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is it weird if i'm attracted to bodies? it's absolutely in a non sexual way like i can see abs or big arms and i'm like "damn their  body is great" but i don't feel anything sexual. It's the same as i see girls or boys and i find them attractive in an aesthetic way. Like i can tell if someone is hot (as in attractive) or not but i still don't feel any sexual tension or whatever. 

Am i still asexual? 

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Dreamsexual

I'm not sure I'm the right guy to respond to this (my relationship to human bodies is weird), but I think that many here differentiate between aesthetic appreciation and sexual attraction - and it makes sense (to me at least) that these aren't the same things.  So there's many aces who still find the human body aesthetically pleasing.  There are probably some here who don't see it that way, but I think the majority do.

 

Maybe others with greater insight than me will chime in and help you better understand this :)

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CBC

I guess you can like the aesthetics of the human form, sure. I know lots of people who are artistic types find bodies visually appealing. Photographers, painters, etc.

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1 minute ago, CBC said:

I guess you can like the aesthetics of the human form, sure. I know lots of people who are artistic types find bodies visually appealing. Photographers, painters, etc.

i'm not artistic at all but i still find bodies visually appealing i'm starting to think this is weird 

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CBC

Didn't say you had to be, just gave an example.

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hind
1 minute ago, CBC said:

Didn't say you had to be, just gave an example.

thanks for your answer!

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Anthracite_Impreza

My mate says human bodies are beautiful; I don't understand it myself...

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hind
1 minute ago, Anthracite_Impreza said:

My mate says human bodies are beautiful; I don't understand it myself...

i don't think human bodies are all beautiful either it really depends on each person's body

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MichaelTannock

It's not weird, and you're still Asexual.

Asexuality is a lack of Sexual Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to have sex with someone.

But there are other types of attraction besides Sexual Attraction.

And what you describe would be Aesthetic Attraction, which I define as leading to the desire to appreciate someone's aesthetic beauty.

 

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AwkwardSquid

I get you. I had the same question when I first joined AVEN because I knew people could be like pretty or hot and I would be like 'damn' but not in a sexual way. As some have said it is Aesthetic attraction. And I am still asexual XD lol it's like looking at nice shiny things I guess

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1 hour ago, AwkwardSquid said:

I get you. I had the same question when I first joined AVEN because I knew people could be like pretty or hot and I would be like 'damn' but not in a sexual way. As some have said it is Aesthetic attraction. And I am still asexual XD lol it's like looking at nice shiny things I guess

thank you for your answer! I understand better now :)

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robnrdbrd

I like to think my 'artistic eye' and, as I joked about on another thread, being a coach of a women's sports team, caused me to look at 'beauty' as it relates to the aesthetics/desired traits of my hobbies without much sexual desire attached to it.  But I've become interested in evolutionary psychology (am no expert, so forgive me if too simple), and wonder if we also have - to varying degrees - some deep down attraction to traits that demonstrate health in a mate even if we aren't interested in actually 'mating'? Some reading here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201707/why-we-want-who-we-want

 

If one doesn't buy that, I also wonder about the influence of culture? If the media, and the wider public echoing their statements, say certain things are 'most attractive', we might grow to believe that the same way we tend to say the movie or song everyone's talking about is 'the best', despite its flaws or aspects we don't really care for. Deep down, and once compared to all other options, individuals might have unique likes and things that don't do it for them and certainly not at all on a personal level, but with some acknowledgement that those are the things everyone else seems to love? As such, maybe we've been conditioned (in the Western world, at least) to believe things like six packs and cheek bones and dimples and C-cups are 'the best'?

 

 

 

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MaggieB

Well about me, for example I think Tom Hiddleston is pretty handsome and it's pleasing to watch him (and he is of course really great actor) but it's more aesthetic attraction, not sexual.

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cigarettesatmidnight
3 hours ago, Dreamsexual said:

I'm not sure I'm the right guy to respond to this (my relationship to human bodies is weird), but I think that many here differentiate between aesthetic appreciation and sexual attraction - and it makes sense (to me at least) that these aren't the same things.  So there's many aces who still find the human body aesthetically pleasing.  There are probably some here who don't see it that way, but I think the majority do.

 

Maybe others with greater insight than me will chime in and help you better understand this :)

Even when I still don't differenciate between sexual atraction and aesthetic atraction, I would say Aestethic atraction and aesthetic appreciation it's not the same thing. You can appreciate how beautiful something is and still not be to your taste (Cars, shoes, paintings, dogs).  What actually is to your taste is what I would call aesthetic attraction. At least this is how I undestand it to be.

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cigarettesatmidnight
40 minutes ago, robnrdbrd said:

But I've become interested in evolutionary psychology (am no expert, so forgive me if too simple), and wonder if we also have - to varying degrees - some deep down attraction to traits that demonstrate health in a mate even if we aren't interested in actually 'mating'? Some reading here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201707/why-we-want-who-we-want

I have also heard this from some anthropologists. A lot of things make a lot of sense from the evolutionary psychology, such as the genders theories, mechanisms of defense

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Anthracite_Impreza
2 hours ago, robnrdbrd said:

But I've become interested in evolutionary psychology (am no expert, so forgive me if too simple), and wonder if we also have - to varying degrees - some deep down attraction to traits that demonstrate health in a mate even if we aren't interested in actually 'mating'? Some reading here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201707/why-we-want-who-we-want

Certainly doesn't work for all of us. Some of us aren't attracted to humans at all ;)

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kiaroskuro

Aesthetic attraction doesn't make sense to me, aesthetic appreciation does. Attraction means being drawn to someone/something, it involves some sort of longing for interaction. At least that's how I define it.

By the way, have you heard about sensual attraction, @hind ? Maybe that's what you experience.

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Dreamsexual

To make things weirder (and why not?), I find a lot of female bodies very, very sexually attractive (so long as I don't see or choose to remember that they are full of things I don't like, such as mucus), but I would be disgusted to have sex with them as actual real people.  I kinda want to have sex with their 'perfected' bodies minus their own consciousness and replaced with my own lovers' (she's a non-human extra dimensional being).

 

So is that sexual attraction or not?  Am I asexual or not?  I go with asexual(ish) ...

 

Bodies, sex and attraction ... Complex stuff.  At the end of the day, you do you and you are what you are, regardless of the label.

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Anthracite_Impreza
6 minutes ago, kiaroskuro said:

Aesthetic attraction doesn't make sense to me, aesthetic appreciation does. Attraction means being drawn to someone/something, it involves some sort of longing for interaction. At least that's how I define it.

Yeah, you're drawn to staring. I can definitely see a massive difference between attractive car (ooph, yes, phwoar, gorgeous) and an attractive horse (aw, that's pretty).

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cigarettesatmidnight
6 hours ago, kiaroskuro said:

Aesthetic attraction doesn't make sense to me, aesthetic appreciation does. Attraction means being drawn to someone/something, it involves some sort of longing for interaction. At least that's how I define it.

By the way, have you heard about sensual attraction, @hind ? Maybe that's what you experience.

Maybe it's because your aro? I don't know, but that's sounds so weird to me. To me, pitbulls and pugs are the most pretty dogs (apreciation), but I would rather buy a bullterrier, because even though I know he is ugly, I like it, it appeals to me (attraction). 

Maybe I'm weird and like ugly stuff but can appreciate beauty 🙄

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wirewalker

I definitely find people good-looking sometimes. I can appreciate somebody's face or even other parts of their body (occasionally). Most "typically attractive" things (such as muscles, abs, cheekbones, rear ends, etc) do nothing for me, though. And even when I find someone aesthetically pleasing, it's not sexual at all.

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kiaroskuro
16 hours ago, cigarettesatmidnight said:

Maybe it's because your aro? I don't know, but that's sounds so weird to me. To me, pitbulls and pugs are the most pretty dogs (apreciation), but I would rather buy a bullterrier, because even though I know he is ugly, I like it, it appeals to me (attraction). 

Maybe I'm weird and like ugly stuff but can appreciate beauty 🙄

No, I don't think it's because I'm grey-romantic.

I mean, I can find a person aesthetically pleasing, but the fact that I like to look at someone has nothing to do with my asexual or romantic orientation, because .... it's just looks, you know? I don't want anything from them, except maybe a lifesize poster for my walls 😄 (Just kidding.)

 

In a similar way, I have problems with this whole debate on sexual attraction: I never understood how you could define it as anything other than 'desire for partnered sex'.

 

And bullterriers ... well, why not? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder 🙂

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hind
On 5/16/2019 at 8:54 PM, kiaroskuro said:

Aesthetic attraction doesn't make sense to me, aesthetic appreciation does. Attraction means being drawn to someone/something, it involves some sort of longing for interaction. At least that's how I define it.

By the way, have you heard about sensual attraction, @hind ? Maybe that's what you experience.

i searched more about aesthetic and sensual attractions and they both define me. So what does that make me? 

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