crazy ace Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 On request from @Sinking_In Link to post Share on other sites
Evren Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 I clicked maybe but literally the only way I would is if it was an open relationship. I would never have a monogamous relationship with an allosexual. Link to post Share on other sites
AceMissBehaving Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 I went maybe because I wouldn’t rule it out completely, but leaning heavily towards no Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 14 minutes ago, Evren said: I clicked maybe but literally the only way I would is if it was an open relationship. I would never have a monogamous relationship with an allosexual. Neither would I... but then again, I wouldn't agree to a mono/closed relationship with a fellow ace either. It's poly/open from day one, or "no, thank you". As for the poll, I clicked maybe, because being sexual is not the be-all and end-all deciding factor (and the person I was happy with for six and a half years, and who was happy with me for six - but not the crucial half year at the end - was sexual). But I think the chance of me dating/being in a 'ship with anybody, ever again, is slim to none, regardless of their orientation. One-in-a-million chance to even find someone who fits, and even then, the Damocles sword of going through another torturous breakup simply isn't worth it. Better to play it safe and remain single. Link to post Share on other sites
firewallflower Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 I went with maybe/depends. I'm not opposed to the idea, though in practice it may be unlikely to work out. But if I meet someone who is not asexual and we fall in love and everything else aligns and we can build a mutually satisfying relationship despite (a)sexuality differences, let's go for it. Not saying said scenario is particularly likely to ensue, but if it does? The fact of their sexuality is not a dealbreaker for me. The "good" (😕) news: even taking (a)sexuality out of the picture, and especially given possible aromanticism as well, I don't feel any too optimistic about my relationship odds anyway, so it may well be a moot point. Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 I have before. Long as it doesn't mean sex is expected of me + I get the impression that I am appreciated more than just sexually, I don't feel like it is a big problem. For what it's worth, the one relationship I've had (my first) with someone that was surely a sexual person did tick both of those boxes. The relationship didn't last, but it was due to other reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 I don't date period. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 I don't have any interest in dating, but if I did I wouldn't date a sexual person. If they wanted sex from me I know myself well enough to know I would grow to resent and then hate them for it, and if they didn't I would feel guilty, even if we were poly and their 'needs' were being met elsewhere. A recipe for misery all round. Link to post Share on other sites
- Saph - Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 Well I don't date because I don't get romance or any will to live together with somebody. But I'm not fully ace either. No vote from me on this poll. Link to post Share on other sites
Sinking_In Posted September 15, 2019 Share Posted September 15, 2019 Thank you for this one, crazy ace. I find the few results so far very interesting. I will keep checking back. It opens a whole new idea, who is more open to an open relationship, sexual or asexual, generally speaking? (not that I'm asking you to start yet another poll, LOL!) Link to post Share on other sites
Alchemist531 Posted September 16, 2019 Share Posted September 16, 2019 I'm going to say no. I mean I am married to a sexual person now and have only dated sexual people because I didn't realize it was something that wasn't going to get better. But now that I finally am coming to terms with how I feel I would never want to put myself or another person through this. I feel so guilty right now that I am neglecting my husband because I know he is sexual. But also I dread having sex because I just dont enjoy it what so ever. And I'm realizing the more often I do finally have sex with him it just makes me feel worse and then I jusy wait even longer between times. So no if I dont make it work with my husband I will never be willing to put myself through dating a sexual person ever again Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted September 16, 2019 Share Posted September 16, 2019 Mecha-romantic, so no humans at all. Link to post Share on other sites
OttRInvy Posted September 16, 2019 Share Posted September 16, 2019 Aroace, so I don't really *date,* but I wouldn't mind being in a QPR with someone. Heavily unlikely to be with an allosexual, but if I get to know them and am actually to the point where I'd consider being their partner.... that's rare enough that I'd consider it no matter their sexual orientation (obviously, assuming that they're actually interested in me). Link to post Share on other sites
OmegaTheMetamorphicDreamer Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 No, I wouldn't. They absolutely have to be asexual as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Zagadka Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 No. I don't know if I am fully aromantic, but I don't want a relationship, I couldn't support someone else along with myself, and I couldn't fulfill their needs. If I did love someone, I wouldn't be the best thing for them. If they were allo, I also couldn't meet their physical needs, so I certainly wouldn't be doing them any favors. I might have a possibility of having a relationship, I can't rule it out, but that would have to be asexual. A platonic non-dating relationship would be very welcome, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Custard Cream Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 I said maybe, because it took me 50 years to realise what was 'wrong' with me, and I experimented hard to find the connection I have never managed to feel. I married a sexual guy. It's not easy, but life would be far poorer alone. So yeah, although an ace QPR would be ideal, I don't hate the idea of being with a sympathetic sexual. But there would have to be an agreement in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
Firefly8 Posted September 20, 2019 Share Posted September 20, 2019 I might if they asked, but I would naturally doubt it would get very far. Been there, done that, but who knows? I'm ok to keep checking. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted September 20, 2019 Share Posted September 20, 2019 I've said no, because I could see this being a point of conflict from day one Link to post Share on other sites
SithLord Posted September 20, 2019 Share Posted September 20, 2019 I picked "yes" because it wouldn't be the deciding factor on if I stayed with them or not. I would require a sexual to have a low libido and be very willing to compromise. I know some who would just NOT be compatable with me, but I've met quite a few (like on AVEN) who are driven by other things before they're driven by sex, and so a compromise is more likely. Link to post Share on other sites
Twisted Tempest Posted September 22, 2019 Share Posted September 22, 2019 I picked no, and it isn't that I have anything against them. It's just that if sex is something that they want, I simply couldn't do that, and then I would feel like I'm letting them down. Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted September 22, 2019 Share Posted September 22, 2019 all guys I dated were allosexual, so yes. as long as they're not crazy about sex, it's okay to me. Link to post Share on other sites
woloomo Posted October 6, 2019 Share Posted October 6, 2019 If I did meet someone who was very understanding and also a swell person then yeah I don't see why not, but I would definitely prefer another ace who would understand better Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 15, 2020 Share Posted May 15, 2020 I said yes cause I dont see why not Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 15, 2020 Share Posted May 15, 2020 I'm demi, and I can't really say there's anyone I'd date (depends on your definition of "date"), but I would whether they're allo or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Stéphane Posted May 15, 2020 Share Posted May 15, 2020 I think I am not sex-repulsed (well there is a lot of sexual activities that I find repulsive, but it really depends on how we define sex), so maybe... if I loved the person and they were understanding, it would not be a reason to break up, I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Eutierria Posted May 16, 2020 Share Posted May 16, 2020 Leaning towards no but voted 'maybe' as don't want to rule it out completely if compatibility would be higher than with another ace. Link to post Share on other sites
Rhyn Corinn Posted May 18, 2020 Share Posted May 18, 2020 Voted maybe just in case I happen to meet an allo who's ok with not having sex, but otherwise my answer would be no. Sex just...isn't possible for me. Link to post Share on other sites
fooledbysecrecy Posted May 18, 2020 Share Posted May 18, 2020 i don't think i would date at all Link to post Share on other sites
Ciki Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 I clicked maybe. I'm aro ace,so relationships are a big no-no.But i wouldn't mind being with anyone in a relationship,as long as it's QPR. And my ideal QPR would basically be friendship.We would be each other's best friends.We'd live in the same house,but everyone would have their own room. There would be no kissing and let's not even talk about sex. But the chances of me finding anyone willing to do this are basically non existent. So yeah,i guess i'll be alone forever... Link to post Share on other sites
GingerRose Posted May 19, 2020 Share Posted May 19, 2020 Depends how open they would be to the fact that I am still figuring out what I like sexually~sensually... Link to post Share on other sites
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