What is the most common view towards sex in the ace commuity?

[everywhere and nowhere]

@Snao van der Cone - what about distinguishing between "sex-repulsed" and "sex-averse" (understood as, in simplest words, repulsed by the possibility of personally having sex, indifferent to sex not involving oneself)? It could also note that these terms are used in a few different ways, but this distinction was the first one I saw and also, I think, the moest common one I saw.

 

A little technical question by the way, I might need it: how to draw a table at the forum? I have recently seen one, but I don't know how to do it. Or does it have to be inerted as an image?

[Guest]

I think I'm indifferent when it comes to sex itself but repulsed by a lot of the perspectives I hear from sexual people. Of course I know not all of them are gross about it, though. The gross ones just tend to be the most vocal.

[Snao Cone]

2 minutes ago, Nowhere Girl said:

@Snao van der Cone - what about distinguishing between "sex-repulsed" and "sex-averse" (understood as, in simplest words, repulsed by the possibility of personally having sex, indifferent to sex not involving oneself)? It could also note that these terms are used in a few different ways, but this distinction was the first one I saw and also, I think, the moest common one I saw.

 

A little technical question by the way, I might need it: how to draw a table at the forum? I have recently seen one, but I don't know how to do it. Or does it have to be inerted as an image?

The current version of it doesn't break down that difference, but I could add a little detail. 

 

Regarding the technical question, I've only done so successfully by copying and pasting from existing tables, so I couldn't give much help. 

[Alejandrogynous]

Attitude in what sense? I'm sex positive in that I believe consenting adults should be able to conduct their own sex lives in whatever way they want. For myself personally, sex is a hard no so I guess I fall under "sex repulsed" even though I hate that phrase.

[Twisted Tempest]

Repulsed. Absolutely, positively repulsed, literally to a sickening degree. 

[everywhere and nowhere]

@Snao van der Cone - so I tried creating a little table in Open Office, I'll see if it works... It breaks down the distinctions as I understand them.

"+", of course, means "positive feelings", "0" - "indifference, neutral feelings", and "-" - "negative feelings". They can have different grades, from discomfort to extreme anxiety and/or revulsion. "Feelings about sex generally" shouln't be mistaken with political stances about sex, since there are people who are politically sex-positive and personally very uncomfortable with sexual content. It should be understood as: what do you feel when you hear others talking about sex? How do you feel about sexual scenes in movies? About fantasies, erotica, porn? It's an important distinction - even if it's a simplification, people may feel repulsed by some aspects and more or less fine with others - because sex-repulsed aces are typically very uncomfortable with such situations, while for others negative feelings are restricted to the possibility of personally having sex. I ocasionally get bouts of sex repulsion - especially from heterosexual content - but generally, I can fantasise in third person without feeling disgusted, I'm fine with sex as long as it doesn't involve myself. But I'm very averse to personally having sex. As I already noted, for me "sex-averse" and "sex-repulsed" by themselves don't specify the intensity of negative feelings. I'm probably on the far end of sex aversion - completely unable to desire sex, to endure a hypothetic situation in which I could have sex - but still not repulsed with sex in general. For others these feelings might be milder, but it can still be the same category because categories (Polish has a nice word for categories and labels: "szufladki", literally "little drawers". And "zaszufladkować", meaning figuratively as much as "to put a label on someone") are necessarily simplifications.

So, here's my table of personal attitudes about sex. [added after pasting it: I didn't know it would come out so big...]

	feelings about personally having sex	feelings about sex generally
sex-favourable	+	not relevant
sex-indifferent	0	not relevant, usually 0?
sex-averse	-	0
sex-repulsed	-	-

[Lunala]

I'm personally 100% repulsed. Sex to me is gross. I'd rather eat a bowl of live cockroaches and then step on a bunch of Lego bricks than even think about me participating. *shudders*

[Guest]

In general I am sex positive, but personally I am averse with repulsion towards certain specific sex acts. I responded to the survey with the assumption that it was referring to personally having sex not sex in general.

[Skycaptain]

People can do whatever the fuck they want, so long as it doesn't involve me 

[Sally]

2 hours ago, SkyenAutowegCaptain said:

People can do whatever the fuck they want, so long as it doesn't involve me 

Best answer yet, and special award for its succinctness!

[Karret]

I'm only repulsed if it comes to me being involved. If others want to be involved with each other, then be safe, sane, consensual, of age and have fun.

If it's in a movie or show, I can handle it; I approach it more with a curious eye, like "huh, so that's what it's like" but without being interested in engaging in it myself. However, if it seems to be done gratuitously and there's nothing else keeping the show interesting, then I'll probably tune out.

[Your friend]

Sex is something that I know exists but that I never think about. It's not a concern of mine.

[Guest]

I'm currently so indifferent to sex that I can't even be bothered answering the poll

 

[R_1]

Neither am appalled or positive about it, it just exist.

[iff]

@crazy ace

 

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