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Asexual Awareness Week SEX IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK VIDEO - PLEASE SHARE

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Sandra B

This very short video I created especially to raise awareness of Asexuality  https://youtu.be/5TAk96oL5_A I would be very grateful if you could share it from YouTube. 

 

This was the wording I put with it on my Facebook profile which has a lot of sexuals connected to it, as does many of my other social media. Feel free to use and adapt:

 

SEX IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK! This is the video they will want you to silence!!! The media, manufacturers, shops, other dating coaches, everyone who is trying to sell you a lie about sex! Please SHARE this video! We need everyone to see the REAL TRUTH ABOUT SEX! For far too long, we have LIVED IN SILENCE, we will live in silence NO MORE!

 

When I am just sharing it with aces in the groups, I don't use the part in capitals or that part at all. I just say Happy Ace Week, this is a video I created to raise awareness of asexuality and is less than a minute long and it would be great if you could share it from YouTube, like this below:

 

Happy Ace Week. Please share this video from YouTube, it's less than a minute long to raise awareness of Asexuality. xx https://youtu.be/5TAk96oL5_A

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Laurann

Not that I don't appreciate your enthusiasm for ace visibility week, I do, and I think it's good that you're making videos, but the way you've phrased your ad does kind of sound like you are trying to sell a conspiracy theory.

 

Who is the 'they' who would want to silence your video, what would 'they' have to gain from that and how would 'they' go about silencing your video?

 

Personally, if I see any video/article/whatever with a title that has the words 'real truth' or 'exposed' in it, with a bunch of exclamation marks, I immediately dismiss it as clickbaity nonsense. I don't think I'm the only one.

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RoseGoesToYale

I have to agree, it comes off as sensationalist and the caps make me feel like I'm being yelled at. Also the trailer style heavily implies that you'll be making a longer film later, I was a bit confused by that. I do applaud the creativity, though.

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Sandra B
2 hours ago, Laurann said:

Not that I don't appreciate your enthusiasm for ace visibility week, I do, and I think it's good that you're making videos, but the way you've phrased your ad does kind of sound like you are trying to sell a conspiracy theory.

 

Who is the 'they' who would want to silence your video, what would 'they' have to gain from that and how would 'they' go about silencing your video?

 

Personally, if I see any video/article/whatever with a title that has the words 'real truth' or 'exposed' in it, with a bunch of exclamation marks, I immediately dismiss it as clickbaity nonsense. I don't think I'm the only one.

I appreciate your feedback. I have done it purposefully this way. I am sharing this across social media to raise awareness of asexuality. Most of whom will see it if I am sharing it across all of my 24,000 followers across my profiles, will be non-asexual, so I need to capture their attention. I need to get through to sexuals that asexuals exist and what it is, so I need to use a different approach to the 'norm'. And this is my words I use to go with the video as it draws attention to it. And yes, we have all been 'conditioned' from birth to believe that heterosexuality is the ONLY sexuality and the 'normal' one, I need to wake people up to this. Many asexuals still live in silence around the globe, and are afraid to say they are asexual. These are the words I put with the post for sharing and probably over half of the friends connected to me on my profile are sexuals , no one else has to use these words. There is also someone in my Asexual Perspectives book who say, the media don't want people to know about asexuality, because they could lose money for all the products they sell, including things like viagra, if people realised asexuality was a thing and that not everyone wants sex, and that is why keeping us silent works in their favour. 

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Sandra B
1 hour ago, GhostGoesToWail said:

I have to agree, it comes off as sensationalist and the caps make me feel like I'm being yelled at. Also the trailer style heavily implies that you'll be making a longer film later, I was a bit confused by that. I do applaud the creativity, though.

I appreciate the feedback. Caps can be used for titles and also are used to highlight things, including certain words or sentences, which is why I used them. And I wanted to certainly shout about asexuality in the sense it's important to have a loud voice across social media to raise awareness to those who have never heard of the term before. But I was careful not to put all of it in caps, because then it would be shouting. You are the second person who has mentioned about it looks like there should be a full movie, if only someone would pay us Ace team to do that! 

 

When I am just sharing it with aces in the groups, I don't use the part in capitals or that part at all. I just say Happy Ace Week, this is a video I created to raise awareness of asexuality and is less than a minute long and it would be great if you could share it from YouTube. I think I need to maybe edit this to let people know. 

 

Oh and thanks for admiring my creativity.

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Sally

There's a difference between getting peoples' attention and sounding sensationalist.  If you want people to learn and care more about asexuality, I'd tone it down quite a bit.  

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Homer
11 hours ago, Sandra B said:

And yes, we have all been 'conditioned' from birth to believe that heterosexuality is the ONLY sexuality and the 'normal' one

I haven't.

 

As for the caps... for me, personally, it's a shortcut to make me roll eyes and give me a very hard time taking any of the actual content seriously.

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wood_pots

I love the creativity and short videos are also good. Well done.

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Moderne Jazzhanden

Looking through this forum tells me that there is an increasing level of ace visibility in the mainstream media - which is great! 🙂 And also, it would seem, a rising level of acceptance and understanding in the mainstream about who we are. 🙂

 

It's also great that you, Sandra B, have played a part in bringing all this about. 🙂

 

But, given these currently increasing levels of visibility and awareness, I would echo what others have said previously concerning the counter-productive effects of screaming pitch capitalisation and a style of presentation that can come across as over the top and even somewhat unhinged. It's becoming increasingly inappropriate I think. 

 

Perhaps you could tone down that aspect a bit? 🤔🤫

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Sandra B
On 10/23/2019 at 10:35 AM, wood_pots said:

I love the creativity and short videos are also good. Well done.

Thank you xx

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Sandra B

Thank you for sharing your perspective, I appreciate it. Actually I have had more sexuals than ever before show an interest in asexuality since this video which was my aim! They have asked me questions about it and some have even understood it off the bat! Win! I am so very proud of the video and of being different and speaking my truth, and of raising more awareness of asexuality and really getting it across to those who have never heard of it before!

 

 

On 10/23/2019 at 7:52 AM, Sally said:

There's a difference between getting peoples' attention and sounding sensationalist.  If you want people to learn and care more about asexuality, I'd tone it down quite a bit.  

 

On 10/23/2019 at 10:00 AM, Homer said:

I haven't.

 

As for the caps... for me, personally, it's a shortcut to make me roll eyes and give me a very hard time taking any of the actual content seriously.

 

20 hours ago, Moderne Jazzhanden said:

Looking through this forum tells me that there is an increasing level of ace visibility in the mainstream media - which is great! 🙂 And also, it would seem, a rising level of acceptance and understanding in the mainstream about who we are. 🙂

 

It's also great that you, Sandra B, have played a part in bringing all this about. 🙂

 

But, given these currently increasing levels of visibility and awareness, I would echo what others have said previously concerning the counter-productive effects of screaming pitch capitalisation and a style of presentation that can come across as over the top and even somewhat unhinged. It's becoming increasingly inappropriate I think. 

 

Perhaps you could tone down that aspect a bit? 🤔🤫

 

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wood_pots

I showed it to some of my non ace friends and they liked it. Keep up the good work Sandra!

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Saphoune

Thank you for introducing asexuality in a positive way in such a short video format. I think that short formats should be used more often 👍🏼 .

 

There are likely going to be more views with that much clickbait tropes used. Some people will like your video and wil share it further. I guess that this can spread succesfully in some target groups (quick, easy, casual, fun).

 

Personally, I like videos showing people who seem totally average/mainstream because they help start a dialogue with the people obsessed with amatonormativity. I also like testimonies from totally unexpected aces. I unfortunately don't qualify as any of these myself, socially or physically...

I like to see happy positive people but I am also wary of anyone sounding very hyper for the above-mentionned reason. For people like me, your video would have benefited from toning down.

Also the ending is more self-promotion and this distracts from the awareness message.

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Sandra B
On 11/2/2019 at 1:44 PM, wood_pots said:

I showed it to some of my non ace friends and they liked it. Keep up the good work Sandra!

Thank you so very, very much. I wanted to particularly grab the attention of those that were non-ace so they would take notice, in a very short time. They can see we have fun without sex and there is more than one of us, and we exist. xx

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Sandra B
On 11/6/2019 at 7:33 PM, Saphoune said:

Thank you for introducing asexuality in a positive way in such a short video format. I think that short formats should be used more often 👍🏼 .

 

There are likely going to be more views with that much clickbait tropes used. Some people will like your video and wil share it further. I guess that this can spread succesfully in some target groups (quick, easy, casual, fun).

 

Personally, I like videos showing people who seem totally average/mainstream because they help start a dialogue with the people obsessed with amatonormativity. I also like testimonies from totally unexpected aces. I unfortunately don't qualify as any of these myself, socially or physically...

I like to see happy positive people but I am also wary of anyone sounding very hyper for the above-mentionned reason. For people like me, your video would have benefited from toning down.

Also the ending is more self-promotion and this distracts from the awareness message.

Thanks for acknowledging I have introduced asexuality in such a positive way and to acknowledge those words will work well to get more clicks with specific target markets. The ending is me and my two friends at an asexual meetup in Brean theme park. As for the testimonials: There are 46 other asexuals talking about their asexual perspectives in my Asexual Perspectives book, many of whom are from this site, and that's helps to raise awareness of asexuality further, and the voices of many, not just my own, and being a published Author enhances my credibility of the content of this video. I am proud of Asexual Perspectives  book and will raise awareness of the book, to impact more lives in a positive way, which the book has done for many. I still get private messages saying how the book has changed their life, and some of these people were depressed, couldn't accept themselves for who they are, and felt lost and lonely and they couldn't be themselves, then that changed when they read the book. I will continue to do this. If an Author is not proud of her work and telling people about it, how are more lives going to be changed and positively impacted? They aren't. Keeping quiet about these things, is not going to help them. Some people feel suicidal, then read the book, and realise it's okay to be them. This is promoting asexuality, not me. I write other books too, and don't put them in the video, as they aren't relevant. I am proud of this video, which is different to many others, and I am a loud, bubbly person, and hyper in my personality too, which I love being, and also known as ACE Fibro Girl, so the superhero theme works well for a different type of video to the norm and what everyone else does. It was meant to be loud in both colour and fast in action, to make an impact and be short and to the point. I still think the other videos you talk of are fabulous too and very valuable, so it's good to keep doing them too. I am currently working on my second book for asexuals and have 3 more I will be writing too. I appreciate all your feedback and thank you for sharing your perspective, it's important we all have our own views and I do like to hear what others have to say xx

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Sally

Sandra B, you asked for our perspective on what you have produced.  Almost all of us congratulated you on the idea, but indicated that it would be more effective if the presentation were toned down.  You nicely thanked people for their compliments but ignored our perspectives on the presentation.   Since we're all concerned about how asexuality is seen by both other asexuals (many of whom don't know they are) and sexuals, I'm asking you to again read our comments and consider them.  

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