am i still trans?

[strawbuwu]

hi, so i identify as trans ftm and want surgerys ect but i still like to dress in skirts and even cosplay female characters but does that make me not trans and instead on the non binary spectrum? (the way i thought about it untill now is if i was born male i would be a cross dresser and that would still make me male but does that count if im trans?)

[Sarah-Sylvia]

Hi again. Are you going to delete your other thread? Feels like you're looking for something more specific huh.

I still think it's important to make sure you're fully ready for anything by making sure you're trans or that it's really what you want. You would be ok living your whole life as a male?

Guys can cosplay female characters, so there's nothing that means something about your gender, you'll get the answer you want there, just like someone can have gender expressions of the opposite side. It's who you are at your core that matters most.
But there's also nothing wrong with being non-binary. Many non-binary still seek to transition. If your male gender is more dominant and important to you than your female one, if you have it, then you can also consider yourself transmasculine. You get to see what feels right to you.

 

[everywhere and nowhere]

I consider non-binary to be trans too: after all, it's too a movement from one gender identity (gender assigned at birth) to another (beyond the binary).

Trans men can be transvestites too, it's not impossible. But specialists who diagnose a person and let them start transition may be very suspicious of such a person, sometimes disclosing certain queer characteristics may be a risky lack of caution.

On the other hand... it seems true that more "queer" trans people are more likely to regret transition. So I would advise you to consider why do you feel male and - if you start transition - not to rush, to wait with surgeries until you become more sure about your motivations and identity.

I had a friend - haven't talked to him for a while - who was at least one of the more lucky cases. He started taking hormones, lived full-time as a man and slowly discovered that he is very far from the "Tru Trans" stereotype. He realised that he was lying to himself and others and trying to conform when he declared considering doing "third surgery" in the future, after some time living as a man he decided that he doesn't even feel a need for top surgery if his breasts are small and easy enough to hide with a bit of binding and comfortable clothes. He discovered that he's polysexual, had relationships with men... And then, despite his optimism, depression got him. He decided to pause, take care of his mental health first and later restart gender diagnosis... But before he started that, he was diagnosed wih bipolar disorder and realised that for him "transition replaced psychotherapy". He discovered, after several years of living as a man without legal gender reassignment, that he can live as a woman too. Not that he turned into a "womanly woman", he decided that "pangender" feels closest to him, but I think he's grateful for not having taken his transition process far.

[SithLord]

You could be a man who likes crossdressing but happens to have a female body at the moment. Just sounds like you're interesting, not that crossdressing delegitimizes your identity as trans. 

[Bloc]

I know some trans men who like to wear skirts and lipstick. Like some cis dudes like. Not conforming to gender stereotypes doesn't make you less trans. However when you have to deal with gatekeepers for medical or legal transition steps this may make things harder for you, so you might want to downplay your gender non-conformity when dealing with them.

 

Edit: I forgot to add that I also know some butch trans women.

[Sarah-Sylvia]

7 hours ago, Bloc said:

I know some trans men who like to wear skirts and lipstick. Like some cis dudes like. Not conforming to gender stereotypes doesn't make you less trans. However when you have to deal with gatekeepers for medical or legal transition steps this may make things harder for you, so you might want to downplay your gender non-conformity when dealing with them.

 

Edit: I forgot to add that I also know some butch trans women.

If they're actual gender therapist, who would be used to non-binary people as well, then it shouldn't be a problem. They're there to help sort someone out and see how important it is for any transition. Of course, it still depends on the person. But everyone should be able to be who they are.