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Crush or Squish?? Confusionnnn


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ok so I've been close friends with this guy for about a year and a half but I've known him for three and recently I started becoming more comfortable around him and text him often. I find myself waiting for his replies, checking my phone every minute. We both play in a school orchestra together so I see him everyday basically and we hang out during weekends sometimes with our entire group of friends. He has a beautiful deep voice when he sings and although he's not that good and neither am I, I find myself wanting to sing with him and listen to him sing. I don't quite know if I have a crush on him because I don't get butterflies around him and all but I definitely wouldn't mind if we hung out just the two of us (nothing sexual u dirties) and I always wonder what it would be like to have someone (especially him) as my "significant other". Ironically, I'm more nervous around my squish than I am around him and I don't even know her that well. I've been questioning this dilemma for about a month or two now and I decided its time to ask for help. If you could I would sincerely appreciate what you have to say. ❤️ ( i realize how long this is)

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Welcome to AVEN!

 

Unfortunately, I've never had either a Crush or a Squish, so I don't know the difference.
I'm sorry I can't help you.

 

Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake,

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Well the line between squish and crush is different for everyone. Basically, you need to ask yourself what you see yourself doing in a romantic relationship vs. a friendship, and if you would do the things you see yourself doing in a relationship with that guy. If this is confusing, I'll try to clarify.

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Crush: romantic attraction with a little bit of obsession

Squish: Platonic attraction with some obsessesion

 

To me it sounds like a squish since you didn’t mention wanting to date him or any “butterflies”

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When I have a squish I have the deep desire to get to know the person. I tend to be more nervous around them, I'm (just like you) waiting impatiently and with excitement to write back, I want to share my interests and hobbies with them and want them to do the same with me, share my time with them.
To have a crush, butterflies aren't the absolute law. But from my gut feeling I'd say you're squishing hard for the guy. From my experience a squish can be as intense as a crush.
With crushes I fantasized about stuff like holding their hands for a long time and kissing them tenderly- that's where my line starts.
Do you ever thought about doing these things with him? (or other things you find (very) romantic / intimate).

Hope it helps and welcome to AVEN! 🍰

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