nafajir127 Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 Hello, I've known I'm asexual for a while now and I have no desire to have sex whatsoever. However, I still get arousal, and I still masturbate, even though I get no good feelings from it whatsoever and I find it disgusting that I do. These sometimes happen at random but usually happen in relation to things relating to "kinks" (mostly things I like in a non-sexual way that for some reason my brain has decided are sexual, never in porn but sometimes in other media and sometimes I go and seek them out). I really don't like that I do this - I'd rather have no arousals at all, and I don't like that my brain has a sexual response to things I want to enjoy in an asexual way. I'm looking for some help figuring this out and trying to get rid of sexual responses to things I like but don't like that I have sexual responses to, and how to lower male libido in general or remove it entirely, can anybody help? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Jade Cross Posted March 25, 2020 Share Posted March 25, 2020 37 minutes ago, nafajir127 said: I go and seek them out Don't seek them out then. That's really the shortest way because you can't force your body to not react (convenient as it may be otherwise). Might I ask what about this is it that makes you have adverse feelings? I myself have a similar situation so it always helps to learn what others feel to see if it can correlate to what I feel and perhaps a collective answer can be found. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
binary suns Posted March 27, 2020 Share Posted March 27, 2020 It's okay and normal for an asexual to have a libido still. Not all aces have a libido but it isn't unheard of. I know how you mean by you do it but find it gross. I feel the same way. Slowly over a few months I actually reminded myself of how I really feel, and slowly taught myself not to act on libido, to let the feeling of it sit with me without acting on it. Now if I want to look at something arousing, I can do so and feel aroused but not act on it at all and it's comfortable for me that way. I can say that I enjoy feeling aroused without any desire to act on it. I actually haven't looked at porn or smut in a long time now. It just took time and practice stopping myself before impulse took over. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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