Homer Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 Quote Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate love, but usually within the confines of sexual intimacy. Rarely do notions of filial love, friendship, and self-love fall under that umbrella. So for a lot of people, the holiday is a reminder of the unwavering expectations that society has on relationships — that they be between a cisgender, monogamous, man and woman. Feb 13, 2020 — https://www.vice.com/en_in/article/y3mb57/asexual-experience-valentines-day-celebrate Link to post Share on other sites
Hepalien Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 I like the hunger and food analogy. It seems like a pretty interesting way to explain it and very relatable too. Link to post Share on other sites
Phantasmal Fingers Posted February 16, 2020 Share Posted February 16, 2020 For me the hunger analogy doesn't work. I do get hungry. I would say that being ace is a bit like not playing golf. It's not really possible to explain to a golfer - in golfing terms - why I don't play golf. So the question 'What's it like not having sex?' is a bit like the question 'What's it like not driving off the first tee?' I can't tell the golfer in golfing terms what it's like never driving off the first tee. I just need the golfer to acknowledge the simple fact that some people never do that. I have nothing against golf or golfers. I see nothing wrong with their playing golf if that's what they want to do. But I agree with Mark Twain - for me, golf is a good walk - spoiled. 🙂 Link to post Share on other sites
SithAzathoth WinterDragon Posted February 16, 2020 Share Posted February 16, 2020 I simply say "I've never dated, got into a physical romantic relationship or never will marry anyone and never will. I'll never let anyone touch me, sleep with me, live with me and never experienced sexual or romantic attraction." I also say I'm extremely happy alone, I'm not stressed, depressed, worried, or lonely and I'm mentally sane alone, if I were to get into all the sappy nasty stuff others expect me to be into it'll all go down the drain. If they do not understand it, I try explaining the best I can on why I'll never get into a relationship and never desired one. I just never want one and do not "need" to try one. To me it's unnatural, I know one will have very negative affects on my being so I avoid one and do not like valentines day, I never have liked valentines day. Link to post Share on other sites
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