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Ah yes, the part of asexuality where we get to deal with sexually frustrated not-suitors and listen to their whining about how crazy we are!

 

This thread is mostly a result of me being bored and (admittedly) procrastinating on my work. But it’s also partly cathartic, as I’ve been dealing with a pretty persistent ex who just can’t accept the fact that I will never have sex with him again. I figured I could post this and maybe give some of y’all an opportunity to vent and such. After all, we’re all in this together. :)

 

My entry into this discussion will be my annoying ex. We dated in high school many years ago and he was the one who took my virginity. I was young and still trying to find out who I really was and if I even liked dating and sex.

 

So we break up and I happily move on. He doesn’t. Almost 10 years later, he messages me on Facebook—wanting to reconnect. I give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he just wants to be friends.

 

Big mistake.

 

He begins spamming me with BAFFLINGLY cringy pick-up lines; I’m talking pictures of women eating bananas and him following them up with “You know you want to ;)”. No sir, I DO NOT want to. Even after explaining to him that I’m asexual, he just gets mopey and whiny. He repeatedly reminds me that we did, in fact, have sex as teenagers. I don’t see how this is relevant to the discussion at hand, considering I’m now a 26 year old adult, but I play nice and try to calm him down...which he interprets as me changing my mind so he can send me more horrendous texts.

 

I’m planning on blocking him if he doesn’t take the hint soon. But that’s for another time.

 

What about you guys?

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Not ace but this happened to me too

 

-Told a guy I wasn't interested in him and his reply was "let me know when that changes" (BARF!)  I also mentioned to him once (after this conversation) that I got the 2 of cups in a reading for myself on a thursday which meant "meeting somebody who will be the love of your life or partner in crime" and he texted me asking if it could mean "seeing somebody in a new light.  I blocked him that Thursday so maybe he was right because that was the day I decided I didn't need jackass energy in my life 😛 

-I have an ex who keeps trying to contact me, his last message started with "I hope you're doing well, I'm in therapy now and understand how much I hurt you" GREAT!  Then you would fuck off and leave me alone!  He is now blocked on all internet stuff but I cannot stop any accidental in person encounters that may occur.

 

Yea...some people just understand rejection and I'm still a bit salty about some of it.

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AspieAlly613

Not ace, but that would have to be the friend who said "If we're ever in the same city, I'd love to have a one-night stand with you."

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1 hour ago, Nashy-Slashy said:

Ah yes, the part of asexuality where we get to deal with sexually frustrated not-suitors and listen to their whining about how crazy we are!

 

This thread is mostly a result of me being bored and (admittedly) procrastinating on my work. But it’s also partly cathartic, as I’ve been dealing with a pretty persistent ex who just can’t accept the fact that I will never have sex with him again. I figured I could post this and maybe give some of y’all an opportunity to vent and such. After all, we’re all in this together. :)

 

My entry into this discussion will be my annoying ex. We dated in high school many years ago and he was the one who took my virginity. I was young and still trying to find out who I really was and if I even liked dating and sex.

 

So we break up and I happily move on. He doesn’t. Almost 10 years later, he messages me on Facebook—wanting to reconnect. I give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he just wants to be friends.

 

Big mistake.

 

He begins spamming me with BAFFLINGLY cringy pick-up lines; I’m talking pictures of women eating bananas and him following them up with “You know you want to ;)”. No sir, I DO NOT want to. Even after explaining to him that I’m asexual, he just gets mopey and whiny. He repeatedly reminds me that we did, in fact, have sex as teenagers. I don’t see how this is relevant to the discussion at hand, considering I’m now a 26 year old adult, but I play nice and try to calm him down...which he interprets as me changing my mind so he can send me more horrendous texts.

 

I’m planning on blocking him if he doesn’t take the hint soon. But that’s for another time.

 

What about you guys?

Block him asap. That is what I would do. He is nothing but bad news. Seems like he is off his rocker. 

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19 minutes ago, acematt said:

Block him asap. That is what I would do. He is nothing but bad news. Seems like he is off his rocker. 

It’s clear to me that he never matured past high school. He’s always been adamant about never leaving his family whenever he graduates, and I see he’s done just that. I’d say there’s nothing wrong with that, but his family has always been outrageously close-minded about most things (think people of other races, sexual orientations, gender identities...). The result is him having the same personality and interests he did 10 years ago...which is really sad, honestly.

 

I feel bad for him, but not bad enough to give him pity sex. The next time he texts me unsolicited bullshit, I’m blocking him. 🤗

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I had a dude that was so thirsty that when I turned him down, he sent his friend after me o-o Not surprisingly he had a kid too ... The thirstiest folks are the unmarried who care for their children. They have a harder time because no one wants to deal with children that aren't theirs so they get thirsty for days.

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Crazycrazycultist

If they're all thirsty...just give them water!

 

I'll go now.

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44 minutes ago, Crazycrazycultist said:

If they're all thirsty...just give them water!

 

I'll go now.

Bruh, there ain’t enough water to sate all that thirst! 😛

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Hydrolysis

One of my stalkers (I've had 2, one irl and one online. This is the online one) threw a fit because he was a virgin and I had had sex with someone else then he proceeded to get even more upset when I said I actually didn't care about it much and it was nice, just over-hyped. Bonus points when he joined calls with me and my friends he would only talk to me and ignore my friends, he had a meltdown on call and used to say how cute it was because I had small boobs. He also hated one of my friends who was my age because we were close and he thought we were dating. The guy was like 4 years older than me at the time. I was in middle school.

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NylaTheWolf

hooooooo boy

 

Okay, so I was on social media and I made friends with this one guy. And this guy started out nice, but turned out that he was a bit of a creep. I don't know why I kept talking to him. I guess it's because he was going through a hard time and I felt...sort of responsible for him? That's always been a problem for me personally.

 

Anyways, he started saying weird and sexual things. He asked if I watched porn, and I said I wasn't into that stuff. He asked if I was a girl, and I said yes, he said that was the problem. He said that I would be into it later. He also mentioned masturbating a lot, and would constantly say sexual stuff out of the blue. Like we'll have a typical "hi how are you" exchange and out of nowhere he'd say "sex" or "I like genitals". The funny part is that I'm not even exaggerating. One of our conversations went like:

 

Me: hi

Him: SEX

Me: ?

Him: I said SEX

 

Then one day, out of nowhere, he said "You need a boyfriend". I said that I wasn't ready for a relationship, but he told me to get one.

 

He also started calling me pet name. The first time he said "sweet prince (he forgot i was a girl)", and then he said "sorry, I meant sweet ass". I AM NOT EVEN JOKING.

 

A few weeks later he called me "sweetheart". I told him I didn't want to be called that, but he was like "what about sweetie?" I told him again that made me uncomfortable, and he was literally like, "okay hun". Like what don't you understand? I don't want to be called pet names!

 

One day, I told him that I just want to be his friend. And he started guilt tripping me by being like "oh :(" and "I will be a virgin forever". I felt really bad, and I asked him if we were still friends. And, I'm not even kidding, he literally asked me if we could be friends WITH BENEFITS. What the hell?! I don't even know you that well! And I think I made it clear that I am not into that stuff!

 

He then asked me the golden question: Are you asexual? When I told him that I was, he told me, TO MY FACE (metaphorically since it was online), that "Asexuals don't exist". This is literally how the conversation went:

 

Him: You are asexual?

Me: Yeah (I say some other stuff but it's not important)

Him: Asexual.

Him: Asexuals don't exist.

Him: That's unnatural.

Me: It doesn't really matter what I am.

Him: It does, sorry.

Him: Asexuality is just a mental issue for me, sorry.

 

...oh piss off :I

 

To quote this website: "This member is not awaiting validation"

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All these accounts just categorically disprove the notions that people liked to bombard me with that having sex makes you more mature or that you need to have sex before you’re a “real man.” It’s pretty pathetic to see fellow men acting like this. Like if they want to know why they’ll be a virgin forever, it’s cause they can’t talk to women properly 🤦🏻‍♂️. I’m likely aro ace and even I know that it is decidedly not sexy to whine about your status as a virgin.

 

On my end, I haven’t had to deal with any stalkerish people (well, to my knowledge), and my obliviousness really dampens any advances. Plus, there tends to be more aggressive men than women so yeah.

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flesh-pocket

when i was in college i went on 1 "date." i use quotes because if the word date had been used in the asking i would not have gone. during said "date" i told him i thought i was asexual, and he tried to give me the oh don't worry you'll get there thing, even though i was actually a year older than him. soon after, he started blowing up my phone with texts, tried to flirt sexually with me-- i actually made a post about this when it happened if you want to dig for it-- i stopped responding to him after that.

 

every year since though, he will sent me 1 FB message out of the blue even though ive never responded. just this last week in fact, he sends me the message "do you want to cuddle? i would cuddle the fuck out of you lol." 

 

like dude... its been almost 3 years since i responded to you... idk what plant you think your living on that i will one day up and be your 1 night stand or how dumb you think i am.

 

ive unfriended him on fb, but im hesitant to block him, only because im curious how long this will go on for. 

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A girl in 9th grade bio that had a crush on me most of the year (I somehow didn’t realize until a few weeks before 10th grade started) tried really hard to flirt with me. Around half way through the second semester, she decides to ask me “what do you think about sex?” I ended up telling her that I thought that it was disgusting and her face changed to what I would imagine it would look like if someone told her that one of her parents had died... She ignored me for 3 weeks straight after that. On the last day of school, she decided to ask me if I could help her study Spanish over the summer, which I found to be odd for a few different reasons:

1) I hated my class and it was the one thing that I was barely passing

2) she already spoke it much better than me

3) she had multiple friends that did better in it than me and we’re taking a third year of it while I stopped at the end of that year

4) her parents moved to Mexico and lived there for a few years before they moved to the US, so they definitely know it better than I do

My guess is that it was an excuse to try and see me a lot over the summer.

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There was a guy who had a thing for me (someone I knew from college) but it was one-sided so I stopped talking to him last year. He texted me one night drunk asking if we could be "friends with benefits" and asked if I could teach him how to have anal sex. I replied, "Have you been drinking again?" and then to his request, "absolutely not." That was the last time I ever said anything to him although he sent me two texts months later apologizing for his thirsty conduct. 

 

Not only was he desperate, awkward, delusional & an alcoholic, he is quite physically unattractive. His body is OK but his face is ugly. He'd wear oversized band T-shirts with a flannel button-up over it, baggy jeans, acne, greasy bowl-cut hair, poor posture, dirty chucks & still think he had a chance with cute girls (I wasn't the only one who rejected him). There's not much one can do about their face but with a nice haircut, confident disposition and proper wardrobe changes, one can be perceived as more attractive. Put simply, drunk delusional dude had too many strikes against him. I know I'm no Victoria's Secret model but if I just wanted dick, I can pull much better caliber than him.

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This is possibly the cringiest thread I have ever had the dubious pleasure of reading.

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J. van Deijck

the stupidest and most awful thing of this kind i have ever experienced was receiving dick pictures from a guy who couldn't ever understand I had no interest in him whatsoever. not to mention his creepy fantasies about me which I'm not even going to mention since they are too disgusting. 

that thing itself was so cringy, too ._.

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Not sure if this belongs here, but one day I had a female passenger with an invalid ticket and when I told her that she had to buy a new one, she suggested that there must be another solution to this *wink wink* *leans forward to expose cleavage*

 

Yeah, no thanks :D 

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On 7/15/2019 at 3:16 PM, Laplace said:

On my end, I haven’t had to deal with any stalkerish people (well, to my knowledge), and my obliviousness really dampens any advances. Plus, there tends to be more aggressive men than women so yeah.

Yeah, I've never had to fend anyone off. I guess people just don't have much interest in me. Maybe something about me repulses them. :P  shrugs

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RoseGoesToYale

My freshman year of high school I took a drama class. There was a dude in there, two years ahead of me. I talked to him about as much as I talked to other classmates, so not a lot. He seemed like a normal dude, but I never got to know him. Three years later I made a Facebook account after I graduated to keep up with classmates, and he friend requested me. I'm like ok, cool whatevs. I liked a few of his posts, and he started chatting with me on messenger. All. The. Time. And liking all of my posts and status updates. He just started saying these passively creepy things, like once we were talking about some romcom movie, and he was relating the story to his life, I said "don't worry, I'd help you find someone" and he said "nooo I'm supposed to end up with the best friend in this story." And he was obviously referring to me. Then it was just too many heart emojis and him bothering me all day (like do you have a day job?). And then it was memes about romanticky shit and he kept tagging me, and that was it for me.

 

What caused me to get rid of the account was another guy. I actually started out with a crush on him. I met him at a gas station (I know that sounds really bad, let me explain!). I was with a friend and I was driving and I needed gas, so I stopped. The pump wasn't working, so I went in to get help. I told the guy behind the counter, who was cute, and he said he would help. I don't think he really fixed it so I had to keep going back in. We exchanged numbers. I started out texting with him, and we got along really well and I liked him. But then he started texting me goodnight every night. And good morning every morning. And literally throughout the whole day. We planned to go on a date, but the constant texting got to me. That, and his facebook memes about being hopelessly single and desperately wanting a girlfriend. I was done after that.

 

Funny, a few months after I remade my current facebook account, first dude friend requested me again. Like, yo behind thought you'd try again?? Hell no...

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I've been friends with this guy for years, and had feelings for him, but he is a hypersexual person and he knows I'm not into that. We discussed dating at one point and decided it wouldn't work. He continued his sexul escapades but told me "I'm surprised you haven't broke bad yet. If you ever do, let me know. I could show you a good time."

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Janus the Fox

The BF is often thirsty, though I'd often advice to drink more water :P

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thequietplace

I don't think it's ever been really bad but there was one time I went on a surf trip with someone I would consider an acquaintance - I sort of knew he was interested in me but I'd told him I wasn't in him. Anyhoo, I'm untying my surf board off the roof of the car (he's doing same with his on the other side) and he comes over my side of the car with the straps and pretends to tie me up - like around the waist - and just stood there right behind me waiting for a reaction. It was only quick but it freaked me out as I hate that idea of being tied up in any way - although I could have totally kicked his ass if I needed to, anyway I had a go at him and he backed off. Needless to say I did not bother contacting him again or going on any of the surf trips he was on, in fact I pretty much left the group cos of that which is kind of a shame as there were some fun people there who weren't creeps.

 

p.s. hey I'm an amoeba now!

 

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