SioRandom Posted February 13, 2019 Share Posted February 13, 2019 Rushing to get love, or to even get laid, it isn’t something good. Resulting in some other desired things, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 13, 2019 Share Posted February 13, 2019 The only thing I have found in rushing anything in life, is how quickly you find out how little gets done. How little actually works out. In business, in love and in life, the costs are typically quite high. Past efficiency, you're just wasting your time. Rushing to get laid means you're making judgment calls based on impulse. If you don't carry protection at all times, this typically has disastrous consequences. Rushing for love is great if you love rollercoaster relationships. Love takes time. Link to post Share on other sites
Paula @ BH Posted February 13, 2019 Share Posted February 13, 2019 Dear SioRandom, What's going on between two people can be addressing human needs at various different layers in the human psyche: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs Satisfaction of more than one layer may be sought simulatneously by each person, and a different mixture of layers and at different strengths in each person. I wouldn't want to think that I was seeking 'love/belonging' while someone else, perhaps thinking only of 'having sex' with me (i.e. gratifying a physiological need , the like of which an asexual person won't have in that context) and maybe, later, by boasting and passing round 'sexts', doing it also in order to boost their 'self-esteem'. And how far does 'giving in' to someone's lust really boost your own self esteem, even without all of what happened being shared afterwards without your permission? And being 'treated like a receptacle' really make you feel oved? No. 'having sex' is NOT the same as 'making love' - and I think that this 4* customer review on Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Invisible-Orientation-Introduction-Asexuality-Generation/product-reviews/1634502434/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_hist_4?ie=UTF8&filterByStar=four_star&reviewerType=all_reviews#reviews-filter-bar and this transcript and video (you'll need a UK IP address for the vidio clip . use a VPN?): https://www.bbc.com/news/video_and_audio/features/disability-39353731/39353731 https://www.bbc.com/news/disability-39351352 - show exactly that there is a very real difference beween 'having sex' and 'making love'. I think that your body is too precious a gift to throw it at someone in the hope that it will prove you're loveable and loved. It may prove that you don't love yourself, instead. I would say, hang on until you really make a very close friend of someone, and then you can find out what you and they may wish and be able to do in terms of 'making love' - and it may not be anything genital at all, but it will be 'making love'.... Do look at my full profile on AVEN to see something of my own experiences, if you like. With my best wishes, Paula Link to post Share on other sites
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Guest Posted February 13, 2019 Share Posted February 13, 2019 4 hours ago, Dreamsexual said: Rushing to get out of a burning building can sometimes be useful. Taking the time to assess the danger, and react accordingly, is wiser. Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamsexual Posted February 13, 2019 Share Posted February 13, 2019 On 2/13/2019 at 12:59 PM, Perspektiv said: Taking the time to assess the danger, and react accordingly, is wiser. Link to post Share on other sites
uhtred Posted February 13, 2019 Share Posted February 13, 2019 Sometimes when there are real time limits, rushing may be better than failing. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 13, 2019 Share Posted February 13, 2019 23 minutes ago, Dreamsexual said: Depends on the situation. Correct. But you used fire. Running while on fire, would exacerbate the issue. Taking the time to drop and roll, would mitigate it. Running in a smoky building. You would die of asphyxiation likely if you had long to, via taking a second and realizing that you got low, that you could breathe better. Damp cloth on mouth? Even better. Some situations will work with rushing, but is generally poor practice. In labor, I often was the fastest using efficiency. I have seen tons of guys burn out in 2 hours trying to jog. Slow and steady wins the race, usually. Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamsexual Posted February 13, 2019 Share Posted February 13, 2019 On 2/13/2019 at 4:43 PM, Perspektiv said: usually. Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted February 14, 2019 Share Posted February 14, 2019 20 hours ago, SioRandom said: Resulting in some other desired things, right? I'm not sure what that's supposed to mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Jetsun Milarepa Posted February 14, 2019 Share Posted February 14, 2019 When I think of the word 'rushing' it reminds me of the poem: http://www.davidpbrown.co.uk/poetry/william-henry-davies.html Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted February 14, 2019 Share Posted February 14, 2019 There's a reason "Festina lente" is still in use today Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Jetsun Milarepa Posted February 14, 2019 Share Posted February 14, 2019 Especially on the road, as no doubt you have seen @Skycaptain Link to post Share on other sites
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