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I'm not entirely sure what romantic orientation I am?


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ButterflyBlues

I know this isn't an answer I can find right away, and I'm not a big fan of labels but I just want something to identify myself as right now, if that makes sense? I'm 15 and I've never had a crush. I thought I had a crush in 5th grade but I was talking to my friends today and I just got nervous around them (my not really crush) for a couple of days before I convinced myself that his personality was wrong. I think people are cute, like both girls and guys, but I never want to act on that. I would rather hold hands or cuddle than kiss or go on a date. I thought I might be demiromantic, but I've never really had a crush and am not entirely sure what it's supposed to feel like. 😳 I find myself attracted to characters in books and movies, like I like their personality or appearance? (It's kinda hard to describe over text XD. But I'm not attracted to the actors/actresses themselves, just the characters they portray.

 

Sorry if this doesn't really make any sense, I just kinda needed to vent instead of doing homework. I was hoping someone could explain demiromantic and aromantic a little more to me? And like what romantic feeling are? As I've stated above I know I'm young and that it could change, but it just makes me feel a little less out of place if I find away to describe myself. Sorry for bothering you!

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EmilyElizabeth

Hi, I'm sixteen and have been looking at this stuff for a bit now, so might be able to help. Completely aromantic is when you don't feel romantic attraction for anyone at all whereas I think that demiromantic is when you only feel attraction after a strong emotional bond has been formed, like after you have been friends for a while. I sometimes get really mixed up between crushes and wanting to be friends with someone which is really confusing. Anyway, sorry for the tangent but I hope that this helped a bit and you find the answer you want!

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Just Somebody

Romantic attraction is when someone or something catches your attention for whatever reasons and you desire to get close to them and form a bond and call it only a romantic relationship (which is nothing more than an socio-cultural-historic contract)

 

It appears you feel aesthetic attraction and sensual attraction for people , like you find people pleasant to look at and like contact.

 

After reading this, you should look after fictoromantic,  maybe that's your case,  if not, you're at least ficto-asethetical as you find fictional characters pleasant to look at.

 

Anyway.... if you're one of those that wouldn't bother labeling yourself,  you can go with queer or just pomo-sexual/romantic as umbrella terms .

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Eh...I would look up materials related to the good old-fashioned aromantic label.  I can't give you a label, but that's what you sound like to me.

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I've had very similar experiences to yours (I relate to basically everything you've said except for the sensual attraction). I called myself demiromantic for a little while, but soon realized I was only really going off of theoretical situations instead of actual experience. I later decided the term "quoiromantic" fit better, since it described a sort of ambiguity and lack of clarity in my experiences.

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