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Snao Cone
1 hour ago, skullery said:

Right though?! Like I need to be dealing with a whole other human who will insist on talking and have preferences, when i could just... not. 

This was often my reasoning for not pursuing sex before I figured out I'm asexual. Talking to people was too much effort and always a bit awkward or dorky, and all the times I did try it just had no payoff for me. But I guess for sexual people it must be worth it at least some of the time. :P

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7 minutes ago, RoseGoesToYale said:

Omg literally this. I masturbate, but there's no hormones-taking-body-hostage-with-a-penknife like "Listen up, if you don't do something right now, the adrenal glands get it!" kind of thing.

Exactly, yeah.

 

I find the word "horny" confusing as a result. It's too vague. Am I ever "horny" in the sense that I'm thinking about sex a lot? Uh, yes. 😂 Am I "horny" in that I've been interacting with my partner online or in person and I'm physically aroused and want to masturbate or have sex as a result? Definitely. Am I "horny" in that my body is like "OH MY GOD I KNOW WE'RE GROCERY SHOPPING AT THE MOMENT BUT I AM GOING TO EXPLODE WITH BIOLOGICALLY-BASED FRUSTRATION IF YOU DON'T GIVE ME AN ORGASM ASAP!"? Nope.

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6 minutes ago, CBC said:

Exactly, yeah.

 

I find the word "horny" confusing as a result. It's too vague. Am I ever "horny" in the sense that I'm thinking about sex a lot? Uh, yes. 😂 Am I "horny" in that I've been interacting with my partner online or in person and I'm physically aroused and want to masturbate or have sex as a result? Definitely. Am I "horny" in that my body is like "OH MY GOD I KNOW WE'RE GROCERY SHOPPING AT THE MOMENT BUT I AM GOING TO EXPLODE WITH BIOLOGICALLY-BASED FRUSTRATION IF YOU DON'T GIVE ME AN ORGASM ASAP!"? Nope.

I dunno, those bell peppers are kinda sexy 

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Interesting thread. Thanks, everyone, for sharing your personal experiences.

 

(You meant for asexuals to read this, too, right? I hope I didn't accidently wander into what might've been meant to be some sort of private meeting/discussion for sexuals.)

 

 

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4 minutes ago, Kisa needs a coffee said:

I dunno, those bell peppers are kinda sexy 

That's fair.

 

 

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Just now, InquisitivePhilosopher said:

Interesting thread. Thanks, everyone, for sharing your personal experiences.

 

(You meant for asexuals to read this, too, right? I hope I didn't accidently wander into what was meant to be a sort of private meeting/discussion for sexuals.)

 

 

No please do!  I started this thread because there are a lot of misconceptions by aces about what sexuals experience.

 

Also I forgot who mods this forum but can this be stickied?

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1 minute ago, Kisa needs a coffee said:

Also I forgot who mods this forum but can this be stickied?

Yesssss.

 

I like the idea of this thread a lot, actually. :) 

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2 minutes ago, Kisa needs a coffee said:

No please do!  I started this thread because there are a lot of misconceptions by aces about what sexuals experience.

 

Also I forgot who mods this forum but can this be stickied?

@iff does

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Skullery Maid

@iff

 

And yeah this is a great thread. Thank you Kisa! 

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Snao Cone
5 minutes ago, CBC said:

That's fair.

Regarding the grapefruit, I would not want to be touched with nails that long. Is that weird?

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Serran
5 minutes ago, InquisitivePhilosopher said:

Interesting thread. Thanks, everyone, for sharing your personal experiences.

 

(You meant for asexuals to read this, too, right? I hope I didn't accidently wander into what might've been meant to be some sort of private meeting/discussion for sexuals.)

 

 

Haha no, please do read it. 😛

 

1 minute ago, Snao van der Cone said:

Regarding the grapefruit, I would not want to be touched with nails that long. Is that weird?

Not weird. Scratches down there are owwy. 

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1 minute ago, Snao van der Cone said:

Regarding the grapefruit, I would not want to be touched with nails that long. Is that weird?

Lol no, I don't think so. That's one way you know the women in made-for-heterosexual-men lesbian porn aren't gay; they look like they just came from the nail salon and asked for something resembling owl talons.

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Snao Cone
Just now, Serran said:

Not weird. Scratches down there are owwy. 

Okay, good. I mean, I know what they feel like, as I sometimes have long nails.

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Jade Cross
3 minutes ago, Snao van der Cone said:

Regarding the grapefruit, I would not want to be touched with nails that long. Is that weird?

Not as weird as seeing that Rule34 has been applied even to fruit

 

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Just now, CBC said:

Lol no, I don't think so. That's one way you know the women in made-for-heterosexual-men lesbian porn aren't gay; they look like they just came from the nail salon and asked for something resembling owl talons.

I almost added to my reply to Serran that it looks like a marketing decision made by men who don't understand female sexuality all that well :P

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Just now, CBC said:

Lol no, I don't think so. That's one way you know the women in made-for-heterosexual-men lesbian porn aren't gay; they look like they just came from the nail salon and asked for something resembling owl talons.

I dont get how women who like the nails long do it. Mine are so short they barely exist. Longer are annoying and make doing anything difficult ! *grumble* 

 

TMI:

 

I told my wife to fix her nails before touching me again cause she let them grow too much and cut me. And hers weren't even that long.

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1 minute ago, Snao van der Cone said:

men who don't understand female sexuality all that well :P

Which is pretty much all of them. :D

 

(Did I just say that? Oops. 🙃)

 

#itsajokeguys

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1 minute ago, Serran said:

I dont get how women who like the nails long do it. Mine are so short they barely exist.

Oh same, and in my case it's because I've basically been a nail-biter all my life. As a child, my mum used to try to bribe me to stop by promising me pretty nail polish colours, and I was like... no? I don't want to wear nail polish and I really love chewing my fingernails. 😂

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Jade Cross

This might sound odd but while I cant stand long nails (get those damn things cut or file them away!) I have actually kind of a thing for the rings that are made to resemble claws or clawlike fingernails

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4 minutes ago, CBC said:

Which is pretty much all of them. :D

 

(Did I just say that? Oops. 🙃)

 

#itsajokeguys

My ex boyfriend got mad because he couldn't make me orgasm so I just started faking orgasms to get him to feel manly.  It was too much sex for me anyway.

 

Men are weird sometimes.  Not all men but some men are hella weird about these things.

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Just now, Kisa needs a coffee said:

My ex boyfriend got mad because he couldn't make me orgasm so I just started faking orgasms to get him to feel manly. 

I feel like that's annoyingly common, ugh. Egos. Sigh.

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Snao Cone
Just now, Kisa needs a coffee said:

My ex boyfriend got mad because he couldn't make me orgasm so I just started faking orgasms to get him to feel manly.  It was too much sex for me anyway.

 

Men are weird sometimes.  Not all men but some men are hella weird about these things.

Did you enjoy sex enough without orgasm that you would've wanted it on a fairly regular basis anyway?

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)

I'm sexual but...

 

I haven't had any form of intimate sexual contact in 8 years. 

 

I can't enjoy the physical sensation of sex.

 

I don't care if I never have sex again.

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Just now, Snao van der Cone said:

Did you enjoy sex enough without orgasm that you would've wanted it on a fairly regular basis anyway?

We had different definitions of "regular".  I could go for once a month or so because we saw each other once a week and I don't want to have sex with somebody literally every time I see them.  But he was "once a week" which felt like "ohhhhh...greaat....here we goooo....agaiiiin....let's get this over with so we can watch Princess Bride"

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)
10 minutes ago, Serran said:

I dont get how women who like the nails long do it.

I don't get how they wipe their butts without scratching their butthole :o

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Fluffy Femme Guy
1 hour ago, skullery said:

I WANT GIRLS ON BREAD. 

Is this...

...vore?

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anisotrophic

I'm sexual and I didn't feel sexual or romantic attraction until I was 18.

 

If asexuality awareness had existed when I had my puberty I think I would have wondered if I were that. (Two more decades and I can safely say I'm sexual!)

 

... but also I think it's worth noting I and many folks posting are/were cis women.

 

Lots of misconceptions arise from trying to map (stereotypical) male experiences of sexuality to women. These experiences are probably more unusual for men, but also exist.

 

(My sexuality has changed with T but it's only been a month or so, so far it's mostly just sad and confused, like I've lost my imagination and given up on sex. Hopefully just a phase.)

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22 minutes ago, Kisa needs a coffee said:

let's get this over with so we can watch Princess Bride

:lol: 

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I'm sexual but that whole thing where people's bodies randomly nag at them for sexual release in a very biologically-based sort of way (and this seems to be true for many asexuals as well) literally never happens to me.

Ironically, I'm pretty much asexual yet I often feel alienated from other asexuals for the exact same reason >_>

 

Even my spouse experiences libido, though not very much of one.  I have wondered if that will change when they start taking testosterone.  It didn't do jack shit with me, but I probably took way less than what a transitioning person would.

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Snao Cone
27 minutes ago, Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?) said:

I don't get how they wipe their butts without scratching their butthole :o

I KNOW!!! Or, like, use any keypad or phone. Keyboard. Smartphone. Touch tone phone. I guess with some things they can use the nail if it's strong enough, but that won't work on touch devices.

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