Am I gray ace?

[kari4848]

I posted a longer version of this question in the Questions About Asexuality section of the site before reazing this specific forum existed, so apologies if this is too repetitive.

 

From what I understand, the term gray asexual refers to a gray area between asexual and sexual, generally closer to asexual, and I'm starting to think more and more that this fits me. I have no sex drive to speak of. I'm a 28-year-old cis woman who has never had sex and feels no urge to masturbate. I'm interested in having sex at some point, but I don't feel the urge to seek it out. While I would rather not die without the experience, my life doesn't feele empty without it. I enjoy sexual entertainment (fanfiction, porn, etc) and may sometimes, not always, get a little aroused from it, but it's never enough to want to do anything about. I've only started trying to mastute recently because it's something I'd never experienced, and that's much more out of curiosity. I can get it to feel nice, but it's nothing to write home about, and it's still not something I feel drawn to do. I keep thinking about it, and I'm still not sure whether I feel sexual attraction at all. If I do, it's not more than a very low level, because, again, I don't feel drawn to have sex with specific people or in general, nor do I have fantasies that I'm actually a part of either with specific people or in general. I know no one here can tell me how to identify, but does does it sound like I might fit the/a definition of gray asexuality to you?

[Skycaptain]

@kari4848, welcome to AVEN 🎂 🎂

 

When people experience zero or minimal sexual attraction that is generally perceived as Asexual or grey-asexual and similar. Namely do you see other people and think "I'd like to get intimate with them?". Libido and solo sexual stimulation - masturbation etc are slightly different from attraction/desire. 

If you choose to identify as Asexual, grey-asexual then I doubt many would disagree.