Georgetown Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 I enjoy them as a form of purchasable platonic (platonic as in “dry”) physical contact, though they are more expensive dollar per minute than professional cuddling, and strippers tend to be less sincere and classy than professional cuddlers as well. It’s always funny seeing strippers react to my lack of arousal and generally talk about how much less demanding I am than other clients they give dances to or caress. Sometimes they are puzzled or concerned that I don’t want them to go any farther than basic hugging / holding contact (thought I do love my head to be nuzzled in someone’s bare breasts as much as anyone). I’ve been to clubs in a few different states of America, and my impression is that Southern and Midwestern ones are the best value, though if you’re made of money, New York City has very high quality venues. Lots of “model” types and varied stripper options. I of course feminist-wise support empowered non-exploitative safe professional cuddling, stripping, and even sex work. I think for many asexuals who still admire the beauty of the bare human body and also human touch, strip clubs can be a fun time. And if you have any doubts as to your orientation and you’re a man, you and others there will find out the truth very soon after you walk in... if you know what I’m getting at 🙂. Link to post Share on other sites
Zagadka Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 The whole feminism in sex workers thing is complicated... the camps of "it empowers women" and "it is exploitative" just have a hard time. I lean more towards the former. I want nothing to do with it and I suppose people are too obsessed with it, but I don't see sexuality or nudity as taboo as long as it is consenting. I've only been to one, and I hated it. There isn't much to really do if you aren't into the strippers, so it is just really uncomfortable and boring. I'd much rather just sit around talking. And also, very expensive for really not much in return. Link to post Share on other sites
AceMissBehaving Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 I’ve only been to one once. The girls there were really nice, I loved chatting with them, and was impressed by their performances. The environment as a whole though was too sexual for me to feel comfortable. I’m not sex negative, but I had a very clear feeling that I just didn’t get it, and that I was out of my element. Link to post Share on other sites
Georgetown Posted June 23, 2019 Author Share Posted June 23, 2019 9 minutes ago, AceMissBehaving said: I’ve only been to one once. The girls there were really nice, I loved chatting with them, and was impressed by their performances. The environment as a whole though was too sexual for me to feel comfortable. I’m not sex negative, but I had a very clear feeling that I just didn’t get it, and that I was out of my element. Yeah, my first time I mainly enjoyed the chatting. I embrace the uncomfortableness a little, and alcohol often helps 🙂. It also depends on the club. Is this a classy joint or a backwoods country joint or somewhere in between? Classier joints are sometimes more about alcohol and the show. Link to post Share on other sites
Georgetown Posted June 23, 2019 Author Share Posted June 23, 2019 12 minutes ago, AceMissBehaving said: I’ve only been to one once. The girls there were really nice, I loved chatting with them, and was impressed by their performances. The environment as a whole though was too sexual for me to feel comfortable. I’m not sex negative, but I had a very clear feeling that I just didn’t get it, and that I was out of my element. And I definitely don’t want to hear people talk too dirty... Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 Tried one, but it wasn't my scene. Link to post Share on other sites
- Saph - Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 I really enjoyed my visit to a burlesque Cabaret. There was comedy (dirty talk forgiven) and nice performances (costumes, dance, singing, acrobatics). But I would feel super awkward about being touched by the performers. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpy Alien Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 As a sexual, it’s a huge nope from me Link to post Share on other sites
N8ty L3asT Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 No I went to almost all the ones in Las Vegas for friends bachelor party, first off I overly sensitive to smells so I could smell all the booze, cigarette smoke and the overwhelming perfume that was coving up other smells. If your interested in that stuff go to 18 and over they don’t sell alcohol and they don’t wear bottoms. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 I love strip clubs. I get no sexual enjoyment out of them but I do like the environment and I've always had a lot of fun... Used to have a few dude friends, we'd go every Sunday. 🤷♀️ Strip clubs are a big deal here though, if I recall, Portland has the most, per capita? Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 Here's a link to my post about my strip club experience, a few months before I turned 13. I've never gone to one after that; they don't interest me. Link to post Share on other sites
Comrade F&F Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 Never went to one, and I don't think I'd enjoy it. I'm also not versed in telling the difference between a joint run professionally and one that exploits its employees, so I wouldn't go to any. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 23, 2019 Share Posted June 23, 2019 Spoiler For example ... I can go to watch a baseball game or even play chess and it can be much more then a strip club at least to me... ☺️ My two cents.. A strip club can be almost any place. To some it might be a baseball game or a library. So I would think that a strip club would be no different LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted June 24, 2019 Share Posted June 24, 2019 I couldn't see myself being anything but bored. Link to post Share on other sites
ben8884 Posted June 24, 2019 Share Posted June 24, 2019 never been to one and no desire to, Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted June 24, 2019 Share Posted June 24, 2019 17 hours ago, CBC said: I was sure that must be a typo at first. Alas. What a mess haha. 😂 Ha! Yeah, that was. Link to post Share on other sites
Alejandrogynous Posted June 24, 2019 Share Posted June 24, 2019 21 hours ago, Skullery Maid said: I love strip clubs. I get no sexual enjoyment out of them but I do like the environment and I've always had a lot of fun... Same. It's not sexual for me at all but I like the environment and hyping up the dancers. It's just a good time. It depends on the club though, obviously. Link to post Share on other sites
AceMissBehaving Posted June 24, 2019 Share Posted June 24, 2019 22 hours ago, Georgetown said: Yeah, my first time I mainly enjoyed the chatting. I embrace the uncomfortableness a little, and alcohol often helps 🙂. It also depends on the club. Is this a classy joint or a backwoods country joint or somewhere in between? Classier joints are sometimes more about alcohol and the show. I think I just didn’t dig the physical contact stuff happening around me. I love going to pole and burlesque shows though, those are I think more my vibe, and I could see the really upscale joints being a bit more like those. Link to post Share on other sites
Liana Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 I have never been to one and have no interest in doing so. It sounds like a waste of money to me and I have 0 interest in seeing people in next to no clothing. Spoiler The thought of nudity weirds me out to the point where there are a few video games that I’m interested in playing one day but avoid playing for the simple fact that I’ve heard that there is nudity in it. Link to post Share on other sites
Aimeendfire Posted June 26, 2019 Share Posted June 26, 2019 I would not be opposed to going to one but just because it takes great skill and muscles to dance on poles like that. I meant have you seen pole dancers. I would consider taking pole dancing classes as an exercise if I wasn’t afraid of busting my ass. Link to post Share on other sites
griffinej5 Posted June 28, 2019 Share Posted June 28, 2019 I’ve never been and don’t think I would enjoy it. I think I’d just be too uncomfortably awkward. I do enjoy drag shows, but I don’t really like having any sort of contact with the performers, though I’m not huge on being touched by people in general. Link to post Share on other sites
FaceofBase Posted July 1, 2019 Share Posted July 1, 2019 I've been to many strip clubs and I think they're great. I think women are beautiful even if I don't want to have sex with them and #sexworkiswork Link to post Share on other sites
œddy Posted July 1, 2019 Share Posted July 1, 2019 Only been to some pretty seedy ones, overpriced crap beer and being forced into private lap dances by my friends. Not fun. Link to post Share on other sites
nerdography Posted July 1, 2019 Share Posted July 1, 2019 I’ve never been and don’t plan on going. I mind tells me it would smell like cigarettes and body order and triggers my germaphobia. Link to post Share on other sites
LonesomeCrow Posted July 1, 2019 Share Posted July 1, 2019 Nope not my thing at all. Link to post Share on other sites
katinthehat Posted July 2, 2019 Share Posted July 2, 2019 I have respect for anyone who can pole dance well because you have to be super strong. Although I've never been to a strip club, I think I'd enjoy the dancing portion. Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted July 11, 2019 Share Posted July 11, 2019 When I was working it was a monthly visit for myself and a few co-workers. This was even after I knew I was asexual. I guess it was my aesthetic attraction that drew me to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Ringmaster04 Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 I'll go with some friends if that's where they want to go. I actually appreciate the work that the performers put in and can at least appreciate the art form even if I'm not experiencing any of the sensations my friends might be. Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 If the girl is a good pole dancer you have to admit there is some athletic ability involved. Link to post Share on other sites
œddy Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 I discovered male pole dancing was a thing the other day, if you can mask out the women in heat screaming their heads off and that its quite sexualised, they are incredibly athletic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u66R5cOjR2U&t=78s Link to post Share on other sites
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