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Just another thread to talk about our kinks and have a good philosophical talk about sexy stuff.  Anybody who's up for sharing go ahead, I'll add mine when someone joins me. O wO

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Usernamethe2nd

aww jeez, a fetish I wish I didn't have bc it kinda destroys your life. When it comes to self improvement it seems my fetish is always there to foil me. Fat, I'm attracted to fat. I love the way it moves, the way it feels when you are too big for something or bump into things, and I love the way it looks. Maybe, I got this way because my step father would pick on me for being too skinny, or bc a bigger person was nice to me as a kid, idk.

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Aww, love that's nothing to be ashamed of. I would try and move it towards something healthier, like an appreciation. I'm not picky with body types, and chubby people are really soft mmm~ so I getcha.  I'm really into BDSM and a Dom, if anyone wants to talk about it with me I'm all ears. And I mean to the point of like edgeplay, (knives, guns, fear, you name it) choking (obviously me doing it) is quite a big kink of mine as well. But I'm pretty much into everything soo. (Also a huge sadist ; ) )   

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The Femals are wonderfully beautiful, some fair, some brown; I call them fair, because they are of the colour of fair Hair.
1708, Francis Leguat et al, A new Voyage to the East-Indies

 

Francis just called them brown people.

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Usernamethe2nd

Lol, ...I'm not helping. How do you think kinks or fetishes come about? Yes btw, fluffy is nice.

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How do you argue philosophically about a topic like kink? It seems to be very subjective, almost to the point of being individualizing, in the sense that if someone has a kink or fetish, it is almost a determinant of their personality. Never mind, I think I answered my own question. 😂

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Grumpy Alien

Ignoring the above post that will likely get removed shortly...

 

I feel like I should have something to contribute but I can't think of anything. No fetishes, just not always super vanilla.

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Simple, you talk about how beautiful power play can be. The sub giving up control and trusting their entire being to you. You have the power to take them apart and piece them back together. The responsibly you carry in ensuring their safety and comfort as well. Personally I love to be poetic about this stuff. The sensations, the thrill, the intimacy of it all.

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I have a friend who is quiet into the BDSM side of it all especially when it comes to being a sub. We both tool a BDSM when we were bored and the results were really well odd XD it was fun though 

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I have a weird relationship with kinks cause I find any kink fascinating (unless it makes me feel literally sick) and honestly, I wonder if it's the "taboo-ness" of it that turns me on. I have never had sex nor have I really had much interest (though I would like to try it sometime just to see if I'd like it) but watching porn of taboo topics is so interesting. There are some that I think I would like with me actually being in it like neck biting and edge play and pet play and others but I have never gotten to an intimacy level with anyone that would allow that to happen. I haven't even kissed anyone (which has its own separate effects on me that we're not talking about here).

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Pet play can be very fun, I've never done it personally though. Since I act like a cat a lot it can be a good release, however it cannot be sexual or have any power dynamics because it bruises by pride. (so basically ill just act like an angry cat and chase around a laser with a friend for kicks and giggles, and get free pets.) ; D (other than than i am an owner when it comes to pet play) 

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There are things I'd like to try, and hope I will one day, but it would have to be as part of a relationship with a partner I could trust and who was also open to experimentation.  

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It's kinda funny. I have a lot of kinks and just things I'm into but I don’t "explore". I've figured out most of my kinks passively, by accident. I don’t try to find them. I just find them. It just happens. I seriously put zero effort in it. I just live my daily life and while I do things the kinks casually and naturally come to me.

 

I have no desire to actually have sex or act out any of this stuff in real life (except that I do sometimes like to act out roles by myself but it's not really sexual) but I like to fantasize about it. I used to do it like daily but lately I haven't done it that often, just sometimes. I'm not dissatisfied though. 

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This is probably the one thing that confuses me having coming to terms with being Asexual and finding it explains and answers so much. But I do have fantasies and kinks though I have no sexual attraction and no desire or inclination for sex.

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9 hours ago, KrystalLost said:

Simple, you talk about how beautiful power play can be. The sub giving up control and trusting their entire being to you. You have the power to take them apart and piece them back together. The responsibly you carry in ensuring their safety and comfort as well. Personally I love to be poetic about this stuff. The sensations, the thrill, the intimacy of it all.

You do make it sound appealing! I like the idea of giving up control to somebody else, at least in my fantasies. I guess I might never know if it would work for me in reality.

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So, I'm sure I'm not the only one who experiences this, but I find that as a single grey-ace who is female presenting, it's hard to actively go out in exploration of one's kinks. With the lack of a partner to play around with, and friends largely off-limits because of not wanting to put awkward or inappropriate expectations on them, in desperate times it feels like the only option you have is to take the risk of entering a community of strangers who may not be trustworthy. That can be intimidating especially when you're on your own and very aware of being seen as an easy target in what seems like a predatory scene, so sadly I don't do it as often as I'd like.

 

It's really nice that there are more and more non-sexual and ace positive BDSM and kink groups these days, but it can still feel like a big barrier.

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Damn, I feel ya. Huge virgin here and wishing I could branch out into this stuff, but can't because I don't trust people for shit. To be honest it always freaks me out if it seems like I'm submissive, because it's like n o i  do n 't WANNA. could be lack of experience in literally everything considering i haven't even kissed someone in years. if only i was taller 

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manicmanner

Finding play partners has always been a process for me as a gray-ace lady who's a switch. When I first started going to local community events I didn't know how to negotiate limits properly and got into uncomfortably sexual situations, but through some trial and error and talking to other folks I've learned how to negotiate the icky parts out of scenes. It helps that one of my play partners is also a gray-ace lady, but I play with my romantic partner non-sexually (although I don't mind more sexual play in private on occasion) as well as pick up play with good friends when they're in the mood and new acquaintances.

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1 hour ago, KrystalLost said:

Damn, I feel ya. Huge virgin here and wishing I could branch out into this stuff, but can't because I don't trust people for shit. To be honest it always freaks me out if it seems like I'm submissive, because it's like n o i  do n 't WANNA. could be lack of experience in literally everything considering i haven't even kissed someone in years. if only i was taller 

Hey there's always a chance, I mentioned on another thread somewhere that despite my fears I have experimented in the BDSM community a bit and was surprised how open and welcoming they were of asexual identities/non sexual preferences. But it did take a while for me to find a community I trusted and built up the courage to do it.

 

But I get what you mean, I guess because I normally avoid any situation like that, it feels very uncomfortable to relent even when I want to.

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just threw up and am now going to cry in a corner. just found out im 5'1...not 5'2, not 5'3... an inch off from what i thought and now most of my dignity is shattered. 

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*offers a blanket*

 

It's okay, Krystal. If it helps, other people around you mind it far far far less than you do right now...I know it seems vital, but people are so complex, and height is such a small part of it.

 

I guess my kinks are mostly in fantasy for now. I identify as a bottom, mostly a masochist, with some submissive tendencies. I find it very calming to be tied up. I like stingy and scratchy pain. I guess I fantasize more about the esthetics of a power dynamic than about power dynamic in themselves, which is a hard thing to explain. For example...I guess I fantasize about kneeling, and being cared for, and obeying 'orders', but those orders would be about things I want to do in the first place. The idea of punishments, of pushing limits or that I should want to do things I don't like because the top wishes it...is not something which I feel into. I have to be careful about expressing this part of me in a healthy manner, however, because otherwise that need to be cared for can express itself as me unloading my emotional regulation onto others.

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