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a possible-aromantic musing


catra

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hello! so, i’ve been questioning my romantic identity recently, and i’m leaning more and more towards the possibility of being aro-spec. and, it scares me. for the past 4-5 years, discovering that i “liked” girls a thousand times more than boys has been a big part of me. i never found boys attractive but i do stop in my tracks when i see a pretty girl (so, every day). i thought that meant i was gay. i mean, i’ve just always seen girls as 1000x more aesthetically pleasing, and i didn’t really imagine dating, but if i did i wanted a girl. or, i thought. turns out, i don’t really want to date anyone, and i didn’t feel enough when i dated a girl i thought was prettier than all the stars combined. so, now i’m wondering if i’m not gay (and actually aro), and i just don’t know what to do with myself. it was a main piece in the puzzle of my life, and now it doesn’t even match the big picture. 

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Meylnaerdbier

I'm not sure if I'm the best person to give advice, but have you considered aesthetic attraction? I couldn't help but think of that when you were describing how you found girls attractive.

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8 hours ago, Meylnaerdbier said:

I'm not sure if I'm the best person to give advice, but have you considered aesthetic attraction? I couldn't help but think of that when you were describing how you found girls attractive.

yeah, i definitely find girls aesthetically attractive, but it’s not the same as finding the romantically attractive, which is where the shock is coming from i suppose. cuz aesthetic attraction isn’t considered as “important” (for lack of a better word) as romantic or sexual attraction. 

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