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I'm aroace but I still masterbate...

to me it's just a stress reliever or to clean my tubes but I feel guilty because I feel like I am lying about asexuality.While doing that I picture other people doing it but I  am automatically turned off when I think of me doing it with someone it just repulses me is my feeling normal

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Just because you masturbate, doesn't mean you are no longer asexual. Many Aces do it for their own reasons yet would never engage in actual sex. From what you said, that was the voice of an aroace so you're fine. Like you said, you do it for nonsexual reasons and get turned off once sex is involved. You're still valid.

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Asexual people can:

 

- Masturbate

- Fantasize

- Watch porn/read erotica, and get turned on by it

- Get turned on by any number of things

- Have sex

 

And more. Any of the above. None of the above. Whatever they feel like in the moment. 

 

The only defining characteristic of asexuality is "not being sexually attracted to/desiring sex with another person." That's it. 

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A sexuality is not a religion, it isn't something you have to "adhere" to. Words like straight, gay, ace, etc, are just descriptions.  If the description fits, then its convenient, but it should never drive behavior.  If the way you want to behave doesn't happen to fit some existing label, that's completely fine.  

 

I think most people consider ACE to mean not interested in sex with other people, but it really doesn't matter. Use whatever label you want.    If at some point your behavior changes for any reason, then pick another label or none at all.

 

 

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