SammySam Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Hi all -I've been a longtime, distant observer of AVEN since I was back in high school. Oh man, this is probably long overdue, but it's taken me a long journey to become comfortable with my sexuality. Since I was little, I had a lot of little crushes on girls and, in college, it finally smacked me in the face that I was gay. I stayed away from boys who liked me with a ten-foot pole and, when dating started in my friend group as a grade schooler, the thought of kissing and dating flew over my head. I was the one kid that was out of the loop of who was with who and why sex was suddenly this huge thing everyone was so into. "Never-have-I-ever" was the worst game to get stuck in. This just got more perplexing by high school and college where I was hiding from my prom date, too nervous to kiss my high school girl crush, and then confused by Tinder and dorm room hookups. I thought for a looooong time that I was broken or that I had some mental issue that was the reason for why I couldn't feel anything towards anybody in that specific way. Learning about asexuality and the queer community was a huge relief but it's still easy to question and invalidate my sexuality. I don't know anyone else that is asexual, I'm an early twenties city gal bombarded by dating questions and worries about finding someone special in the future that won't pressure me into a sexual relationship. I especially have had a tough time finding gay spaces that aren't sexualized in my city. I would love to get to know other fellow aces and learn more about asexuality. Say hi! Link to post Share on other sites
Custard Cream Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Hello and welcome! I spent a long time thinking I was bi because I didn't feel differently about males or females, crushing on either. It took me a long time to realise I just don't feel sexual attraction. It actually came as a big relief to finally acknowledge and accept being a panromantic asexual. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshmally Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Hi, I'm new here too! Oooh boy, I started to question my sexuality back there in middle school (which was like 6 years ago, but shhh), I just never felt anything when people around me started talking about sex, porn and all that... For me it was like??? Kinda gross and weird??? And those educational videos will hunt me forever 😂 I've discovered the term asexual and sex repulsed in high school, but for some time I actually though I was more bisexual. Then biromantic asexual. And now I've discovered that I might actually be aromantic, because I've always been more interested in platonic relationships, rather than typical romance stuff. I'm still trying to figure everything out tho. I hope that if you have any concerns and questions, this community will help! Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Welcome! You could always look into AVEN Meetups as a place to find a safe space @Marshmally you had those educational video? You poor bean! Our sex-Ed was “y’all have probably already had sex, use protection or you’ll get these STDs” with skippable pictures they gave us a heads up for. Link to post Share on other sites
SammySam Posted January 24, 2020 Author Share Posted January 24, 2020 Thank you @Lichley, I'll take the cake and see if there are local meetups Link to post Share on other sites
cabilope~bk Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 Welcome to AVEN! I too have been hovering around the site for years and only just decided to get an account, although I only realized I was asexual the middle of last year. I've been doing a lot of research on asexuality ever since lol. Good luck in your asexual endeavors 💜 Link to post Share on other sites
WolfDreamer Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 welcome 🎂 Link to post Share on other sites
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