iwouldrathercuddle Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 Hello, i'm new to this forum (i just introduced myself) and i already have the first question. I talked to someone (allo) and he said that if he looks at his male parts like his penis or his body in general, and touches it or smth, that this can have the same effect on him as if he was watching a porn. Like, that his own body makes him feel aroused. I couldn't relate to that at all. I touch my female parts a lot, specially my boobs, i just like how they feel and their shape. But i never ever think of my own body as something sexual, and frankly i don't like the thought. I wonder, is that really something people experince? Just wanted to put that in here, have a good day! Link to post Share on other sites
RakshaTheCat Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 I find certain situations arousing, and my body works great for that. It's big, soft, squishy and can be very vulnerable, perfect for some cute, loving tortures. Also, personality is important, and with my body, I know that owner has personality that I like. 😸 I do find genitals a turn off though, including mine. Link to post Share on other sites
Noego Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 I don't find my body particularly arousing. Certain parts of other peoples bodies do. Like a neck a shoulder or a hand. A voice can do it as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Noego Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 I find myself gazing at the person, focussing on the lips and mouth. Bizarre Link to post Share on other sites
Chef Remy Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 I do not find my genital sexually arousing. Yes, my genital does respond to touch. But it is more mechanical or involuntary. Rather than pleasing to me. Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 I've moved this thread from "Questions about Asexuality" to "The Gray Area, Sex and Related Discussions". Michael Tannock, Open Mic moderator and Questions about Asexuality Co-moderator. Link to post Share on other sites
œddy Posted October 16, 2019 Share Posted October 16, 2019 Very much so, but it's the only thing I've had experience with 🙃 Link to post Share on other sites
Internetlionboy Posted October 16, 2019 Share Posted October 16, 2019 Eh sometimes? I've been trying to get better to love my body as well as find it sexy but I like looking at it and feeling sexy ghsdfhs On 10/14/2019 at 3:33 AM, Noego said: A voice can do it as well. Yes definitely this! Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpy Alien Posted October 16, 2019 Share Posted October 16, 2019 Personally, I’m repulsed by my own body. I find it physically revolting to look at. For this reason, I can’t masturbate. Link to post Share on other sites
AceMissBehaving Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 I feel somewhat detached from my body, if I’m honest. I’m not in anyway turned on by it. I used to hate my “bits” but these days they don’t bother me, they’re just kind of there. Though I’m still not entirely comfortable touching them, I just don’t like the way the feel at all. I recognize some people find my body sexy, and enjoy the performance aspect of using it to read as sexy, but with a nice safe “touch me and security will remove you from the premises” divide. It’s kind of like playing dress up as a sexual person as peculiar as that might sound, but on my terms for once, and without the risk of anyone actually expecting any kind of sex from me. Link to post Share on other sites
Zagadka Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 I guess I'm somewhat detached, too. I'm not bothered by it, but I don't really feel connected to it at all. I don't think of it sexually or think of it taking part in sex, even in masturbation (which is mostly a mechanical process for me). Maybe that is why I find that body switching question so easy to answer. Could really lose some weight, though. But that doesn't have to do with being sexy. Link to post Share on other sites
wyrdwyrm Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 I do not, and the few times someone else has been attracted to me I immediately question their taste. Link to post Share on other sites
Zagadka Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 I was just struck by the thought of having someone think of my body sexually, and that is... weird. I'm not sure how i would react. Maybe a O_o face. Like, why would you t think that. Not ewe, just... "what?" Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 2 hours ago, Spookchi Boonut said: Personally, I’m repulsed by my own body. I find it physically revolting to look at. For this reason, I can’t masturbate. You look at your body when you try? O.o cant say I look at all... usually eyes closed or looking at my wife 😛 I dont find my own body at all sexually appealing, personally. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 15 minutes ago, Serran said: You look at your body when you try? O.o cant say I look at all... usually eyes closed or looking at my wife 😛 I dont find my own body at all sexually appealing, personally. Same. Well, not looking at your wife lol but closing my eyes. I can only do it with my eyes closed, completely removing myself from the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 No. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpy Alien Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 6 hours ago, Serran said: You look at your body when you try? O.o cant say I look at all... usually eyes closed or looking at my wife 😛 I dont find my own body at all sexually appealing, personally. No, but I’m very aware that it’s me. Link to post Share on other sites
RakshaTheCat Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 9 hours ago, Spookchi Boonut said: Personally, I’m repulsed by my own body. I find it physically revolting to look at. For this reason, I can’t masturbate. Ehh, that repulsion thing feels kinda sad, nothing can be done about it? I can understand not being into your own body, but being repulsed seems a bit, hmm, depressing... Link to post Share on other sites
œddy Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 26 minutes ago, RakshaTheCat said: Ehh, that repulsion thing feels kinda sad, nothing can be done about it? I can understand not being into your own body, but being repulsed seems a bit, hmm, depressing... I agree, everyone has body image issues in some way, but you should try to love what you have. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpy Alien Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 2 hours ago, RakshaTheCat said: Ehh, that repulsion thing feels kinda sad, nothing can be done about it? I can understand not being into your own body, but being repulsed seems a bit, hmm, depressing... I have a self-loathing problem. 1 hour ago, œddy said: I agree, everyone has body image issues in some way, but you should try to love what you have. I try, I just don’t succeed. Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 There are several reasons why no, the main two being: ew and dysphoria. Frankly, this body isn't even mine, I've just been forced to inhabit it, so no I cannot just "love" it. Link to post Share on other sites
bare_trees Posted October 17, 2019 Share Posted October 17, 2019 Mastubration can arouse me, but I don't see my own body in a sexual way, no. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 I mean, not visually, no. But do I sometimes feel, like, sexually appealing and sexually charged? For sure. I appreciate that my body understands sex, I think it's decent at doing sex... so certainly there are times when I feel all powerful and confident and sexual and like... if there was a girl in front of me, I would definitely be up to the task. It's a very physical, body-based feeling. So in that roundabout sense, yeah... but not in the sense that looking at or touching myself makes me feel any kind of attraction or sexual desire. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 6 minutes ago, CBC said: There better not be any other girls in front of you kaybye. 😂 Not even a stray paratrooper? Fiiiine. 😂😘 Link to post Share on other sites
Chihiro Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 On 10/17/2019 at 4:26 PM, Spookchi Boonut said: I have a self-loathing problem. I try, I just don’t succeed. How do you feel when your partner adores you, touches you etc? I am like that, hate my body, personality everything and I feel like I am a piece of crap but I also can't bear anyone I care about showing affection towards me. Its like the same way I can't allow anyone I care about to consume rotten food that I wouldn't eat.... its like they are an extension of myself and I don't want them to do what I consider detestable. (Also, the reason why I tend to run away from romantic relationships, the guilt and shame... ugh). Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpy Alien Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 5 minutes ago, Chihiro said: How do you feel when your partner adores you, touches you etc? I am like that, hate my body, personality everything and I feel like I am a piece of crap but I also can't bear anyone I care about showing affection towards me. Its like the same way I can't allow anyone I care about to consume rotten food that I wouldn't eat.... its like they are an extension of myself and I don't want them to do what I consider detestable. (Also, the reason why I tend to run away from romantic relationships, the guilt and shame... ugh). I don’t feel sexy but it’s nice Link to post Share on other sites
Chihiro Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 3 minutes ago, CBC said: I know the question wasn't directed at me, but that's the only time I feel... hrmm, I don't even know that the right word is 'sexy', but I guess... sexual? It takes another person being into me in order to view myself that way for sure. And I'm definitely still not, like, into myself. It's just kind of feeling connected to a certain type of energy. Oh, I can't imagine people being into themselves and don't believe a majority of them are xD I was curious how self-loathing people deal with another person's affection. Half the time I dissociate (and hence unaware of whatever happened) and the other half I feel guilty/terrible. Does seeing them being into you, distract you from yourself? In the sense, your focus is on them (instead of your focus being on you) and is that how you are able to feel nice and forget your self perception? Link to post Share on other sites
Sinking_In Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 I definitely do, but not in a Buffalo Bill, Silence of the Lambs sort of way. More like (as a sexual person) I'm familiar with my body in a sexual way, and seeing myself naked can make me think about all I find arousing, both about myself and others. Link to post Share on other sites
i'mjustme Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 Ummm...no? Why would I? My body is just there I guess. I don't like it and it's certainly not arousing. I can't imagine why it would ever be arousing. Link to post Share on other sites
œddy Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 3 hours ago, Sinking_In said: I definitely do, but not in a Buffalo Bill, Silence of the Lambs sort of way. More like (as a sexual person) I'm familiar with my body in a sexual way, and seeing myself naked can make me think about all I find arousing, both about myself and others. Really good way of describing how I feel too Link to post Share on other sites
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