The Disneyland analogy for mixed relationships

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Let me know if this analogy works for allosexuals and asexuals. 

Dating is like going to Disneyland, "The Happiest Place On Earth!": some just want to walk around, maybe holding hands and feeling romantic, some just want to jump on as many rides as they can, and some go just for the kids. Some will be there for all of those reasons to varying degrees.

 

A mixed allosexual/ asexual relationship is like two people going to Disneyland, where one doesn't want to ride any of the rides (asexual), but the other does (allosexual). It's Disneyland, you can do so many other things, but roller coasters are there, and there are people there because they really like roller coasters! And let's face it, roller coasters are best enjoyed with someone who also likes them as much as you do. So the asexual may go along for the ride with the allosexual, even though they don't really like that coaster, but the allosexual won't get to ride all of the coasters they want, nor as many rides as they'd like. If the asexual decides they don't want to go on ANY rides at all (some people hate roller coasters), then the allosexual has to go off by themselves as a single rider (boring), ride with someone else (gasp!), or just not ride any at all (upsetting). 

 

The couple knows they want to be there together, but they struggle to decide what rides to go on, if any at all. No rides, and one person is upset. Too many rides, and now the other person is upset. As a mixed couple, you have to decide, can the allosexual be happy without riding any coasters, or riding fewer than they'd like, or can the asexual try to enjoy a few coasters with their partner, because that's what they like to do there? Can the allosexual focus more on just experiencing Disneyland with their asexual partner, rather than focusing so much on he rides? What will it take to make sure you both come away with a positive experience?

 

[Guest]

How am I supposed to feel about people comparing roller coasters to sex...?

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1 hour ago, KrysLost said:

How am I supposed to feel about people comparing roller coasters to sex...?

One doesn't have to feel anything about it, but as for the analogy, some people find roller coasters nauseating and some people find them exciting, which is also true for sex.

[anamikanon]

Too verbose. For me, an analogy has to be like a flash of insight without a lot of explanation.

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@anamikanon

Fair enough, here's the short and sweet:

For an asexual, getting into a mixed relationship can be like going to Disneyland for someone who gets sick on roller coasters: they may go just because they want to walk around, maybe hold hands and feel romantic, while their sexual partner would prefer to ride on as many roller coasters as they can, as often as possible. Then there are those who just go for the kids.