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It's a topic that comes up a lot in relation to asexuality. Many asexuals seem to be horribly uncomfortable with nudity, either their own or other people's, and there seems to be a definite correlation between asexuality and nudity aversion. I don't see why this should be though. Nudity is not inherently sexual, and if you're asexual, one would think you wouldn't associate nudity with sex because you generally don't think about sex that much.

 

Personally I love being naked. It feels very sensual. I used to be extremely self-conscious about nudity, but now I don't care anymore. I'm kind of an exhibitionist and enjoy being seen with no clothes on, but the enjoyment is not sexual. There's a difference between sensual and sexual, and a lot of people seem to have trouble disassociating those two things. Even asexuals tend to conflate the two.

 

Lately I've been exploring how my body and mind react to being nude in a public environment. I've been taking advantage of public changing rooms and showers to do this. It feels strangely empowering to be in your most vulnerable state and not care. I want to go further with this, and my eventual goal is to model for life drawing classes. I just need to make sure I don't get turned on while doing it, because that would be highly inappropriate. I used to have a very prurient attitude towards nudity because of how I was socialized, but I've spent the last few years erasing that, trying to get to a point where it's not a sexual turn-on but it can still be sensual and even erotic on some level. I've realized nudity can be sexual, but only if you make it that way.

 

What are your thoughts? Are you comfortable being naked in front of others, or seeing others naked? Does anyone else enjoy it on some level?

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For me, I love sleeping naked as I find it helps me sleep better.  

 

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Dinosaur_shoes

Hi hi! 

I think this topic brings great discussion. I for one am very self conscious of myself and find being nude even alone very uncomfortable sometimes. It's a like a way I notice all my flaws that aren't visible throughout the day.However, public areas like changing areas, showers, etc. I feel indifferent toward, such as the public showers they have in pools. I use them to my advantage as a necessity and it's not uncomfortable. It only is uncomfortable since, as a women, female relatives thinks it's okay to share and see each others bodies since it's similar biologically. That's when it becomes uncomfortable. 

 

But, like you pointed out, there's a difference with sexual views. It doesn't make me uncomfortable in the sense I think of sex and I dont like sex. But, rather being raised to think it's wrong to be nude anywhere else that's not private and to have "self respect." I personally think this opinion comes with experiances and upbringing. For me, my upbringing of conservative and insecure makes me uncomfortable rather than my sexual orientation. 

But, for you, I think having your views on it doesnt equal having self respect, you just enjoy and are confident in yourself. 

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RoseGoesToYale

To me it's as inane as brushing my teeth. I grew up in a house where my mother would randomly strip and just go around like that, so I don't care.

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I sleep naked and am honestly pretty blase about nudity either my own or others. It's just bodies, doesn't really affect me at all.  

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Alejandrogynous

Nudity doesn't bother me, I've spent enough time around naked people (roommates, art school, kink communities, nudist colonies, etc.) for it to be pretty whatever. I usually prefer to wear clothes because I'm easily chilled, but otherwise I being naked is comfortable. I've been an art model for over ten years. Nudity isn't inherently sexual so it never occurred to me that it could be "at odds" with asexuality until I found that opinion on AVEN. I don't really get it, it's just bodies, but to each their own.

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I’m not ace but I HATE being naked

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Pretty used to it, shared showers at school, shared showers at my running club, getting changed outside at cross country events when it's ridiculously cold out.. Only with my own gender though, I haven't seen many women naked but I think the standard sexual embarrassment response doesn't help there

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Gifted With Singleness

I have a strong artistic appreciation for nudity, which really made me doubt my asexuality for a long time. After all, if I'm aesthetically attracted to naked people and I have an intellectual curiosity about sex, that totally means I experience sexual attraction, right? No, no it doesn't.

 

While nudity and sex aren't very closely linked in my mind, I recognize that they are for others, and I wouldn't want to put myself in a situation where others might sexualize my naked body. Also, nudists tend to be really excited about being naked in a way that I find very off-putting, so I wouldn't really want to engage in that lifestyle. Besides, I'd have to isolate myself from my friends and family, and that's just not worth it.

 

Having said that, if I was in a situation where I had to strip naked, and I knew that there was nothing sexual about it, I wouldn't really mind. The doctor needs to see me naked? Sure, whatever. I'm in a locker room and we're all changing? Okay. I might also be inclined to skinny-dip if that became more socially acceptable, since bathing suits can be a hassle to deal with sometimes.

 

I don't want to be naked, though. It wouldn't bring me any kind of excitement. Nudity for me is purely a matter of necessity or convenience.

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I appreciate my body and won’t change it and i love myself for who i am. Because i’ve seen so many people(especially women) hate their bodies and wanna have plastic surgery to make them feel good about themselves. But the truth is that they can’t really appreciate it and wants more. But i personally get uncomfortable being naked in the public showers and changing rooms. I mean i do feel comfortable being in public showers and changing rooms when there’s women around but if there was a private changing room like for people in wheelchairs that’s what i would prefer. When i’m alone though i love to be naked. It feels(like you said) sensual to me. About the nudity i personally would say that it depends on how they’re represented. It’s definitely not because i hate nudity or thinks that the male genitalia(male body and female body in general)are disgusting or wrong, but it’s not something i personally are attracted to or wants. I love when nudity are represented in a natural way and are disgusted if it’s represented in a perverted way like in porn or anything related to that. 

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Crazycrazycultist

I'm not offended by nudity l. But, I feel...invasive whenever I come across it. I don't watch anything where nudity's the focus. But, when I'm watching let's say a movie and there's a scene that has nudity, I'm not offended. But, I feel like I'm looking at something I have no right to. I feel like I shouldn't be looking at something that I really don't have the right to. You know, a body belongs to someone else.

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It’s cold and uncomfortable so I avoid being nude unless I’m like coming out of the shower. I don’t mind witnessing nudity (unless the person is like unhygienic or diseased) or being witnessed naked (unless people make it weird or comment unnecessarily) for the most part. I’d avoid those scenarios though cause it feels invasive and the sensation of being naked is uncomfortable. I like the weight of clothing. And if I ever had to be intimate with anyone for some reason, I’d prefer to have some clothes on purely for comfort.

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DarkStormyKnight

Once I became comfortable with my body I was fine with it, as long as it's in a space where I consent to being nude and all that.

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I am rarely nude except when showering but I am fine being naked when I am alone. I tend to be cold-ish and I really like the feeling of clothes (I never wear shorts, always long pants/trousers), the heavier the clothes the better (O long-sleeve fleece, how lovely you are!). My opinions about other's state of nudity is completely indifferent. My opinion about me being naked with others is complicated. While I do not really care how others think I look, I care how I look (but not because I care how others perceive me). I do not really like the way I look: I have acne, I do not have much upper-body muscle, my weight is severely under what it probably should be, etc. I have never gone barechested ever, and I don't plan to. So while I am fine with my own nudity in theory in practice I am less-fine with it.

 

I also sunburn easy. I walk outside for an hour a day and on a sunny day with sunscreen on I will still be burnt by the end of the day. And that's my arms, neck, and face getting sunburnt, I couldn't imagine how quickly my legs (that are always in long pants/trousers) would get burnt or any other part of my body exposed to sunlight.

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Only for showers and I mostly look at the wall of my shower during that time. I sleep with a t shirt and pajama pants since that’s what I’ve found to be the most comfortable for me (I almost always wear pajamas when at home).

 

When it comes to other people, just no. A part of me feels sick from just seeing pictures of people in underwear, so I’m not even going to attempt to look at a picture of someone without that. When there are girls with long v-necks talking to me, I’ll generally just stare at a wall because I feel uncomfortable with that even in my peripheral vision. Is this extreme? Yes, but I don’t see how this would change.

 

2 hours ago, Aebt said:

 

I also sunburn easy. I walk outside for an hour a day and on a sunny day with sunscreen on I will still be burnt by the end of the day. And that's my arms, neck, and face getting sunburnt, I couldn't imagine how quickly my legs (that are always in long pants/trousers) would get burnt or any other part of my body exposed to sunlight.

As a red head with extremely pale skin, I feel your pain. I can walk outside during the summer and within 5 minutes my arms feel like they are on fire.

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NOPE.

I do not like being naked at all.

Being shirtless or swimming in swimwear is okay though.

And I hate mirrors or my reflections when I am.

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I'm pretty fine with it. Alone, it is far more comfortable, and I've been OK being nude with a partner back when I had a relationship. I don't know if I'd like to be nude with someone now, just because of being self-conscious about my body.

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It doesn’t bother me being naked or seeing other people naked or being seen naked, you can look but don’t touch 😂

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Even if I am alone in the privacy of my own home, I don't really like being naked, or even shirtless for that matter. Getting showered or changed is fine of course, but I wouldn't sit down naked to watch the TV, do housework naked or sleep naked; it feels weird and I feel much more comfortable wearing a T-shirt and shorts than wearing nothing. 

 

In terms of being naked in places like gym changing rooms where there are other people around, I am slightly averse to it. Not so much that I won't do it, but I will only stay naked for the minimum amount of time I need to get changed, get showered or get dried, and I try to be discrete about it. By contrast, there are usually a lot of other guys in the changing rooms who seem quite content to prance around in the nude for ages in full sight of everyone.

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I'm very strongly nudity-averse. I just can't let anyone see me naked and even hate having my neckline or legs visible. I always wear long pants and a sleevess undershirt reaching up to the collarbone, so whatever shirt/tunic/T-shirt/robe I have on top, my chest area remains fully covered.

I agree that nudity doesn't have to be sexual, but I'm so uncomfortable with nudity that I couldn't accept it even in "casual" (locker room) or medical situations. And, to be honest, I consider it the most important reason for my sex aversion. But does it matter? I wouldn't even want to be nudity-indifferent or psychologically capable of having sex. I don't consider sex to be something worth torturing oneself with attempts to overcome a very strong nudity aversion. So I won't do it and I'm proud to live according to my own values, to not let anyone tell myself that nudity aversion is "wrong" or that a life without having sex is "lacking".

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I used to be squicked by it (but then, aren't most people at kid age like that?), but from around adolescence onward it kinda became... whatever.  I definitely don't "love" being naked or seeing others being naked; I just don't care about it anymore one way or the other.

 

Also, I'm personally not down with sleeping naked; I gotta have at least underwear.  Getting my junk on the bedsheets just doesn't sit well with me, not to mention the fact that I am still occasionally plagued by wet dreams -_-

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22 hours ago, Rosendust said:
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For me, I love sleeping naked as I find it helps me sleep better.  

 

WHen I sleep naked, I end up sweating a lot uncomfortably.

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Meh... I've lived through enough hot Los Angeles summers to say I wouldn't mind if it was perfectly legal to be naked in public. For chrissakes, I know what human bodies are supposed to look like, and I don't get aroused by looking at them. My only problem with being naked in public would be that I'd have to get into carrying my things in a messenger bag because my body has no pockets.

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I don't like being naked around other people, although there have been exceptions when I knew someone really well and stopped minding. I don't mind if I'm alone, and it doesn't really bother me if other people are naked. I would feel intensely uncomfortable being naked in a locker room or a public shower, but that's just a bad association from getting teased in gym class; it doesn't have to do with anything sexual. 

 

2 hours ago, Woodworker1968 said:

Meh... I've lived through enough hot Los Angeles summers to say I wouldn't mind if it was perfectly legal to be naked in public. 

There's also this; I got comfortable showing more skin after I moved to Texas, just out of practicality.

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Don't have a problem with it just being by myself. I generally sleep without clothes, it's more comfortable. Around others, though? Nope. I'm always happiest when the temperature drops and I can put a jumper or a jacket on.

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I do it when I need to. It's really not something I think about; I'm a potato so I'll not be seen sexually anyway. If anything, not being naked is about preventing other people from mental scars :D

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Totally cool with it. I've had to learn how seriously most people take nudity. When I see naked people, I see people who just happen to not be clothed. When I'm naked, same deal. I've been really annoyed by some people trying to shame me for not trying hard enough to cover my body.

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