Agdistis Posted December 14, 2018 Share Posted December 14, 2018 Hey, I’m new here and all but I need some advice. I’m planning on coming out to my family in a few weeks, about being agender, and some coming out stories would be very motivational for me. Any others out there? Link to post Share on other sites
Koning Posted December 14, 2018 Share Posted December 14, 2018 I haven't come out and I don't plan to come out any time soon, but I have been giving them some indications. When certain discussions are brought up, I might (e.g.) tell them that sex "is not important to me" or I might tell them about the wide spectrum of people and how diverse their experience and perception on sexuality, arousal and romanticism (...) is. By doing this, I can basically unwittingly educate them about people like myself and "prepare" them if I ever intend to tell them. It won't come as much as a shock or as a strong denial by doing this. I know this isn't a motivational story, but it might still be useful. Link to post Share on other sites
alto Posted December 14, 2018 Share Posted December 14, 2018 Don't come out at night. Don't come out in a car. Link to post Share on other sites
no-longer-in-use Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 DO NOT come out: When you and/or (a) member(s) of your family are stressed, tired, in a fight, sad, angry, in a bad mood, etc. In public/around other people. This might cause a seen if your family doesn't take it well. At night. You'll probably all be tired. If you're not mostly ready. It's okay to be a little nervous, it happens to everyone, but if you're completely shaking and really don't want to come out then, don't come out then. You don't want to say later, "I wish I'd waited until I was more ready to come out." If you're not prepared to explain what your identity/ies mean. Your family might not know and expect you to explain. DO come out: When none of the above apply, you feel somewhat ready, you're on decent terms with your family, none of you are in a bad mood, and you're in a private place. Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck! Feel free to debrief here afterwards. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 15, 2018 Share Posted December 15, 2018 Put it from a how you feel perspective. No one can deny how you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
Agdistis Posted December 24, 2018 Author Share Posted December 24, 2018 Thanks everyone! I’ll debrief after, I think I know when I’m going to do it now. Also, Merry Christmas. Link to post Share on other sites
Kimmie. Posted December 24, 2018 Share Posted December 24, 2018 Good luck😃 Link to post Share on other sites
Agdistis Posted December 29, 2018 Author Share Posted December 29, 2018 Ahhhhhhhh!!!!! I did it! I emailed my parents, saying how I feel. I’m to nervous to check for a reply yet but I know they’ll be supportive, I think. (I pretty much spilled my heart out in that email.) Edit: They’re okay! It’s all okay. They’re acting slightly out of the ordinary, but everything is okay. Thanks to all of you for all of your advice/help everyone! 😊 Link to post Share on other sites
Mezzo Forte Posted January 3, 2019 Share Posted January 3, 2019 On December 29, 2018 at 11:46 AM, Agdistis said: Ahhhhhhhh!!!!! I did it! I emailed my parents, saying how I feel. I’m to nervous to check for a reply yet but I know they’ll be supportive, I think. (I pretty much spilled my heart out in that email.) Edit: They’re okay! It’s all okay. They’re acting slightly out of the ordinary, but everything is okay. Thanks to all of you for all of your advice/help everyone! 😊 Congrats on coming out! That can be such an intimidating process, especially when parents are involved, and I'm glad you were able to tell them and have everything be okay! Link to post Share on other sites
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