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BDSM "porn" for a sex-repulsed ace?


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JessPlaysChess

Hey there!

 

So I am into bdsm, however, I'm also super sex repulsed. I've actually tried to find anything appropriate for me but google doesn't spit out anything good. Scrolling down on kink porn sites not only feels pointless, I'm also utterly disgusted by the images I'm seeing and I really don't wanna look at those... I usually just end up watching instructional videos or interviews about BDSM on YouTube (and that becomes quite boring after a while rly!) but I'd like to see actual scenes.

 

Anyone of you can recommend something where people just stay dressed please? I'm also taking written fiction or audio books.

 

As for my preferences, I'm rly into bondage, fear play, especially knife play, and erotic hypnosis but not so much into pain or humiliation. (However I'd also be glad to find anything at all for the moment 😂 )

 

Thank you!

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OO i like you, mmm it's hard to find stuff like this, but I'm actually hoping to do fanfiction sooner or later. So I'm open to requests, down for anyone who wants to request a drabble/maybe oneshot. I know it's hard to find specific things for ace peeps and I do appreciate BDSM without sexual elements. The only thing I can think you liking  is this https://soundcloud.com/user-836591592/bdsm-with-levi-levi-x-listener .

It's not quite anything you described above and there's really only a bit of sexual air to it. Though it's sensual there's a quite a bit of thrill from fear on Levi's end, and ice. 

 

(and you can laugh at him mispronouncing cold)

 

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Scottthespy

Well...you could try old Wonder Woman comics...

 

That's a reference most people are going to need to look up though.

 

I don't know where to find such scenes, with the possible exception of some Nos-4-a2XEve Two slash fic...being robots they get hot and heavy with code instead of hardware, but it still might be too explicit and too light on the bondage.

 

Writing your own scenes can be fun if you get into the right mindset and don't care about grammar. I do a lot of 'guilty pleasure' writing that's just for me, stuff I don't think is polished enough to show off but was fun to write and go back over. A month or so ago I wrote a whole side thing for a fanfiction I was writing to make public, but then got this idea for a knifeplay scene in my head that wouldn't go away so I did fanfiction of my own fanfiction. The knife scene isn't part of the story and won't get publicly published ever, but it was still fun to write it. Maybe that could work for you? You might even be able to find some one who can write for you, like KrystalLost up there, or who can take a rough piece you've written and flesh it out and clean it up. I'm pretty good at edits like that.

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YES!

 

...I mean, I have similar problems. I just thought it was a me problem.

 

For fanfiction, I felt archiveofourown is pretty good. There are some stories which I quite liked, to the point I went...'yes! this is what I'd like to have happen to me! And I finally realized you can have it without sex! ;.; '

 

I know it may sound odd, but in terms of audio I occasionally try out nimja's audio hypnosis stuff. I don't really treat it as hypnosis, more like roleplaying, but by the sounds of your post you may be into it. His site is helpful because you can filter out stuff that involves arousal and stuff.

 

I've been wondering about ASMR (those whispering videos that give some people a tingly feeling, I think). Again, not necessarily in terms of tingly feelings, but of roleplaying. The single one I've tried had a theme that aligned to one of my fantasies (king-servant roleplay).

 

Surprisingly enough, I found Pinterest pretty helpful. I mostly use it to look for shibari/rope bondage images (and some anime ikemen >.>), and I found that it's easier to not be bombarded by pics of bits I don't want to see on Pinterest as opposed to Google Images.

 

Also in terms of shibari - I guess it's easier to find videos of actual scenes where people stay as clothed as possible as opposed to something like flogging... (I'm saying this because I've tried)

 

Related to fanfiction, I guess there's forum roleplaying. Basically forums where people create a character, and write what their character is doing and they can interract with other characters. The setting can be based on a piece of media (like an anime) or just completely new. There's usually a progresion system through writing, sort of like in games. (I find it quite fun!). Depending on how softcore or hardcore you like your fantasies, I guess you could either manage some things on normal rp forums, or have to look for 18+ forums. What I mean is, some stuff like mild torture, power dynamics and finding knives fascinating wouldn't be out of place in many shonen anime, so people wouldn't bat an eye if your villain character enjoys making people powerless by tying them with his magical ribbon...or if your character gets a bit excited when they fight with swords and they get cut (that's basically average shonen anime behavior = P )...or if there's a hierarchy in place, and is important for your character to obey that.

 

However, of course, one should use their judgment. Not all stuff goes on all forums. And on some forums, there are simply not good enough writers to make this sort of roleplaying enjoyable. (Unfortunately, my current place is like that, so I can't suggest anywhere in particular.)

 

Good luck! And I'm really interested in suggestions other people may offer, because I have the same problem!

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chairdesklamp

"You can write if you don't care about grammar" Yikes! There is so much fic that looks like the author has never seen a book, and as someone who got beat by a teacher for not having college-level English as a high-school brand-new immigrant, it irks me to no end how native speakers seem perfectly content (and safe!) being illiterate in their only language. If you're gonna write a book, KNOW HOW TO WRITE!!

 

On RP: Tumbler RP might be the perfect place to go. I was ignored by all but one person because I wanted something other than sex RP. It didn't help that I was an actual queer man and not a homophobic gay-fetish straight person, but there was one other queer man, and he found a couple people to play with, because he was down for sexual RP. I was down for romantic non-sexual with the right character and RPer, but the no sex thing was a deal-breaker. (There might've also been transphobia; my character was a trans man with kids) Very little of Tumbler RP is something other than sex scenes.

 

But based on what you're seeking, Tumbler RP might be great for you. Just, there's a LOT of aphobia/TERFs, and otherwise bigoted exclusionist cisgays, and they will send all their friends after anyone ace, trans, or championing ace or trans inclusivity (I hadn't figured out the demi thing yet, but I was fighting for ace inclusivity while identifying as bi) 

 

So you gotta be careful. If you think you can stand having to closet the ace thing, everyone will fall all over someone there to do BDSM roleplay. But if you're explicitly looking for it to not be sexual, if it'll come out that you're ace, don't touch Tumbler. For your own mental safety.

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On 3/20/2019 at 5:19 PM, JessPlaysChess said:

Hey there!

 

So I am into bdsm, however, I'm also super sex repulsed. I've actually tried to find anything appropriate for me but google doesn't spit out anything good. Scrolling down on kink porn sites not only feels pointless, I'm also utterly disgusted by the images I'm seeing and I really don't wanna look at those... I usually just end up watching instructional videos or interviews about BDSM on YouTube (and that becomes quite boring after a while rly!) but I'd like to see actual scenes.

 

Anyone of you can recommend something where people just stay dressed please? I'm also taking written fiction or audio books.

 

As for my preferences, I'm rly into bondage, fear play, especially knife play, and erotic hypnosis but not so much into pain or humiliation. (However I'd also be glad to find anything at all for the moment 😂 )

 

Thank you!

do u prefer a gender for those practices?

 

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