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Telecaster68

I might've even seen her in something. She can't quite replace Tina Fey in my affections though. 

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Oh I'm very into Tina Fey. 😍

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ByeYall!
47 minutes ago, Telecaster68 said:

It's all they do, women. Send me unsolicited tit pics.

you win the prize. Just bravo or brava, which ever fits.

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InquisitivePhilosopher
33 minutes ago, Telecaster68 said:

How about these:...

Shouldn't the graphic been put into a spoiler tag, as it was kind of graphic (and unexpected, for some asexuals who are sex-repulsed), or is this allowed and common in the "Sexual Partners, Friends and Allies" forum?

 

25 minutes ago, Wandering Daydreamer said:

...I don't care if I don't get sex or don't have a romantic relationship with someone, actually that's my plan, but I get hug-starved and wanted a friend that would always be by my side, no kisses and stuff like that. That's so gross. Do people don't obsess over the fact that you can get a lot of bacteria by that? And what is the feeling that makes people desire that? We would do hobbies together but still would be together, and maybe there could be a third cuddle buddy. The more the merrier. I wished someone would understand 😒

Here you go: research about people from several other cultures who don't like romantic kissing their significant others, family members, etc.

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Telecaster68
2 minutes ago, Ceebs. said:

Oh I'm very into Tina Fey. 😍

She's a goddess.

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Telecaster68
1 minute ago, InquisitivePhilosopher said:

it was kind of graphic

It was literally a line drawing of a cartoon phallus in the shape of a pipe. And a spoiler would've killed the timing.

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Life With Masks
3 minutes ago, InquisitivePhilosopher said:

Perhaps, the graphic should've been put into a spoiler tag, as it was kind of graphic (and unexpected, for some asexuals who are sex-repulsed).

 

Here you go: research about people from several other cultures who don't like romantic kissing their significant others, family members, etc.

That's very interesting. I would like to boop other person on the nose and receive boop on the nose or hand in hand to show affection.

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2 minutes ago, Telecaster68 said:

It was literally a line drawing of a cartoon phallus in the shape of a pipe. And a spoiler would've killed the timing.

Have we forgotten what site we're on, Tele? :P 

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James121

It wasn’t like it was picture of a real dick

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Telecaster68
1 minute ago, Ceebs. said:

Have we forgotten what site we're on, Tele? :P 

Funny trumps offensive.

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Well, should anyway.

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Violet87

I think the digital world can allow people like me with high anxiety to meet people. Will that change into love? I believe it could.

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Life With Masks

If that thing isn't a penis then it seems like a watering can but quite doesn't look like one. Or maybe a water gun shaped in the form of a penis.

 

I personally don't care but maybe people might be working and then bam the picture of a penis appears. That's not very nice is it.

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anisotrophic

I met my spouse over fifteen years ago "online".

 

Friends first. "I would ask you out on a date if you lived here," I wrote. We chatted and chatted, back in the days of IRC. And then talked. I still blush to remember the first time I heard his voice. (Like many androphilic Americans, an English accent is like kryptonite.)

 

Didn't call it dating until he made a trip, across that ocean, to visit. What if I wasn't attracted, right? That sex part seemed to work too. Hah. And I still am, I'm thankful he plays along.

 

Eventually he moved to marry me. Married to move, is more accurate -- that visa thing. Many years later we had kids (but have been married without longer than with).

 

It seems to be an unusually strong relationship. We make each other more than we would have been alone. We've worked through the stress of understanding his asexuality -- and my gender issues -- and children, who can be terrible brats, but I like to think will have the gift of an unusual family with plenty of love.

 

So yes. I think love can be found online.

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Chihiro

Ugh... so much offtopic conversation here :blink:

 

Yes, I believe its possible. But it takes a different type of effort and communication compared to real life dating. I have a lot of friends who have done it and are now happily married (But they met IRL first and then did LDR until they sorted out their school/career).  

 

I think I have a high chance of meeting a compatible partner online than IRL. I imagine it would be LDR in the beginning and with occasional RL meetups and eventually becoming a RL relationship when we start living together.

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Guest Jetsun Milarepa

I'm with @Chihiro....amazing how it can get ridiculous. 

 

I think these kind of relationships are useful for those who can't get out to meet others for various reasons, but it's not as real. How can you verify who you're actually talking to anyway? It could just be a catfish or a bot.

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Chihiro
5 minutes ago, chandrakirti said:

I think these kind of relationships are useful for those who can't get out to meet others for various reasons, but it's not as real. How can you verify who you're actually talking to anyway? It could just be a catfish or a bot.

By doing audio/video calls. By actually meeting them.

 

Even RL people can be deceptive. We have seen enough news on TV about nice guy, helpful to community, etc but was a murderer/abuser when no one was looking.

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Guest Jetsun Milarepa

...and that's how digital age savvy I am! I forgot about Skype ! I'd never do it myself though. 

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)
8 hours ago, James121 said:

It’s becoming increasingly popular for someone to find that ‘special one’ online these days and sometimes the relationships remain limited to online.

Does anyone think you can genuinely have a meaningful relationship with someone online or do you think it’s a bit false?

Ive always believed that love has to be very personal so I’m not convinced by it.

My online relationships have been far more intimate, passionate, and loving than the 5 year long physical relationship I had. You're also forced to talk a LOT more when in an online relationship so you get to know the person really well through words and communication.

 

If you're someone who only cares about a physical connection (or places that over other forms of emotional and mental intimacy) then of course online relationships probably won't be for someone like that, but for people who enjoy the emotional and mental connection the most online relationships can be very beneficial and rewarding. 

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)
7 hours ago, Ceebs. said:

My mum probably still remembers the dick pic I sent to her thanks to you and that Tumblr.

I accidentally sent my mum a naked selfie once :c thats what happens when you have too many chat heads open at once Y_Y

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anisotrophic

 

23 minutes ago, chandrakirti said:

How can you verify who you're actually talking to anyway?

We used phones. 😉 There weren't smartphones yet...!

 

I think it helps a lot to have met online in a context where both people are members of a larger online community, it isn't about dating, and so you've started by making friends simply because you like talking to each other. With that context, it becomes outlandish to imagine someone fabricating an identity...

 

8 minutes ago, Ficto. said:

You're also forced to talk a LOT more when in an online relationship so you get to know the person really well through words and communication.

Ah, yes, maybe that's why we've been so good at communicating through our troubles!

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1 minute ago, Ficto. said:

I accidentally sent my mum a naked selfie once :c thats what happens when you have too many chat heads open at once Y_Y

Oh no. 😬 

 

I am very veryyyyy careful with any uhh... non-mum-friendly material. 

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James121
2 hours ago, Ficto. said:

I accidentally sent my mum a naked selfie once :c thats what happens when you have too many chat heads open at once Y_Y

Gutted 🤦‍♂️ Did she respond?

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Philip027

All my relationships, including my now-marriage, developed online.

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James121
1 minute ago, Philip027 said:

All my relationships, including my now-marriage, developed online.

Do you think it could ever have become serious at the point it was an online only relationship?

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Philip027

Define "serious"

 

I mean like, my self esteem sucks and I haven't really seen myself as marryable material, but it isn't like I hopped into relationships completely convinced they were a lost cause and they would never work out in the end, either.  I don't want to ridicule it because I'm sure it's a problem for some, but that seems like such a dreary way to experience relationships.

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9 minutes ago, Philip027 said:

...but it isn't like I hopped into relationships completely convinced they were a lost cause and they would never work out in the end, either.

Same, yeah. I don't think there's anything wrong with, well, any type of relationship really... casual dating, hookups, trying something and seeing where it goes, whatever makes someone happy wherever they're at in life and what their needs are... but I personally am not one to bother with anything unless I think there's a decent chance it could go somewhere significant. For one, I just don't have that level of interest in social connection; I'm pretty introverted and happy being relatively solitary (not involuntarily isolated though, that's a different kettle of fish and I've experienced that to some extent as well and it's not good for my mental state whatsoever). I don't have a strong drive to actively seek out relationships of any sort, and the people who are in my life are there because I met them randomly somehow (other than family, of course). So if I've gotten to the point of significant feelings for someone and I'm acting on them, it's because I believe it has real potential. I really just do not have the energy to screw around. 

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James121

Serious as in, it’s unlikely you are actually going to see meet this person for some time (maybe months) but you consider yourself ‘off the market’ and happy in a relationship.

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1 minute ago, James121 said:

Serious as in, it’s unlikely you are actually going to see meet this person for some time (maybe months) but you consider yourself ‘off the market’ and happy in a relationship.

That's fine with me if you're actively working towards something. Doesn't mean distance isn't hard, but it's ok with me. And yes I'd consider myself "off the market" for sure. I don't know how I could have that level of close emotional involvement with someone and be like, nah I'm still single.

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Philip027
50 minutes ago, James121 said:

Serious as in, it’s unlikely you are actually going to see meet this person for some time (maybe months) but you consider yourself ‘off the market’ and happy in a relationship.

Oh, if that's all you meant, then yeah, that was easy for me.  Aside from my mom and my spouse, nearly all of the people closest to me are people I've never physically met.  I'm very used to this, and it doesn't bother me.

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