Mixed orientation? Wanting 1 gender but craving the other?

[songchick]

Ok so recently I'm trying to figure out my sexual orientation.  I usually feel more bonded and emotionally connected with men.  Good friends I chat with online are men, and I've always envisioned myself ending up with a guy, if ever I were to "settle down." 

 

There's been no sexual feeling down there...until now.  I think it's because I'm doing yoga.  (Long story, I couldn't do yoga for years because of my schizophrenia, now I'm doing it.  It might be harming me.)  But I am learning that I get the libido stuff when I look at women.  I don't want to look at women and feel that way.  I realize that my mother's my best friend, and I was like "oh shit, maybe that I'd do better thinking about getting with a woman."  EVENTUALLY, I'm not making any moves right now.

 

This is all really confusing.  Help!

[Guest]

Welcome to biromanticism/sexuality. 

[songchick]

9 minutes ago, KrysLost said:

Welcome to biromanticism/sexuality. 

Ooh where can I read more about that?

[songchick]

Also is there like, a website as awesome as AVEN for bi folks?

[Guest]

2 minutes ago, songchick said:

Also is there like, a website as awesome as AVEN for bi folks?

Not sure, probably any LBGT+ website. Aven isn't exclusively for asexuality but most people here are ace or grey-sexual (still gay, bi, straight, etc. though). I'd say you'd just have to search. 

[songchick]

Looking at the Bisexuality Resource Center's Bisexuality 101 page.

[Rynn]

https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/07/cross-orientation-101/

 

You are very much not the only one to feel that way. This is like the fifth time I've referred someone to this article on AVEN.

[songchick]

16 minutes ago, Laurann said:

https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/07/cross-orientation-101/

 

You are very much not the only one to feel that way. This is like the fifth time I've referred someone to this article on AVEN.

Great article, THANK YOU!