Are there asexuals on here that enjoy sex?

[binary suns]

15 minutes ago, potterhead29 said:

Can you please clarify this a little more? I believe I’m on the spectrum, leaning towards greysexual. I have enjoyed sex in the past but rarely and I never seek it out or think about it. I pretty much don’t ever feel the need or want to ever have sex again. I’m just trying to find out more about it all so that I can understand myself better. 

I don't know how to better say it, but maybe someone else can give you some information. Maybe you might want to make a separate post with a more explicit questions asking what you want to know.

 

ultimately someone who doesn't need or want sex would be asexual, and someone who wants sex because they like sex would be either grey or sexual.

[potterhead29]

2 hours ago, Float On said:

I don't know how to better say it, but maybe someone else can give you some information. Maybe you might want to make a separate post with a more explicit questions asking what you want to know.

 

ultimately someone who doesn't need or want sex would be asexual, and someone who wants sex because they like sex would be either grey or sexual.

Thank you 

[MrDane]

An asexual can enjoy and look forward to the sex. They dont all do, though. Far from. An asexual does not have a mutual innate desire towards having/sharing partnered sex with exactly you, the love soul mate. 
To some, words/phenomenons like: sex, naked, horny, orgasm, tickle, boobs, caress, kiss, desire... are not nice.

[harukacoco]

On 4/23/2020 at 10:32 PM, Whomadewho said:

My question is are there asexuals on here that enjoy sex and enjoy recieving oral, they may not desire them but enjoy them when received.

I am asexual and my partner really  likes performing oral. I enjoy it mainly because he likes it. I like seeing his face showing enjoyment more  than the real sensation.

 

With that  being said, I enjoy cuddling/ hugs in a different way: I enjoy their sensations,  to  the extend  that I actively desire for them.

 

[KathyHoh]

3 hours ago, harukacoco said:

I am asexual and my partner really  likes performing oral. I enjoy it mainly because he likes it. I like seeing his face showing enjoyment more  than the real sensation.

 

With that  being said, I enjoy cuddling/ hugs in a different way: I enjoy their sensations,  to  the extend  that I actively desire for them.

 

Yes the only reward some Asexuals have from sexual activity is the glow on the other persons face. 

[sababajwa]

me......... but i don't really care about it, it's just that after forcing myself to be sexual for so long. i don't mind anymore =). i'm proud of myself. as an asexual i feel balanced.

[MrDane]

Finding sex to be fun and nice is not the same as having a desire or a need. 

[Marlow1]

On 4/27/2020 at 7:02 PM, Whomadewho said:

@GlamRocker you could be right. Maybe we just have a problem with communication. What we are doing now she said she enjoys. She has told me she feels sexual attraction, but just could not commuincate what works for her, but she has also told she never gets horny, nothing turns her on, does not look at porn, never thinks about sex, doesnt have any fantasies, when she orgasms her orgasms are not directed at anyone, would this not contradict feeling sexuall attraction? 

 

@Whomadewho I have Aphantasia. This limits my ability to become attracted. I do not have visual fantasies, pornography does nothing for me, I do not get attracted to strangers, not even people I know ell, only my wife. The list goes on. I identify as Demisexual

 

For a variety of reasons my wife and I have used relationship Therapy. 

 

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/kwkway/what-its-like-to-instantly-forget-what-friends-and-lovers-looks-like