Useyourwords Posted May 26, 2019 Share Posted May 26, 2019 Hello all. I was in AVEN probably 10 years ago. No idea what my old name or log-in was so I started over. I’m an asexual/anti-sexual female married to a heterosexual man. We’ve been together 13 years and have a really great relationship, but he still doesn’t get the asexuality thing. He thinks he can change my mind and doesn’t believe me when I say I would be okay, and actually prefer, if he had sex elsewhere. My latest attempt to explain is “I have to pay someone to give me massages, why can’t you pay someone for this?” *sigh* Any way, I am glad to be back and hope to make some new friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Mahaliajoy Posted May 26, 2019 Share Posted May 26, 2019 Welcome back! Have some cake! Link to post Share on other sites
iff Posted May 26, 2019 Share Posted May 26, 2019 Welcome back useyourwords Sexual/asexual relationships can be difficult. While I'm here, I'd like to point out a number of useful threads and places on the AVEN. Most important is the site Terms of Service (ToS). I suggest you read them over and feel free to PM me or another mod or admin if you have any questions. Same goes for general forum questions (and you can also use this thread if you'd prefer). That said, if you have any questions about a specific forum, you should ask the moderator of that forum (you can find a list of who mods where here). I'd also recommend poking around each forum to see what each one is about if you haven't already -- it'll get you used to the site and who the regulars are Here's a few more Welcome-related or newbie links you might find useful: A brief guide to the forums Welcome Lounge mini-manual Asexuality FAQ Welcoming other members Welcome to Aven, I hope you like it here Link to post Share on other sites
Custard Cream Posted May 26, 2019 Share Posted May 26, 2019 Hello and welcome! 🍰🍰🍰 Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 26, 2019 Share Posted May 26, 2019 Welcome to AVEN mate. I will warn you however, relationships with sexuals and asexuals especially tend not to work due to a lack of sex. Marriages can fall apart over this. Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted May 26, 2019 Share Posted May 26, 2019 Welcome back to AVEN! I've never had or desired either sex or a romantic relationship, but perhaps a book on Asexuality will help him to understand? Here is a short book about Asexuality that's free to read online, http://www.asexualityarchive.com/book/ Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a Jules Verne’s Ephemeral Museum Cake, Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted May 26, 2019 Share Posted May 26, 2019 Welcome back! I’d recommend the asexual Relationships Forum to help you figure out what to do from here (fair warning there are a few pessimists on there though) Link to post Share on other sites
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