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Am I ace or just grasping at labels


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I'm questioning myself 

I'm 19 (m) and up until this year I identified as gay. I had always been attracted to guys, watched gay porn, etc., the whole time I lived in a religious household. Obviously being gay isn't cool with them, I struggled with that for the longest. Fast forward to my senior year of high school I lost my virginity and it was meh at best but I just thought maybe it was the thing I did. 

So durring my freshman year of college I tried almost everything there was to try with other guys and found only knew thing I enjoyed doing and even that I get bored doing it after a minute or two. Ever since realizing that I've been toying with the idea of being ace. I've stopped watching porn or anything related to sex the most sexual thing I've done since, is think about what another guy's dick looks like and that's about it other than that if I find someone attractive I just like looking at them and that's it (I also have been finding women attractive in the I like looking at you but that's it sense too)

I have zero interest in being in a relationship with a guy or anyone for that matter. The most I want is a patonic friend group. To get to the point, idk if I'm really ace/aro or am I repressing being gay for religious reasons

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It's possible you're asexual. I put myself through multiple sexual experiences before accepting that it never felt right and I was never really into it. If someone you found attractive, on an aesthetic or emotional level, was naked in your bed in front of you, would you be inclined to engage in sexual intimacy? If not, then whatever you appreciate about their appearance doesn't translate to sexual.

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I do not believe there is anything I can say that will top or even match Her Majesty.

 

Just based off of the fact that you did things and weren’t really interested and you like people but don’t want to actually be in any sort of relationship besides platonic. I’d say that is ace.

 

I have tried both. And although I like people and also enjoy platonic experiences. I don’t want to sex anyone. I had it a little different though because I knew I wasn’t gay. I like girls too much. But otherwise, I walked in your shoes bro.

 

Besides, appreciating a body part isn’t the same as wanting to have sex with someone.

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9 minutes ago, Snao Cone said:

It's possible you're asexual. I put myself through multiple sexual experiences before accepting that it never felt right and I was never really into it. If someone you found attractive, on an aesthetic or emotional level, was naked in your bed in front of you, would you be inclined to engage in sexual intimacy? If not, then whatever you appreciate about their appearance doesn't translate to sexual.

I'm honestly blanking trying to think of a person I'm aesthetically/emotionally attracted to but the answer is no

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