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Gloomy

I'm sexual (albeit a gray one) but:

-I'm a 28 year old virgin and don't really care if I ever have sex.

-I think genitalia and naked people look gross.

-If I ever do have sex I'd only be willing to do PiV or hand stuff. Oral sex is definitely one of the grossest things imaginable in my opinion lol.

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)
3 hours ago, Snao van der Cone said:

but that won't work on touch devices.

Or buttholes :P

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Iff, 

Moderator, sexual partners, friends & allies

 

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Serran
6 hours ago, CBC said:

Oh same, and in my case it's because I've basically been a nail-biter all my life. As a child, my mum used to try to bribe me to stop by promising me pretty nail polish colours, and I was like... no? I don't want to wear nail polish and I really love chewing my fingernails. 😂

I bite mine too. So does my grandmother. My wife hates it. 😛 But my nails feel uncomfortable to the point it drives me nuts if I let them grow. 

 

5 hours ago, Snao van der Cone said:

I KNOW!!! Or, like, use any keypad or phone. Keyboard. Smartphone. Touch tone phone. I guess with some things they can use the nail if it's strong enough, but that won't work on touch devices.

There is some tricky hand maneuver to use the meat of your finger vs the nail. Don't ask me how, no idea. Everyone says you get used to it though. I had fake nails done in an attempt to stop biting and ... I could barely type... 

 

5 hours ago, anisotrophic said:

I'm sexual and I didn't feel sexual or romantic attraction until I was 18

I didn't feel it until I was 30. At 25 I did think I was ace. 

 

6 hours ago, CBC said:

I feel like that's annoyingly common, ugh. Egos. Sigh.

Haha and thats one of the reasons I wondered about aceness... all my ex boyfriends were wanting me to orgasm and moan and all like they said their exes did. I was just utterly bored all the time during and annoyed at them wanting that. 

 

...  my wife doesn't want moaning and screaming, she knows if I have or haven't based on feeling my body react and she listened to what I liked til she found a guarantee and if I don't feel into it, we only do her. It's so much nicer than "Why aren't you moaning and writhing around" while ignoring everything I said I liked cause it wasnt sex based enough (I need kisses, caresses, holding, etc or I don't feel the emotional connection enough to enjoy it... they just ignored all that and kept trying bigger and bigger dildos til I refused, or new positions, or whatever other thing they .. saw in a porno I guess ? ). 

 

 

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CBC
8 hours ago, Serran said:

But my nails feel uncomfortable to the point it drives me nuts if I let them grow. 

Oh same. I remember having a convo with my best friend about this when we were about 14, and she wondered how I could stand the feel of touching something with my actual fingertips and I was like, isn't it weird to touch something with your nails? 🤷🏼‍♀️

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CBC

I'm sexual but I've never cared about looking attractive to people in general. I prefer to be relatively unnoticeable and plain. Not ugly, but I couldn't give less of a shit if I look appealing to people when I'm out and about. I don't like attention. I've only ever cared about my partner's opinion in terms of attractiveness.

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Skullery Maid
5 hours ago, CBC said:

Oh same. I remember having a convo with my best friend about this when we were about 14, and she wondered how I could stand the feel of touching something with my actual fingertips and I was like, isn't it weird to touch something with your nails? 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm like your friend. It really really upsets me to feel things with my fingertips. I also tend to get really weird about them and am always scrubbing them, and I feel like I tend to pull my fingers from my nails because I'm rubbing/scrubbing the nubs of my fingertips so much, and then they really hurt and sting. My nails are short right this second because I trimmed them last night and everything feels weird and anxiousy. 😎 

 

EDIT: Also can't break up weed for shit without nails! 

 

EDIT EDIT: I try not to take pictures of my hands because I know that inevitably someone will call me a bad lesbian. 🤷‍♀️

 

 

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38 minutes ago, skullery said:

EDIT EDIT: I try not to take pictures of my hands because I know that inevitably someone will call me a bad lesbian. 🤷‍♀️

Nah, you're more like a badass Lesbian, skulls. :cake:

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)

I'm sexual but I enjoy having my feet rubbed more than I enjoy having sex :lol:

 

(I secretly dream of someday getting a partner who has a foot massaging fetish, but has no interest at all in penetrative sex)

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52 minutes ago, skullery said:

I'm like your friend. It really really upsets me to feel things with my fingertips.

Haha, it upsets me not to feel things with my fingertips. Also I literally never have to cut mine. That's one habit I will absolutely never give up no matter what, haha -- nail biting. I don't give two shits whether my nails are attractive, I've no desire to wear nail polish, and biting them is honestly soooo viscerally satisfying. Been doing it since I was maybe four years old, and have never had anything but very short fingernails in my entire life.

 

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

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Skullery Maid
2 minutes ago, CBC said:

Also I literally never have to cut mine. 

Oh interesting. I used to try to adopt the nail biting habit, but my nails are absurdly strong so it hurts my teeth. Literally. 

 

My nails also attach much higher than other people's... So even when they're as short as I can possibly get them, they still have white on them. I think my bloodline is just less evolved. 😂

 

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Snao Cone
1 hour ago, skullery said:

EDIT EDIT: I try not to take pictures of my hands because I know that inevitably someone will call me a bad lesbian. 🤷‍♀️

 

Have we had a conversation about lesbians and hand pics before, or am I having legitimate deja vu?

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Skullery Maid
2 minutes ago, Snao van der Cone said:

Have we had a conversation about lesbians and hand pics before, or am I having legitimate deja vu?

I don't have a specific memory but that sounds entirely likely. 

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Snao Cone

What kinds of conversations have we not had? 😂

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Skullery Maid
34 minutes ago, Mysticus Insanus said:

Nah, you're more like a badass Lesbian, skulls. :cake:

Lol thank you, that's preferable 😂

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daveb

(laughing that this thread has turned into a discussion about nails) :P 

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anisotrophic

I'm sexual but I think you can have great sex without any nailing. 🔨

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Serran
5 hours ago, anisotrophic said:

I'm sexual but I think you can have great sex without any nailing. 🔨

What about screwing? 🔩

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14 minutes ago, Serran said:

What about screwing? 🔩

Or joinery?

 

twitter-japanese-art-796x360.jpg

 

(This picture may even count as next level IKEA Erotica. :D)

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Snao Cone
2 hours ago, Mysticus Insanus said:

Or joinery?

 

twitter-japanese-art-796x360.jpg

 

(This picture may even count as next level IKEA Erotica. :D)

The safer form of sex. 

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CBC
4 hours ago, Mysticus Insanus said:

Or joinery?

 

twitter-japanese-art-796x360.jpg

 

(This picture may even count as next level IKEA Erotica. :D)

This is incredibly satisfying to look at (in an incredibly non-sexual way).

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rosegoldace
On 9/24/2019 at 8:02 PM, Kisa needs a coffee said:

This is a thread for sexuals to debunk common misconceptions about themselves.  For example

 

Hi, I'm Kisa.  I'm sexual, but I haven't had sexual contact in over a year.  Right now I would prefer to have the chicken that my dad is cooking than sex with the person next door.

As someone who identifies as Asexual, I really appreciate this thread. Thank you for putting it together. I'm glad we have Sexuals amongst us who can share their experiences and are debunking all these misconceptions. I was a person who foolishly believed some of them in the past. 

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Goonie

I'm sexual but I can't talk dirty or sexy on demand. Any requests to do so short circuit the brain and leaves me speechless. 

 

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CBC
Just now, Goonie said:

I'm sexual but I can't talk dirty or sexy on demand. Any requests to do so short circuit the brain and leaves me speechless. 

 

Assuming "talk dirty" means talking in kind of an obscene or crude way (which I know some people find a turn-on), I can't do that at all, so. I can definitely have very sexual conversations, but not in what I consider a harsh sort of way. Just... not my thing.

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Goonie
5 minutes ago, CBC said:

Assuming "talk dirty" means talking in kind of an obscene or crude way (which I know some people find a turn-on), I can't do that at all, so. I can definitely have very sexual conversations, but not in what I consider a harsh sort of way. Just... not my thing.

yes, obscene or crude way. I'd be a horrible phone sex operator unless they gave me some script :D 

 

I can have sexual conversations with partners. I do gross out when other people talk in details about their sex lives though. Also totally don't need to know when people are "trying to have a baby". I think that's just issues tied to other issues in my life though

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17 minutes ago, Goonie said:

yes, obscene or crude way. I'd be a horrible phone sex operator unless they gave me some script :D 

Hahaha same, yeah. And I'd be unnatural as hell at it, so probably not very sexy. But yeah, sexual conversations with a partner, fine.

 

The baby thing... so so so relatable. For me I'm repulsed by pregnancy, so that's where that comes from. I find it icky to think about people trying to get pregnant.

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rosegoldace
On 9/24/2019 at 9:43 PM, RoseGoesToYale said:

Omg literally this. I masturbate, but there's no hormones-taking-body-hostage-with-a-penknife like "Listen up, if you don't do something right now, the adrenal glands get it!" kind of thing.

 

Y'know, after reading this thread, I think I might not be asexual at all. 😂

*shyly raises my Ace hand* This is me 😬

 

The whole "hormones-taking-body-hostage-with-a-penknife" is more of a recent thing for me, only within the past year. I use to masturbate just solely out of exploration as a teenager, but now I'm in my 20s and my body is going all whack-a-mole. It really is how you described it unfortunately... 😤

 

EDIT: I just came across the "Pleasure versus relief" thread just after responding to this. Maybe I'll add my further thoughts there.

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RoseGoesToYale
On 9/26/2019 at 6:08 AM, Serran said:

What about screwing? 🔩

Let's be real... that emoji was created solely as a euphemism for sex.

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