LizbethHope Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 I’ve been looking at aromantic resources and I feel like I may be Demi but I’m not sure? I’ve had a proper crush on one guy which was a squish until he asked me out and I became romantically attracted to him. I’m 17 and I’ve never had a crush before then. What I’ve called crushes, like I’ve had on celebrity’s have mostly been a mixture of platonic and sometimes aesthetic attraction. Like they are cute and I really want to be their friend. Looking up things about QPPs I realised how apathetic I am towards a romantic relationship, like it’d be cool to have one if just to have a partner but I’m not overly fussed about the romantic side and I’d be just a happy with a QPP. Until now I’ve always labelled myself biromantic asexual but right now I’m not sure. Link to post Share on other sites
General Posted April 7, 2019 Share Posted April 7, 2019 @LizbethHope I'm a demiromantic ace. I didn't realize what having a crush was until about 21, when a friend starting behaving flirtatious/sensual towards me. I had to ask myself a question to figure out what I was feeling. "Would you be in a romantic relationship with this person?" I said yes. I said yes twice because I've only had a crush twice in the entire 34 years I've been alive. Hope this explanation helps a little. Link to post Share on other sites
goddamn-emokid Posted April 8, 2019 Share Posted April 8, 2019 I’ve just recently started identifying as demiromantic, and my experiences are somewhat similar. I’m 21 and my most recent crush was/is on one of my best friends. I always knew he was kind of my “type” but it was only when we became really good friends that I started to realize I liked him as more than just a friend. I had one other crush before and it was similar circumstances. It can be difficult to figure out, especially if you’re a bit indifferent about romantic relationships. I want a romantic relationship so I think it was easier for me to spot? It’s okay to not completely understand everything right now, and for ages I just didn’t put a specific label on myself until I got things figured out a little more. Link to post Share on other sites
Hunji Qi Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 I am also a demiromantic ace, I am 23 now and only had one crush for my entire life. He was my best friend in high school and it took me more than a year to find out that I have somewhat different feeling towards him. It was the combination of romantic and aesthetic attraction. I felt hurt when I found out that he likes someone else. Other than that, I am really apathetic about romance in general, do not view it as any necessity and have trouble understanding why some people cannot live without it. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady.Saturnina.94 Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 I am also demiromantic. I don't experience romantic attraction towards anyone unless I have known them for a while. I am 25, I have been in one relationship in my life, and it was with a friend I met when I was 16. By the time we started dating, we had known each other for a little over four and a half years, and we knew each very well at that point (we are aren't together now, but we're still friends). Most of the time, I am indifferent when it comes to romance; I think of it as something that is nice to have, but not something I need in my life. I will admit that I experienced some confusion about my romantic orientation before realizing I was demiromantic. Before I realized I was ace, I thought I was bisexual, and after that I thought that I was a biromantic ace. Aromantic kind of applied to me, but not completely. Then I read an article that explains signs of being demiromantic, and thought "This makes perfect sense!" Here's a link to that article: https://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/better-love/demiromantic-traits I hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
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