Purple_Panda Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 Hi. I’m just wondering if there’s a term for when you can’t pin down your romantic orientation with any real certainty. Is that in and of itself a romantic orientation, and if so, what is the name for it? Thank you for all your help! Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 56 minutes ago, Purple_Panda said: Is that in and of itself a romantic orientation No, an orientation is who you're interested in. You are simply questioning, which is normal for most people at some stage. Link to post Share on other sites
Iam9man Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 1 hour ago, Purple_Panda said: Hi. I’m just wondering if there’s a term for when you can’t pin down your romantic orientation with any real certainty. Is that in and of itself a romantic orientation, and if so, what is the name for it? Thank you for all your help! I think I have seen a term for this (or similar) but I can’t think of it. I’m guessing most people who move through questioning and still feel the way you describe just go with aromantic or panromantic, but I may be wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
elizabeth17 Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 i've heard of wtfromantic or quoiromantic - might be helpful to look that up Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpy Alien Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 2 hours ago, Purple_Panda said: Hi. I’m just wondering if there’s a term for when you can’t pin down your romantic orientation with any real certainty. Confused. Uncertain. Questioning. Undecided. Unspecified. Unconfident. Unassuming. Doubtful. Hesitant. Self-discovering. Exploring. Soul-searching. 2 hours ago, Purple_Panda said: Is that in and of itself a romantic orientation, and if so, what is the name for it? No. As @Anthracite_Impreza said, an orientation is a who and it’s fairly normal to not be certain, especially if you’re under 20 or so. Link to post Share on other sites
Jarynrb Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 I'm in the same boat as you, as I'm questioning my romantic, I keep switching between being heteroromantic and panromantic, and idk, so right now your just questioning, currently I just don't really identify with either one so if you ask me my romantic identity I know what I'm attracted to but not a name so yeah lol. Questioning is totally normal and eventually you'll probably figure out how to label who you are romantically attracted to if you choose to label it at all Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted February 12, 2020 Share Posted February 12, 2020 3 hours ago, Purple_Panda said: Is that in and of itself a romantic orientation, and if so, what is the name for it? Analogy alert: Imagine you're at a crossroad, but you have no idea where any of the streets are leading. Which direction is that? Link to post Share on other sites
Purple_Panda Posted February 12, 2020 Author Share Posted February 12, 2020 @Jarynrb, thank you. I don’t know what to do next so that I can find an answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Firefly8 Posted February 15, 2020 Share Posted February 15, 2020 "questioning" Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Carolynne Posted February 15, 2020 Share Posted February 15, 2020 Most people would just consider that questioning. On 2/12/2020 at 10:51 AM, Purple_Panda said: Is that in and of itself a romantic orientation, and if so, what is the name for it? It'd be more of a term describing your understanding of your orientation than an orientation itself. There is "quoiromantic", but from what I understand that's more so if you can't tell whether you experience (or are experiencing) said attraction to begin with. Technically I'm quoisexual, but personally I don't find the term useful. Link to post Share on other sites
Nylocke Posted February 16, 2020 Share Posted February 16, 2020 I think when you look stuff up it does often times become difficult to pin something down completely. I have discovered grey romantic in the recent months but when I look up grey romantic in comparison to demi romantic I realize that I have components of both going on. It takes a while to pin down stuff sometimes. I didn't even learn I was asexual even until I got into my 20s and my romantic orientation was in question for many years after that because I assumed I was androromantic but given the fact I don't date so often and is usually under specific circumstances if I do made me explore the posibility of grey/demi romantic xD Link to post Share on other sites
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