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daktarishine

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hey yall ive binged on this site since saturday and i couldnt believe how people were describing my life.am 37 together with my husband 10years married 7. basically in a sexless marriage..my husband is wonderful with a heart of gold but i could never reconsile his lack of intrest in sex.weve never had spontaneous,morning,make up sex.when we do ive begged threatened thrown a fit...9 months ago i stopped.i stopped asking pushing begging..and then i noticed how happier he got.and i saw for the first time how hard it was on him...after stumbling on this site i realise hes definitley asexual.my heart goes out to him because it must be hard. for me i feel that moving foward i am not ready or willing to leave.but i want a partner. am not sure how to discuss all this with him but i will have to.. id like a partner in a similar situation but no idea where to begin..he was my first sexual partner so i dont really know myself in such a union. when it gets bad i watch porn which i hate.anyway for taking the time to read this,you have shared in my suffering and i thank you.

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Welcome to AVEN!

 

It sounds like he doesn't know that he's Asexual, so he might as a reflex deny it.
I wish you luck when you broach the topic with him.
Hopefully, you can find a compromise that makes both of you happy.

 

Incidentally, it is a tradition here to welcome new members by offering cake,

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Welcome to AVEN! I wish you two the best of luck. There are a lot of options that don't involve splitting up so hopefully one will work for you! Don't give up hope. 

I brought more cake!

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Welcome😊

Idk can't give you any piece of advice though bc well I am a 19 year old who is asexual...

 

So I hope it all works out for the both of you...😊

 

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You found the right place. Many of us here share in your suffering in ways that go well beyond reading your post...

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