Share on other sites
Dallas- Posted September 24, 2021 Share Posted September 24, 2021 How does a man dress sexy, anyway? Does this dressing sexy sentiment apply only to women? It seems so. Link to post Share on other sites
Dallas- Posted September 24, 2021 Share Posted September 24, 2021 Unless Link to post Share on other sites
Purple Red Panda Posted September 24, 2021 Share Posted September 24, 2021 I look sexier and sexier as each day passes, I'm now basically a deity of teh sexy Link to post Share on other sites
Ceebs Posted September 25, 2021 Share Posted September 25, 2021 10 hours ago, Dallas- said: How does a man dress sexy, anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
Ceebs Posted September 25, 2021 Share Posted September 25, 2021 (I can't look at that without cracking up. If a guy I dated started dressing like that... or waxed his chest like that... I would be so turned off. 😂) Link to post Share on other sites
SlytherinAce_333 Posted September 29, 2021 Share Posted September 29, 2021 I dress in a very androgynous/unisex sort of way...usually just jeans and loose shirts, because I'm comfortable like that and I don't care if I don't look "attractive". I've never been concerned with looking attractive or sexy, but people can dress however they please. Link to post Share on other sites
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