franksinatraofficial Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 hi! I’m new here and I’ve identified as aromantic for many years, but I think I have a crush on a girl now but I’m not sure?? I feel really nervous around her and I blush a lot and I think she’s really pretty and cool BUT the idea of being in a romantic relationship with her makes me feel physically ill. the most I want to do with her is maybe kiss her on the cheek but anything else feels gross and wrong. does anyone have any idea what this is?? also I’m in school for many hours so I probably won’t be replying until around 5:00 or 6:00 pm EST Link to post Share on other sites
Galactic Turtle Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 I don't know what it is but you could try just getting to know her. Since you're still in school it wouldn't be a stretch to say you're just experiencing your first crush since this is the environment where most people go through this. Link to post Share on other sites
Duke Memphis Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 Feel what you feel and worry about labels later. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 Eh sounds like you're in the grey area like me or you're just experiencing this for the first time and are put off by it. Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 @franksinatraofficial Welcome to AVEN! It sounds like what you're experiencing is a Squish, the Aromantic version of a Crush, http://wiki.asexuality.org/Romantic_attraction Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake, and here's a Frank Sinatra Cake, Link to post Share on other sites
Ldlelee Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 As Michael said, I think what you're experiencing is a squish. They're very confusing, and the best way to put them is "a platonic crush." You get all of the wonderful feelings associated with a crush, like the obsessive thoughts, pounding heart, and desire for affection, but without the romance. It's all very perilous, lol. Trust me, I know. By the way, welcome to AVEN! I hope you enjoy your stay here. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 oh yes forgot about that too : D squishes exist Link to post Share on other sites
franksinatraofficial Posted March 19, 2019 Author Share Posted March 19, 2019 hey everyone, thank you for your feedback! after reading all your replies and seeing what a squish is I think it is a squish that I am experiencing. also, thank you for the cake! Link to post Share on other sites
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